Sex Talk with Lou Podcasts

Tonight my guest Dr. Diana Wiley and I will discuss Sex Addiction - Real or Made Up? This is hugely controversial topic for those of us in the field of sex education and therapy. Dr. Wiley is affiliated with the SEATTLE INSTITUTE for SEX THERAPY, EDUCATION and RESEARCH, www.sextx.com. Dr. Diana's a board certified sex therapist, a clinical sexologist and a Marriage and Family Therapist for 25 years. www.drdianawiley.com

Larry Garland is the President/CEO of Eldorado Trading Company one the adult industry's top distributors which lives by the motto, Only the Best. Think Neiman Marcus of adult distributors. So he has to have his entrepreneurial eyes looking in both directions, at what the consumers are trending to buy and the supply direction of what the manufacturers are developing. We'll talk about Fifty Shades of Grey on niche product purchases, Who he feels makes the best toys, Any restrictions he may have on shipping into countries and in the US. How he chooses a new product line or manufacturer. The growth of the Big Beautiful Women category and much much more.

Pamela McKee entered the world of adult novelty sales thru a Monster.com ad 6 years ago and has been an advocate of safer and better products. A partner in Papaya Toys and representing the technologically advanced MojoWijo she walks her talk. We will discuss the new trends she sees, the benefits for the consuming market, I mean who doesn't want a better sex toy? Papaya vibes as an eco-conscious line of adult toys. We'll also talk about markets that are drastically underserved, those with chronic medical conditions, severely injured military personnel and those couples physically separated. The main reasons they are underserved and what we see as viable solutions ANYONE can put into place.

Guest Dr. Linda De Villers is the author of an awesome new book, Simple Sexy Foods. Take a serious Foodie who also happens to be a PhD Sex Therapist and you've got Simple Sexy Foods. Blending science and cuisine information she playfully and deliciously takes cooking into the bedroom and sex into the kitchen. I mean there is a reason they call meals the seduction dinner. Apparently even Dracula had one. FYI most people will not be intimate with someone they won't dine with. So listen up and you'll hear Simple Sexy ways to use Food create more fun and more passion.

One of the #1 reasons women are online is health information.  My guest will be S. Diane Paget-Dellio BN, RN  Good Clinical Practice (GCP) Auditor.  As an auditor for Clinical Trials she has seen behind the curtain and can help guide you to finding and getting better sexual health information for you and your family.   Why pharmaceuticals can no longer use a placebo in a clinical trial.  Short answer - there is nothing to gauge its efficacy it means nothing.  So you read an article and find the study online, we'll help with that too, then we'll tell  what to look for to follow the money and we'll give you auditor's eyes and ears to determine if the study really helps you.    

Bringing Back The Connection AKA Parents Being Partners again. This show is for all the moms and dads who want to inject some newness, some passion, some woo hoo factor. My guest Ally Loprete walks in the shoes of mom, wife, blending 2 careers and family so she'll be my 'expert' parent asking: How do other Parents Do IT? Where can we get new ideas? Is spontaneous sex EVEN possible now? What does science say about maintaining sexual connection? Single parents and sex? Pregnancy sex, why did Jessica Simpson say those orgasms are sooo amazing?

Entrepreneur Bonnie Gayle co-creator of Sex Butter, a unique organic sexual enhancement product. This is one of the best enhancement products I have seen and had my peri menopausal field researchers test in a long time. For women and men Sex Butter is made with coconut oil, shea butter, cocoa butter, jojoba oil and grape seed, it is paraben-free and hormone-free. Sex Butter isn't just for sensual play, solo or partnered it is also beneficial for your general skin's health. wwww.sexbutter.net sexbutter@gmail.com Bonnie Gayle

Lou welcomes Winston Wilde, Doctorate of Human Sexuality and Licensed Marriage Family Therapist. Dr. Wilde is a Beverly Hills and Palm Springs seasoned prominent sex therapist who specializes in erotic minorities. Translation, he is the go-to therapist for kinky people, modern couples and polyfolk. Those into BDSM/kink and polyamory are all growing communities. There are very different nuances and understandings that a truly kink friendly therapist has to have. We'll discuss those and more, lots more. www.winstonwilde.com P:323-692-9120

