Lissa Rankin M.D. has a huge mission - Helping to Heal the Healers - sharing Mind Over Medicine - Scientific Proof We Can Heal Ourselves' ground breaking collection of information and scientific facts to the people we go to for health care - M.D.s, physicians, all healthcare providers.  Putting back into their minds and hands information that will make them be the healers they went into healthcare to become.    

People….Love your loved ones? Love life?  Love yourself? Then people READ this book it will put you in the driver's seat about keeping you and your loved ones alive longer and in better shape because of things the medical world never told you.  In Mind Over Medicine; Scientific Proof That You Can Heal Yourself Lissa Rankin M.D. delivers clear, oftimes LOL user-friendly science based explanations and suggestions on how you can have the body and health you want, how to heal yourself and help your loved ones do the same.

In Mind Over Medicine Dr. Lissa adresses the power we have by our thoughts to Heal Ourselves.  Why we have to Change Health Care, How Friendship Can save your life, Go to Church live 14 Years Longer, Lonliness is the killer.  Why Your Inner Pilot Light is SO important.

Knowing what she does lucky me!!!! Dr. Lissa is my guest tonight May 15th 6-7 PM PDT.   I CANNOT wait to pick her brilliant mind on how I can now and in the future when needed heal myself and download her information to help my loved ones and others. Call in live during the show 877-864-4869 or http://toginet.com/chat/.

Lissarankin.com

Mindovermedicinebook.com

7/11/13

Each Monday morning, Rick Davis who coordinates my social media, look at what is my weekly Theme.  This week was Seeking / Searching.  Then I started looking at all the people and events in my field that have Inspired Me because people often ask me "What inspired you to work in sexuality?'  Answer - the people who told me how my work had impacted them and their relationships.

I am so so inspired by heart and passion.  By people who don't hear "No, Can't Happen, Who do You Think You Are?" when their heart's voice says Keep going you're right.  I am inspired by my colleagues who keep me accountable.  My peers who have come form very disparate backgrounds to create new ground breaking toys and products that have contributed to people's sexual connection and pleasure.  Tom Stewart - Sportsheets, Tiffany York of MyFixsation, Etahn Imboden of Jimmy Jane, Jackie Brandwynne of Very Private Inc, Tony Levine of Big Teaze Toys, Bruce and melody Murison of Standard Innovatons taht created the first couple's vibe the We-Vibe.    From a former marine to industrial designer to consumer products guru to electrical engineer none of these people started in the area of sex enhancing products yet their inspirations were tied to them not finding what they wanted and needed. 

I am very inspired by people who have the strength to standup even when their beliefs aren't popular.  Greg Paulk who rescinded his Ex-gay Reparative Therapy stance, Matt Moore who shared he knows it's impossible to change yourself and still struggles with blending his faith and not acting on his homosexual attractions, Brain McNaught the Godfather of Gay Sensitivity who is known worldwide for his Corporate Diversity Trainings.  Dr. David Satcher who would not back down on his Surgeon-General's Call to Action on Sexuality under the sexaully repressive politics of the Bush Jr White House. 

In closing I am inspired by the Elizabeth Smart's John Hopkins presentation this week was so powerfully highlighted that comprehensive sexual education is needed.  This is one very strong, brave young woman. 
http://fox13now.com/2013/05/06/video-elizabeth-smart-speaks-at-johns-hopkins-university/ 

An article earlier this week about the former poster boy for Reparative Therapy Ex-gay Leader John Paulk reversing his stand on this therapy spurred me to ask my terrific colleague Dr. Winston Wilde to shine a light on Reparative Therapy.  Especially in light of a California Bill SB-1172 Sexual Orientation Change efforts.  This bill was signed by Gov. Brown September 30, 2012 and point 865.1 specifically states it is not to be administered to anyone under 18.  

Then the day of this interview Matt Moore referred to as the ex-gay Christian Blogger was exposed to have been on the gay dating site Grindr.

Dr. Wilde feels it s important for our professional peers to create a policy statement about this form of therapy.  What is it?  Does it actually work?  What is the science behind it?  Are trained professionals doing this?  Why wouldn't Michelle Bachmann and her husband talk about their use of it during her Presidential campaign?

WInston WIlde - 1999 Doctor of Human Sexuality: Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, San Francisco. 1997 Masters in Clinical Psychology: Antioch University Los Angeles. 1995 Bachelors in Liberal Arts: Antioch University Los Angeles.   Specialization - Sexual, Erotic and Gender Minorities.

