Lou Paget is an AASECT* Certified Sex Educator, an international best selling author and entrepreneur of five books, translated into 28 languages, represented in over 60 countries with over 3 million copies sold. Paget is an in-demand international speaker, presenter and sought after multi-media expert with countless TV appearances, her work has also been the focus of shows like HBO's ‘Real Sex', C4's ‘Sex Tips for Girls' and WE's ‘Making Love Happen with Lou Paget'. * American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists

By blending her vast general knowledge of all things sexual with her hard sciences background she delivers with her trademark calm fearless intelligence a clearer, more demystified body of information used equally by the general population and her peers in the fields of sexuality. Her brand is known for delivering information about sexuality and relationship sans the sleaze factor while retaining all of the accuracy, fun and the "You're kidding!!" factor. Techniques and Tips are her specialty, she delivers bite-sized chunks of information you can use right away, that work!

Sexual Health is a major focus of her professional mission, she was one of 13 members of the National Advisory Council convened by the 16th US Surgeon General Dr. David Satcher, she is on The Leadership Council of the First Endowed Chair for Human Sexuality at the University of Minnesota Medical school and is a continuing expert to numerous blogs and a Redbook Love Network expert.

BA General Studies concentration hard Sciences. www.loupaget.com

5.16.12

Dede Paget

Stories from the Real World - re-entering the dating world - Anecdotal Examples

Rather than just say"Do x, try y I want to give people concrete examples of what are great behaviors you need to put on your radar to ease you into a new social life and the next part of your life.                        
When relationships end one goes through a mourning period and then at some point one lifts their head and looks at" Okay I want to get back out in the dating world.

1) How important do you think the 'THE LIST" is?  What needs to be on it?  What doesn't?    Draft two lists one about them and one about you. Importance of cleanliness!!!

2) What are the mistakes you have watched your girlfriends and male friends make when looking for a partner. 
Maria - anger
Diane - weight and inappropriate attachment
Hanging out with angry other women
Making it be all about them
Working too hard - I can do it all - message of I don't need anyone
I'll pay for myself - need to create a space for a partner to show up

3)  Do you think people's 'pickers' get better with age or do they keep choosing the same person/

4)  Do they need a vibrational tune-up?  You know have them looking for what they want NOT what they don't want.
After menopause For some women the person they fall in love with is another woman and that stuns them

5)  Importance of presentation - Dating doctors,  Should you wax? no bruised fruit

6)  What are the most important behaviors to look for?   Did you ever ignore warning signs?   I sure did.

7)  What is the best gift someone could give you?  Why?

8) What are the different issues a woman deals with when dating a man is 50 + and how to handle these issues?  ED  libido loss, stress, Kendra describes having sex with a guy on viagra like being with a battering ram and NOT in a good way.   Your body has changed may need more stimulation / lubricant.  You don't use it you'll lose it  

This is about communication !!  


9)  Heard a great way to have a man who watches porn keep himself connected to his partner and that is to fantasize about her, or use memories of her so when you orgasm the reward circuitry in your brain downloads about her and not the image on the screen. 


10)  Protection is key when dating.

Chicken or the Egg??? Is your sex life damaging your relationship or is your relationship hurting your sex life?  Dr. Lori Buckley (www.drloribuckley.com) of the Center for Relationship, Marriage & Sex Therapy and I will look at the two main sources of sex and intimacy issues.  What we see are the best ways for an individual or a couple to untangle their issues and have the love life and sex life they want and deserve.  We both know that when people hear what others are dealing with it invariably validates, reduces their shame or stress about that issue and has them then see how others are put in the power position to create solutions that work for them as individuals. 

G Spot Found  - Ostrzenski
http://www.kxly.com/health/G-spot-found-Now-maybe-we-should-lose-it/-/101030/11811088/-/x7jknw/-/index.html
http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1743-6109.2012.02668.x/abstract -
http://articles.latimes.com/2012/apr/25/health/la-he-g-spot-20120425
http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-504763_162-57420949-10391704/scientist-claims-discovery-of-g-spot-structure-other-experts-unconvinced/

Sex Diaries Project - what I like about this is it speaks to our Chicken and The Egg conundrum that we have with sex being a problem or the relationship is a problem.  Rather this addresses that there are soooo many other shades of gray ( not the book  :-}}) that are relationship and sexual realities.
http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2012/01/27/the-sex-diaries-project-what-1-500-bedroom-diaries-can-teach-us-about-sex.html

We could also talk about Michael Metz and Barry McCarthy and their concept of 'Good Enough" sex.

Make-up sexlike cocaine - Huffington Post
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/emma-gray/make-up-sex-is-like-cocaine-addiction-clinical-psychologist-seth-meyers-psychology-today_b_1500331.html?ref=women&ir=Women

Lori Buckley

couples sex therapy

G Spot

Sex Diaries Project

Good enough sex

Lou Paget

Makeup sex

Tonight as I have a major speaking event I will rerun my conversation of a year ago April 27/2011 with Dr. Ron Levine.  Dr. Levine is a practicing clinical psychologist in Van Nuys California and an ordained Rabbi.  We will be discussing how faith based philosophies are more aligned with healthy sexual education than most people understand.  What the Song of Songs tells us.  That our sexuality is a blessed gift from God.  The myth that if you give children age appropriate sex education they'll go out and do it. 

torah, sex education, Song of Songs, congugal rights, creation stories, sex in the image of god, Dr. Ron Levine, sex therapy, body education, sexual desire, Lou Paget

Dr. Diana Wiley and I will discuss Sex Addiction - Real or Made Up?  This is hugely controversial topic for those of us in the field of sex education and therapy.  Dr. Wiley is affiliated with the SEATTLE INSTITUTE for SEX THERAPY, EDUCATION and RESEARCH, www.sextx.com.  Diana's a board certified sex therapist, a clinical sexologist and a Marriage and Family Therapist for 25 years. 
www.dianawiley.com

Larry Garland President/CEO Eldorado

http://www.facebook.com/EldoradoTradingCompany

Larry Garland is the President/CEO of Eldorado Trading Company one the adult industry's top distributors which lives by the motto, Only the Best.  Think Neiman Marcus of adult distributors.  So he has to have his entrepreneurial eyes looking in both directions, at what the consumers are trending to buy and the supply direction of what the manufacturers are developing. We'll talk about Fifty Shades of Grey on niche product purchases, Who he feels makes the best toys, Any restrictions he may have on shipping into countries and in the US - Comstock Laws.   How he chooses a new product line or manufacturer.  The growth of the Big Beautiful Women category and much much more.   www.eldorado.net

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