Lou welcomes adult toy industry marketing executive Jenny Tse of Icon Brands to discuss the inside story on all that titillates our sensory fancy. Straight from the expert's mouth Jenny and I will discuss this industry's trends, impact on people's sexual function and perceptions of their sexual selves. Which is the best vibe? Do straight men really like anal toys? Who comes up with these ideas and how many make it into production? Where Jenny sees career opportunities for anyone wanting to market intimate adult toys. jenny@iconbrands.com

PART B with Seattle, WA based sex therapist Diana Wiley Ph.D. who is one of my favorite guests. Diana and I will discuss online dating + 40s, red flags in conversation with a date, AARP survey results for sexual satisfaction, current trends in sexuality, why masturbation is healthy, female brain vs male brain and sexual stimulation. Diana is the co-host of Progressive Radio Network’s Wiley & Sage, Sex Love and Laughter. http://www.progressiveradionetwork.com/dr-diana-wiley-billy-sage. www.drdianawiley.com (206) 448-5359

Tonight Los Angeles based Gretchen Kubacky, Psy.D., Health Psychologist, and I will discuss what we as sexuality educators can do for the growing population of those with a chronic health condition. How we can best guide with information and validate their experiences and give this population options, ideas and recommendations so they can be sexual on THEIR terms. We will discuss erasing the idea that if you have a physical health issue it renders you asexual. Couldn’t be further from the truth. www.DrGretchenKubacky.com, 310-625-6083

Seattle, WA based sex therapist Diana Wiley Ph.D. is one of my favorite guests. She will share her 25 + years of Best Ideas, Techniques and Practices couples can use to stay connected, begin a connection or rejuvenate a connection. An expert on AGING & SEXUALITY, Dr. Diana highlights that lust, laughter, and love need to be kept as priorities in order to improve longevity and enhance quality of life as we evolve and mature. Her comment is “Any age is a great age to strip off the sexual "shoulds" - remembering that sex is play, not work!” Now shall we add people are sexual throughout their lives and this population wants information tailor made to their needs? Pregnancy isn’t an issue, flexibility is so they want best options after hip/knee replacement. Diana is the co-host of Progressive Radio Network’s Wiley & Sage, Sex Love and Laughter. http://www.progressiveradionetwork.com/dr-diana-wiley-billy-sage. www.drdianawiley.com (206) 448-5359

My guest will be Monterey, CA based LMFT and D.S.T., Stephen Braveman. A multi-talented sexuality therapist who specializes in a wide variety of psychological and sexual issues. We will start with the heavy stuff and discuss his work with men who are Adults Molested as a Child and his part in Oprah’s final show featuring men who had been sexually abused. We’ll talk about the healing and hope in the PSA “You are Not Alone” from the Monterey Rape Crisis Center. Stephen also specializes in gender and transgender issues and also presents on the Sacred Sexuality/Tantra connection. He is the co-author of CPR for Your Sex Life which is like having a sex therapist’s reference manual in your hands. Divided into the C’s, P’s and R’s it is A Guide and Workbook for Couples to breathe life into a Dead, Dying or Dull Sex Life. www.bravemantherapy.com, stephen@bravemantherapy.com, 831-375-7553

As an advocate for good science to support our overall general health and specifically our sexual health I rely on hand picked scientific professionals to explain to me or discuss with me impacts and or potential sexual function impacts of medical or pharmaceutical products. My twin sister Di (Dede) Paget R.N., B.N. is one of those rare few. She and I will discuss how to determine good science for you and your family, what to be aware of when you read studies, Marcia Angell. M.D.'s book "The Truth About Drug Companies", Ben Goldacre's "Bad Science", and Cochrane Group www.cochrane.org as sources. We will also discuss STD vaccines eg) Gardasil, and why I won't recommend them, Dr. Diane harper head researcher states still the best prevention for cervical cancer is screening AKA the PAP smear not a vaccine.