Wilde has lectured on diverse topics as Love, Evolutionary Sexology, Male Circumcision, and Psychotherapy with Erotic Minority Persons across America and in Canada, Mexico, Puerto Rico, Cuba, India and Nepal.

Co-founder The Desert Center for Sexuality Awareness, Rancho Mirage CA.  desertsexcenter.com

www.winstonwilde.com  docwilde@verizon.net

The recent Dove ad creative showing women's preception of their appeal and attractiveness had me decide to replay this segment with Dr. Linda Mona.  The DOVE ad women had no obvious body impairments yet described themselves as less appealing than a total stranger would.

So what can we learn from people with disabilities and body image?

Dr.Linda Mona is a cherished colleague in our mutual field of sexual health.  Truly she is my go-to person about sexuality and disability.  From panels and hands on breakout sessions for severly injured OEF and OIF soldiers to Disability Conferences to "LInda what's new ?' Linda is my go-to girl.

So let's jump into what is the definition of a disability: can be a range of things from someone with a bad hip, to chronic arthritis issues, sight impairments, respiratory issues, mobility issues they are all a part of reduced physical function HOWEVER that in no way means that one needs to have reduced sexual function. 

Advocating for the sexual rights and expression of people with disabilities has been the primary focus of Dr. Linda R. Mona’s career. She has worked in a variety of professional settings addressing the need for a deeper understanding of the sexual lives of people with disabilities. Specifically, she has assisted with increasing appropriate educational and clinical services available to people with disabilities seeking knowledge about ways of enhancing their sexual satisfaction.

Infusing notions about disability into diversity education and training has also been one of Dr. Mona's career passions. She has worked on challenging traditional medical notions of disability and reframing this life experience from a multicultural lens to further understand the unique experience people with disabilities bring to any work and social context. Much of Dr. Mona’s work has been fueled by her own personal experience living with a disability and her understanding of the positive effects and the societal obstacles faced living with this diverse life experience.  In fact, Dr. Mona was selected as one of the 2009 Working Mother's of the Year by Working Mother Magazine---an award not typically granted to a working mother with a disability. She attributes this accomplishment much to the changing views of disability as a rich diverse life experience.

Linda R. Mona Ph.D. is a state of California Licensed Clinical Psychologist.

(310) 714-6221     info@drlindamona.com

Two world class sexuality experts dish on male sexuality and trends.  Join me and my guest Dr. Trina Read this Wednesday, April 17th and you'll get to be a fly on the wall and if you've got your own questions call in/online and you'll get our undivided attention. 

Dr. Trina and I will look at male sexuality? Specifically to debunk some of the hyths about it:
(1)     The myths of impotence
(2)     The revolution in testosterone therapy
(3)     Why men fake it
(4)     Why men have an undeserved reputation for being selfish and uncaring in bed

...and THAT is just the start Gentle Listeners.

BIO Dr. Trina Read

Media expert, best selling author, sex coach, international speaker, spokeswoman, newspaper and magazine columnist, Sexologist, Dr. Trina Read’s mission is to show couples how to have fun and meaningful sex.    Dr. Trina devotes her writing time to her numerous websites, many women’s magazines, and syndicated mommy sex blog. Her books include, Till Sex Do Us Part: Make Your Married Sex Irresistible; as well as, Everything You Wanted to Know About Sex: Volumes I, II & III.

Founder VivaXO.com & Eat Drink Love, CBC Relationship Columnist,
http://VivaXO.com
Follow me on Twitter at: http://twitter.com/DrTrinaRead

About The Killer Wore Leather:
Cormac “Mack” Steel, Mr Global Leather, has been murdered at this year’s BDSM/fetish weekend in New York City. He was found dead on the floor of his Manhattan suite wearing only a pair of frilly, yellow panties. And the suspects who could have killed him number in the thousands. Detective Rebecca Feldblum has worked murder cases before, but none quite so exotic as this one. Suddenly trapped in a world of leather and latex, masters and slaves, pups and trainers, Rebecca has only a weekend to find who killed Mack Steel—and although she doesn’t know it, she’ll discover more about the kink underworld, and herself, than she could ever anticipate. A deliciously tongue-in-cheek murder mystery, The Killer Wore Leather is a strapping invitation for readers to join Rebecca as she explores the private, erotic world of BDSM personalities and leather kinks in search of a murderer. With biting humor and keen insight, popular erotica author Laura Antoniou creates the kinkiest game of Clue worth playing.

