Love. Small word. BIG deal. Love makes this Woohoo Woman tick. Love for my husband, love for my parents, love for my work, love for life, love for my cats, love for The Wee One.
Sometimes the best form of love is the love we have FOR self. It’s also the trickiest because we always know a million reasons why we’re NOT lovable. And we often forget the many reasons we ARE.
This week on Woohoo Radio, we’ll be joined by my AMAZING friend Sherri Nickols who rocked my world over lunch last week when she revealed how love is transforming her life and the lives of everyone around her.
Sherri is the author of a brand spankin’ new book Sexy & Sparkling After 40: 7 Steps to Revitalize Your Radiance & Create Romantic Adventure in Your Life!

She’s also on a mission to redefine what love looks and feels like. And it has to do with another 4 letter word we often overlook: G-I-V-E.
In her own words, here’s what Sherri has to say about loving from a giving space…
From Gandhi to God it’s been said giving is one of the greatest components of love. The more you give, the more your world will become a dazzling place to live. Giving from the heart without any underlying motivation will ignite your diamond power and light you up from the inside out. Sparkling radiance, here you come!
The emphasis is on not having an agenda. If you are giving to get, it’s likely your results will be disappointing….The irony is that giving from your heart is the best investment you can make. There are no dividends anywhere in the world like it. You will always get back far more than you’ve given and you will always feel expanded and blissful.
Think how you feel when someone has given you something out of the goodness of his or her heart. Whether it’s a gift, an act of kindness, emotional support, or their time, aren’t you inspired to give back? It’s human nature to mirror so start creating a reflection of giving. Give your gifts and talents freely to loved ones, friends, cohorts, strangers, and the world. Stop hiding your light! Give what you can to others both emotionally and financially and you will start to see those protective walls that keep you small and separate start to crumble. You will feel so good about yourself you will glow with happiness, becoming irresistible.
One of the listeners of my weekly radio program, Mila, sent me an email I will always treasure. This beautiful woman from Sweden had tuned into my Valentine’s Day call, which was full of ideas for sparking romance in your relationship. After listening she decided to write her husband a letter acknowledging everything she appreciated and adored about him (Romance-Capade #3, Love Letter, on page 222). While he was in the shower she snuck in and wrote a passionate message including kisses on the mirror in red lipstick and then framed it with some sexy stickers. She placed her love letter beneath the message and slipped out before he was done. When he got out of the shower he was blown away by her surprise.
When he came out for dinner he was a different man. Normally on the quiet side, he was suddenly Mr. Jovial, talkative and responsive. He opened up to her in ways he never had before. She knew it was all due to the love letter, which had given him the gift of her true admiration of what she really loved and enjoyed about him. By opening up she created a space for him to open. Writing the letter made her feel a bit vulnerable because there is always that little voice saying, “what will he think?” or “will I be rejected?” But she was okay with those reservations, because more than anything she wanted to give him the gift of knowing the love that she felt for him. As for her husband, receiving this gift in the form of a letter gave him the luxury of reading and reveling in her love over and over again. Needless to say, he was overjoyed.
I love this story because in the end, her vulnerability proved to be her strength. How many times have you held back expressing your heartfelt feelings to your loved ones because of a fear that you’ll be rejected or it won't be received the way you hoped it would? Yet when you hold back you’re actually giving power to your limitations and allowing your head to overrule your heart. You start thinking what the payoff will be for you to express your love; will you get anything in return?
This is what you want to get away from—step out of your comfort zone and express love without any expectations of what you’ll get back…The beauty of this type of giving is that it naturally creates a flow that's going to bring you the love you want in return without you trying to control it. Can you feel the difference? Approaching any relationship, including the relationship you have with yourself, with what you can give rather than what you can get allows the truth to emerge and come forth.
There are a lot of ways to give love—don’t make this hard! You can make your man his favorite meal, tell your friend how much you appreciate her friendship, offer your time and services, give your mom a hug for no reason and tell her you love her, provide your sister a shoulder to cry on and be a good listener, hold the elevator, open the door for somebody pregnant or disabled, put money in the meter for a stranger without them knowing, pay the toll for the car behind you—the list is endless. There are a million little ways to show love. These acts of kindness are really just ways of paying it forward. They will be repaid at some point—karma is exact— you don't need to figure out when or where or how. You just need to give with no expectation, from a place of willingness and a desire to be a generous spirit.
If you’re ready to reclaim your sparkle and create a Love brand that both gives AND receives, don’t miss this week’s show! And be sure to follow Sherri on Facebook and on Twitter.
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