Imagine being an IRS Revenue Agent for 23 years and discovering your passion is practical Sex Education for people of short stature and with disabilities. That describes Marylou Naccarato. Marylou lives by the credo, "There are those who wait for life to happen and those who make it happen." As a professional woman, mother, and short person Marylou believes everyone is disabled or differently-abled in one way or another. It is a matter of whether your condition is internal or external and regardless we all can have loving intimacy. Marylou and Lou will discuss her workshops, the most common sexuality issues for those with a disability, percentages of disabilities, acceptable terms for little people, the idea and design of her her Personal Activity Lounge, difference between and acquired disability and its impact versus a life long disability and her knowledge that you and you alone are in charge of your sexability. www.high10yourlife.com 818-929-5344

Ray Stubbs becoming a Sexual Shaman has been the evolution of his in depth and varied career as a sexuality educator and trained massage therapist. Ray realized there were many other levels of being able to merge, as one does at orgasm. He speaks of 4 ways to merge one's energy with another: on the physical, spirit, light and or soul planes. He describes the transcendent orgasmic levels of light, spirit and soul orgasms. His practical step-by-step seminars taught on skype worldwide can easily guide one wanting to explore sexual shamanism in the comfort and privacy of their home. sexualshaman.com

Sue Whitaker describes the parallel worlds that exist for entrepreneurs between your personal relationship and how you relate to your business. Her tips for how to fall in love with your business, how to deal proactively and constructively with competitors. The best advice her successful older brother gave her, DWGO - Deal With it and Go On. Check out her show on toginet.com, thebusinesslovemaker.com or suewhitaker.com

Through her show Fertility Forum and her counseling practice Phyllis Martin has stepped in to help guide couples and their relationships through the emotional gauntlet and unknowns of Infertility. Little did she know at 28 she would be part of the epidemic of infertility and become and expert on assisted fertility procedures, egg and sperm donors, adoption options and Child free living options. Through her own experiences she is "I've been in your shoes" counselor that couples can relate to. She is a volunteer at resolve.org an organization of people who have been through fertility issue s and can guide and support those new to infertility. The impact on relationships is profound and we want to do what we both can to keep relationships and people connected through an emotionally tough time.

My guest tonight is Susan Crain Bakos author of The Orgasm Loop Orgasm Loop: The No-Fail Technique for Reaching Orgasm During Sex. As a sex columnist and author of over 20 books on sexuality Susan was well acquainted with Sex Question #1. Women wanting to know how to have an orgasm during intercourse. Susan describes how she linked the three elements crucial for the Orgasm Loop recipe. Blend liberally, Fire Breathing, Contractions of the PC muscle and a martial artist's focus to move energy to one's clitoris. She had over 500 women test her Orgasm Loop process and it worked for 95% of the women.

Lou and Bill will discuss how he combined his Baptist clergy training with sexuality education as a result of his parishioners asking him questions he couldn't answer. In order to be a more effective minister he did his PhD in sexuality education. The importance of being able to see where people are coming from when dealing with a religious - sexuality conflict and the 3 types of sexual value systems. That we are all born sexual and spiritual. Best questions parents can ask themselves when preparing to talk to their children and themselves about sexuality. How to avoid Spiritual Abuse - when religious and sexual acts are disparate.

Lou and Mou discuss how Mou has established her unique therapy practice to address non-typical monogamous sexual lifestyles. How Mou got into this work, how same sex relationships can enhance our sexuality, and enhanced hers, and what she sees most commonly with couples and dealing with sexuality within relationships, and how societal views affect and have affected all of the above. How her musical training and hypnosis training augment the impact of her therapy.