About the Author:
Laura Antoniou authored the well-known Marketplace series of erotic novels. She has also edited the groundbreaking Leatherwomen anthologies, and writes scholarly work on BDSM. In 2011, Antoniou won the Lifetime Achievement Award from the National Leather Association. Her work has been translated into Spanish, German, Hebrew, Japanese and Korean. With over 20 years of experience writing, teaching, and speaking about kinky sex communities, Antoniou has sold over 600,000 books and counting. She resides in Queens, New York.“The Killer Wore Leather comes just in the nick of time for me.

Fifty Shades of Grey stopped being funny around page 34, so thank you, Laura, for giving me something that’s supposed to make me laugh!”
—Kate Kingsley, author of Red

Tonight I'm going to use a powerful Success Series that I have used with terrific results in my life and use it as a template for increasing the Success in People's Sex lives.  I know only too well that a person's behavior is often the same in the boardroom as in the bedroom. The simplicity of these ideas and suggestions belies how powerfully they can cahnge your life, attract the love and success you want and do so more quickly than you ccould imagine. 

Every wondered why one person does it for you and another doesn't?  Why you chose your Valentines?  The Chemistry Between Us attempts to do what no other book has done: present a grand unified theory of how love, sex, and human social bonding is created in our brains, how that creation drives our behavior, and to place these mechanisms into social, historical and even political contexts.

Provocative, opinionated, and written with humor and insight for the lay reader, The Chemistry Between Us offers answers to some of the most tumultuous, joyous, heart-breaking, questions every one of us faces at some time in our lives, and asks us to consider the broader social impact of molecular events in our heads.

What makes two people, strangers before meeting for the first time, conclude that they not only would like to, but must, spend the rest of their lives together? What could happen inside the brain of a sober, responsible, married man, a federal judge, to enable him to carry a loaded pistol while buying drugs for his stripper paramour? How could male violence relate to the brain chemistry of love? Why would a young woman, happily committed to her boyfriend, flirt with a jerk?

What can the story of a young adoptee tell us about our current culture of parenting? What drives a mother to behave like a mother, and what does that have to do with human romantic love? How are grown men like babies? (Besides the whole whiny-with-the-flu thing.) What can we learn from rats that refuse to have sex unless they're wearing leather? What's the relationship between sexual fetish and love, and drug addiction and love?

What is gender? Do brains have a gender? How can some people be attracted to others of the same sex? What causes a person with all the body parts of a man to insist he's a woman? Or a bodily female person to insist she's a man?

Readers on the left and the right, people of all faiths, sexual orientations, and relationship status, are bound to find elements of The Chemistry Between Us that they'll object to fiercely, only to read on and find something to applaud. At the very least, readers will be fascinated, and likely to find themselves asking some serious, and some not-so-serious, questions about the world we're making and how that world might be affecting the very nature of human relationships.

We have tons of material, research and awareness about the Female G Spot and finally the Male G Spot is getting its spotlight.  The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure - finally a plain speaking, solid sex education book for Prostate Pleasure.  As two top Sex Educators, Charlie Glickman PhD and Aislinn Emirzian have put together an easy reading book on a subject that is equal parts prostate health and powerful sexual pleasure. Charlie, Aislinn and I will debunk myths, (You are not secretly gay if you like this type of pleasure!!!) and answer the most commonly asked 'wrong' questions and deliver for women and men the potential of Prostate Pleasure.   

Men are more aware of their need for a PSA test yet few are aware that Prostate health and pleasure are closely aligned.  The Bend Over Boyfriend video series opened a new awareness that straight men enjoy penetrative play with their female partners. I know the sales numbers of hetero strap-on products with just one company were astronomical!!!

Charlie can be found at http://www.charlieglickman.com and Aislinn , www.aislinnemirzian.com.

Charlie Glickman PhD has been a sexuality educator for over twenty years. He teaches workshops on a wide range of topics, including sex-positivity, sex & shame, gender & masculinity, sexual orientation, communities of erotic affiliation, and many sexual practices such as prostate play, anal sex, pegging, sex toys, BDSM, and polyamory. Charlie is certified as a sexuality educator by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists and he regularly presents at conferences and community events, offers trainings on sexuality for medical professionals, therapists, and clergy.

Charlie is available for speaking engagements, in-service trainings, and workshops. You can find more information about him on his website.