Lou and Dr. Pacik will discuss and describe his new FDA approved study of intravaginal injections of Botox together with progressive dilation under anesthesia to treat vaginismus. Vaginismus is a condition where women are unable to have intercourse without discomfort. This is a relationship and intimacy robbing condition affecting 1 to 7 percent of women worldwide. For many women they spend years being misdiagnosed and receiving wrong therapeutic treatments. Dr. Pacik describes the entire treatment protocol that a patient and her partner would go through in his surgery center. His book When Sex Seems Impossible: Stories of Vaginismus & How You Can Achieve Intimacy details the heartfelt stories of these women and his treatment for them.

Lou and Wendy Strgar, CEO of Good Clean Love, discuss what it actually means to be an organic lubricant. Why and how she started her company. It was from a very personal focus of maintaining intimacy in her marriage and discovering she was allergic to other lubricants that were petrochemically based and contained parabens. How the consumer has to be their own ingredient sleuth. The development of her Aphrodisiac Love Oils and how immediate and important our sense of smell is to our sex lives. Wendy has great 'tell-the-truth' site www.goodcleanlove.com

My guest tonight is Dr. Linda Mona, Licensed Clinical Psychologist who has advocated for the sexual rights and sexual expression of people with disabilities for over 15 years. Dr. Mona and I have done presentations for severely injured soldiers (female & male) on how to have them connect if single, reconnect if partnered and validate their sexual selves apart from their disability. For anyone who may be dealing with, or knows someone who is, the unique sexuality issues associated with disability, PTSD, TBI, or med impacts this is your show.

Dr. Whipple is one of the leading researchers and authors on female sexual pleasure, function and orgasm. Co-author of The G Spot, Science of Orgasm and The Orgasm Answer Book. Lou and Beverly cover her naming the G spot,the wide variety of female orgasms that she wanted to validate, orgasms with spinal cord injury made possible by the vagus nerve that bypasses the spinal column, the complete lack of any published studies to support the G Shot marketed to unsuspecting women

Lou and Dr. Rubinstein of Sarasota Cosmetic Surgery, discuss the #1 reasons women and men undergo cosmetic surgery and how that impacts their sexual enjoyment and experiences. The blending in his practice of Allopathic and Alternative modalities to help a client's body and mind get maximal benefit. Use of anti-aging treatments and bio-identical hormones. The study of energetics when treating clients and how that impacts sexual experiences. The clients he won't treat. When labioplasty and penile augmentation are okay. That after 25 years he is equal parts therapist and physician when interviewing a prospective client. Becoming an informed consumer @ plastic surgery. 1 tip, watch how the office staff acts that is a big indicator of how you'll be looked after.

My guest will be Brynne Zaniboni, a coordinator and presenter for Los Angeles based High School Sex Educator. She is the first line of science based responsible choice information for these students to help prevent unintended pregnancies and STIs. Small classroom interactive presentations with the 'anonymous' questions allow students to get reality-based sex education in an environment that is peer positive and comfortable for them. Free iTunes download after.

Dr. Sherri Tenpenny is respected as one of the country's most knowledgeable and outspoken physicians regarding the impact of vaccines on health. She and Lou will discuss why one does not need Gardasil or Ceravix vaccines to prevent cervical cancer. How nutrition may be a curative solution for breast health. Dr. Tenpenny is an outspoken advocate for free choice in healthcare, including the right to refuse vaccination. As an internationally known speaker, she is highly sought after for her ability to present scientifically sound information regarding vaccination hazard and warnings that are rarely portrayed by conventional medicine. Most importantly, she offers hope through her unique treatments offered at Tenpenny Integrative Medical Center for those who have been vaccine-injured. Dr. Tenpenny is also an expert on women's breast HEALTH and the use of iodine for disease.

Dr. Neil Cannon and I will discuss current media articles and trends in sexual health. Neil Cannon has a Doctorate in Human Sexuality, a Master's in Public Health and a Post Graduate certification in Marriage, family Therapy as well as a Post Graduate Certification on GLBT, Gay, Lesbian, Bi-sexual & Transgender Family systems. Demographics of kink people in US. Current online sexuality articles and what they really are discussing. Who his toughest clients are and why? The similarity Kink and vanilla couples. How a partner can introduce kink to a non-kink partner. Sex toy use introduction ideas. Neil Cannon

Internationally known psychic medium and Spirtual Life Coach Marla Frees helps address one of the most common issues people have, How do they know they are choosing the right one? And are there lessons we need to know from spirit, God, universal source that will guide us in relationships and sex. Today's timely final Oprah show and Oprah's words and lessons that she has learned over 25 years are echoed in Marla's and Lou's discussion. At www.marlafrees.com one can see her segments working with couples and guiding celebrities.

Gauri is a certified Yoga/fitness instructor and 3rd generation Indian woman yoga practioner. She has created a custom designed integration of yoga and other health modalities to better assist and guide her clients. Her self directed study BA from DePaul further expanded her mind body focus leading to her being class valedictorian. www.gauribrienda.com. She and Lou define tantra vs yoga and they discuss yoga breathing to enhance orgasm, ways to release blocked energy in the pelvis. Different types of yoga and which style can enhance your sexual experience. Why Lou thinks Bikram/heated yoga is a joke. Exercises to help couples feel more connected. Step by step 3-4 minute way to use yoga breathing to center and bring yoga's benefits at any time of the day.

As the host of Military Moms Sandra and Lou look at what does and doesn't work to keep partners connected Pre-deployment, during and equally important post deployment. The military takes a huge toll on relationships. Tip no cheesy photos and know nothing they open is private. That some of the online ideas aren't what the male soldiers want it is what their wives 'think' they want. Soldiers who are mothers have a double edged impact of how cold you leave your children? Post deployment watch for undiagnosed PTSD. Educate yourself about what to look for.

Fellow toginet host Lisa Kamen and Lou talk about how to make yourself magnetic in relationships and sex through the flow concept of happiness. As a psychologist Lisa incorporates How to create mindful happiness and use it to be more productive. Lisa also uses her custom created program "Happiness is an Inside Job" with returning warriors to help them deal with PTSD. How being grateful can create more happiness. Calmness as the key your in flow.

Lou is joined by Dr. Ron Levine, a clinical psychologist, ordained rabbi and sex therapist. Dr. Levine explains that in the Torah, The Old Testament there are THREE purposes for god commanding and giving people the blessed gift of Sexuality, 1) Procreation, 2) Connection and 3) Pleasure. Many religions have dropped the last two and we know there is often a polarizing of one's understanding of their faith and one's understanding of their sexuality and there need not be. Covered his other area of expertise Talking to Kids about their body education and their sexual education.

As a LCSW working with abused children Al Killen-Harvey saw one segment of this poulation was GLBT youth at risk while going through the coming out process. maybe bullied or sexually risking while experimenting. Lou and Al discuss ways educators and general population can become more aware and better mentors as GLBT youth and others approach their coming out. #1 way assume everyone is dealing with this process and that it has to happen on their timetable not that of a well meaning other. Excellent resources are :Trevor Project www.thetrevorproject.org and Family Acceptance Project, http://familyproject.sfsu.edu/ and PFLAG.org. Contact for Al - akillen-harvey@cox.net

Lou interviews Jacqui Brandwynne an internationally known entrepreneur and creator of Very Private Intimate Moisture, an FDA approved moisturizing vaginal lubricant. The moisturizing component was the break through as most sex lubricant products just sat on the top of the skin. As a female consumer products consultant Jacqui saw a huge need for a safe, non-irritating vaginal lubricant for women of all ages who suffered from vaginal dryness and wanted to continue satisfying and enjoyable sex. Her story of how she developed the line, best ways to use lubricants and what women and men need to know to choose safe sexual lubricants.

Dr. Eli Coleman, a colleague and icon in the field of sexual health discusses definitions of impulsive compulsive sexual behavior vs sexual addiction, sexual identity, transgender vs transsexual, and WPATH. The current crucial importance and purpose of endowed educational chairs in academia to support faculty positions of sexual health. The Chair at U of Minnesota and the fund raising for second Chair, The Joycelyn Elders Chair in Sexual Health Education.