Aislinn Emirzian is a workshop instructor and sex coach based in San  Francisco. She first became a sex educator at Smith College, and later worked with sex positive adult toy stores like Oh My  Sensuality Shop in Massachusetts and Good Vibrations in California. Over the years, she has taught workshops on a wide range   of topics, but prostate  pleasure is her favorite! Find her at www.aislinnemirzian.com.

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Charlie Glickman & Aislinn Emirzian                        1.16.2013

Sextalkwithlou toginet.com

6-7 PM

1)   What was your impetus to write this book?

2)   As fellow sex educators I know only too well this is an area of men’s anatomy that is little studied and understood.    Are there any researchers  focusing on this?  Physiologically – pelvic hypogastric vs pudendal nerve stim?   What did Beverly Whipple have to add?

3)    I really like the conversational tone of your book,  whose idea was that and why?

4)   How did you pitch this to Cleis Press your publisher?  Was it Felice Newman? 

5)   You did two different surveys of men and their partners who enjoyed this type of play.  How did you find them?  

6)   This is a type of play that all sexual identities can enjoy should they venture to do so.    What % of people would you guess have explored this?   I use the women with male partners and anal sex as a starting point for this question.  Many women have done it once and once only as it was done badly.  Most people get very poor. Translation porn shove in one shove into the other visuals that are flat out wrong.   Glad to read the , Stop if he says stop. 

7)   Hence kudos to you as I think this will be the “go-to” handbook for couples and men who want to learn about this and their bodies.

8)   Page 14 the survey participants anecdotal descriptions sounds almost exactly like woman about G spot stim.    Great comparison list on page 45.

9)   I Can you outline a Beginner Program for someone, couples curious and totally new

10)                   Who do you feel the books demos will be? 

11)                   I was at ANME last week and specifically looked for male Prostate toys, new and convertible from female toys. 

12)                   I know sales of strap-ons has gone through the ceiling in the last year.  Part may be 50 Shades but I think the Bend Over Boyfriend videos were the first water over the dam so to speak.   Your thoughts?

13)                    I know some men discovered this masturbating and or with a vibe yet were leery to share with a female partner, I loved your  Chapter 1 FAQs

14)                    Any surprises while you were researching this book?

15)                    Your diagrams particularly about the various styles of finger stim were terrific.  The stroke not poke did make me laugh

16)                    Rachel Maines is such a gem as an historical sexologist, LOVED the analogous prostate massage to the vulvar massages of the 1920s can you explain more about this.

17)                    The health aspects are in my mind going to be huge.  Whether we look at the energetic release or the stagnation to men being more comfortable with their bodies this is a pivotal area of sexual knowledge.

18)                   Anything else at the moment….

My guest is a long time colleague and friend.  Dr. Chris Kraft and I are currently on the Leadership Council for Program in Human Sexuality at U of Minnesota.   Chris is a licensed psychologist and AASECT certified sex therapist specially trained to achieve pragmatic and solution-oriented results for couples and individuals. His goal is to improve each person's happiness as it relates to their sexual intimacy, expression and identity.

Dr. Kraft specializes in the evaluation and treatment of all sexual and gender conditions: low sexual desire, erection, orgasm and arousal difficulties, genital pain conditions, sexual addiction and compulsivity, internet pornography, marital infidelity, sexual orientation, cross dressing, gender concerns, and other unique fetishes and sexual attractions.

Dr. Kraft is the co director of clinical services and instructor at the Sexual Behaviors Consultation Unit in the Department of Psychiatry at the Johns Hopkins School of Medicine.  Dr. Kraft is also a part-time Lecturer in the Psychological and Brain Sciences Department at the Johns Hopkins University where he teaches two human sexuality courses.

So we're going to look at what he sees from a therapist's standpoint is new in sexual compulsivity, internet pornography treatment...can it be 'cured'? Any new fetishes becoming more common place?  And his unique position of teaching 2 different classes in Human Sexuality.

I am so excited to welcome a star peer in our field - Carol Queen.  Her creds follow and they are impressive but it is her personality that is even better.  A mentor, a teacher, a researcher and a museum founder all in the arena of sexuality. 

An award-winning author, activist and sex educator with a PhD in sexology, Dr. Carol Queen has been a part of Good Vibrations since 1990. She currently serves as both Staff Sexologist and Curator of the Antique Vibrator Museum at Good Vibrations in San Francisco (www.goodvibes.com). She represents Good Vibes to the public and the press. Honored for her body of work and her immeasurable contributions to sexual wellness and awareness, she received the inaugural AVN “O” Award for Outstanding Achievement in 2009.