Lou and Dr. Stuart Shipko talk about how psychiatric meds are interrupting not only people's sexual health but their relationship health as well. Lou refers to them as the smoking gun we aren't looking at. Why Dr.s don't talk about the sexual function aspect and the permanent nature of their impacts. What one can possibly do? Anatomy of an Epidemic Robert Whitaker, FDA reporting,paxilprogress.org Libido Lost on sexsmartfilms.com, Dr. Stuart Shipko Pasadena, CA PSSD yahoo group

Lou and Berta discuss how the style of parenting can have a huge impact on a couples sex life. Dr. Davis talks about her time in Japan and how the Asian mother's focus is the child and maintaining a physical bond. The impact of having a child enter a relationship and the isolation many men feel. What some of her most difficult cases are and how she assists her clients. Her retreat center www.mexicovillamilagro.com (House of Miracles) where she holds professional and couple focused retreats. www.bertadavis.com

Lou and Robert discuss what aphrodisiacs actually are and how specialized they actually are. We discuss his documentary film on the sexual revolutionary Xaviera Hollander and his other film Beyond Vanilla and the increase of Kink sexual play. We finish with a review of two OTC sexual enhancement products and if there is any science for their inclusion, Virile and Women's Extenze were reviewed.

Lou And Dr. Diana share what are their best sex tips and ideas to help couples rekindle the flame. Be they 22 or 72 couples many times have similar issues, desire differences, erectile issues and often not making their relationship a priority. What Diana and Lou see are the trends in sexual health and what the field of sexual therapy is doing to address new areas.

Lou and Hernando discuss Hernando's new perspective as a young therapist building his practice. The unique cultural aspects he can address as a bilingual straight latin male. His education at the Institute in San Francisco. Also discuss the growing problem of pharma impacts on sexual function in young adults under 30.

Lou talks with sexsmartfilms.com founder Mark Schoen. He has preserved, archived and showcases films addressing sexual health issues all with a focus to promote Sexual Literacy. The 300+ films in over 34 different categories all have a common theme, providing accurate sex information. There is content appropriate for all age groups. Subject, age group and content are used to categorize the films.

Val Ramsey is an inspiration and role model for any woman. When mot women are ready to slow down after children leave in her mid-50s Val instead started two new careers simultaneously, runway and print modeling and running PR for Pebble Beach golf course. Her book Gracefully, looking and Being Your Best at Any Age shares her best kept secrets on how to live, love and feel your best. Val's attitude is a charming breath of fresh air.

Doug Braun-Harvey and his colleague Michael Vigorito discuss the hot potato of defining and describing sexual addiction. Does it truly exist and what is it. The trouble is people are being diagnosed by the media not a competent trained professional. Dr. Drew's reality shows are train wrecks waiting to happen they aren't therapy. OCSB out of control sexual behavior. The connection of substance addiction relapse and sexual behavior.

Lou and Winston discuss erotic minority people, kink, BDSM, fetishists and what really defines them and when we discuss sexual health must include all sexual expressions. Most common fantasies, old kink guard vs new kink guard. Kink power exchange. Educating about kink and kink play very deliberate. Kink world can teach the vanilla world TONS about communicating EXACTLY what one wants and how they want to feel. National Coalition Sexual Freedom

Lou and Lori discuss her toughest sex therapy clients and how her work as an AASECT sex therapist has evolved into seminars and workshops to support people finding and communicating the love and passion they want. Lori describes her work with instructional sex therapy films she has been a consultant for. Lori loves to work with couples and finds tremendous satisfaction in knowing she's helped them heal and grow. drloribuckley.com

Lou and Patti discuss how she and her partner Dr. Robert Dunlap came to create their online Sex Coach U. Given Patti's MPH and her strong background in life coaching she realized that many sexual issues people wanted to address really didn't need therapy they were more coachable life issues. Add to it that the majority of traditional therapists have little to no sexual health, function or pleasure training people weren't getting what they needed.