Queen is the author or editor of eleven books about sex, including Exhibitionism for the Shy, Real Live Nude Girl: Chronicles of Sex-Positive Culture, and PoMoSexuals. She is the co-founder and executive director of The Center for Sex & Culture (www.sexandculture.org) and frequently speaks at colleges and universities about sexuality. Visit her at www.carolqueen.com; follow her on Twitter at @CarolQueen.

Given we are approaching Ascension discussion of Megan's book and life story is ideal timing - this is a real person's quest that can guide others who are seeking their purpose and their enlightenment.

"This book Inside the Wall will be more useful to seekers on the path than Autobiography of a Yogi because it is so down-to-earth; Megan honestly, authentically presents her seeking." Paramahansa Nithyananda *

I have always loved lives that follow their passion and Megan Bishop-Scott's life is a testament to following heart and intuition. I have watched Megan follow her spiritual quest worldwide.  There is a reason her yogi, Paramahansa Nithyananda, gave her the testimonial above for her book.    Tonight we will hear her life's and her family's history of soul mates from two completely separate worlds, in her case privileged western Canadian blonde and a homeless black vet who meet and fall in love on Venice Beach. Her passion for writing and stories has fueled her life, from Canada to US to India and beyond.  Her book Inside The Wall details her life, with John Warner Scott, their son Esah.  Seeking has guided her entire life and lead her to her next level of enlightenment as a ashramite in Nithyananda's India based ashram.

*In 2012, Swami Nithyananda was named by Watkins' Mind Body Spirit magazine as one of the 100 (#88) Most Spiritually Influential Living People in the world.

Welcome to my internet living room!!!  You get to be a fly on the wall while I get to dish about all things sexual with Emily Morse, Relationship Expert & Co-host on Bravo's Miss Advised.   This is my idea of real fun!!!!  We'll talk about what we see are trends in sexual behaviors, our wackiest questions, folowing my Heroes show last week who are hers.  What had her chose this field?  What has she learned about herself on Miss Advised.  No subject will be off limits so if you have a burning question dail our call in digits, 877-864-4869

Emily Morse is a sex & relationship expert, author, talk show host & Bravo TV star. She is the host of Sex With Emily, a radio show and podcast about sex, relationships and everything in between.  Listen to the show on demand at SexWithEmily.com , through itunes or Friday nights on  Sirius/XM Satellite radio.

As a “sexpert,” Emily is known for her non-judgmental advice, accessibility and humor.

Emily launched the Sex with Emily radio show and podcast in 2005 before becoming a Bravo television personality on the hit show Miss Advised.  She is a Kegel Camp counselor (check out her iPhone App: Kegel Camp) and is the author of Hot Sex: Over 200 Things You Can Try Tonight.  Emily earns her doctorate in Human Sexuality next year.

Emily Morse - Relationship Expert & Co-host on Bravo's Miss Advised

Last week Amy Byer who handles my social media asked me to consider writing out a list of who my heroes are.   That had my brain start sorting and shifting on who is a hero and how does one become someone's hero?  As I started my list it surprised me what the themes were.  Then today one the English speaking world's top motivational speakers Zig Zigler died and for anyone who is atsudent of motivation and personal development he is a godfather to the field.  It had me look at why did I chose particular people.   Lord knows here in California we have ALL kinds of motvational speakers and yet I have found many of them do not walk their talk.  I'll talk about those that have supported my career and my life's journey.  

Lou welcomes Winston Wilde, Doctorate of Human Sexuality and Licensed Marriage Family Therapist.  Dr. Wilde is Beverly Hills and Palm Springs based seasoned prominent sex therapist who specializes in erotic minorities.  Translation, he is the go-to therapist for kinky people, modern couples and polyfolk. Those into BDSM/kink and polyamory are all growing communities.  There are very different nuances and understandings that a truly kink friendly therapist has to have.  We'll discuss those and more, lots more. www.winstonwilde.com Phone - 323-692-9120

My guest this evening is Sandra Daugherty.  http://sexnerdsandra.com A passionate sex educator based in Los Angeles, her irreverent humor and quirky love for details has given rise to her moniker, Sex Nerd Sandra.  So how does one become a sex nerd and what does a sex nerd do???  We'll cover all those details and how Sandra started in the field. 

Just as there is a range of sexual appetites and desires there is a growing variety and range of sex educators devoloping to match those varying populations.

Sandra is the resident sex blogger on Chris Hardwick’s Nerdist.com. She also works & teaches at The Pleasure Chest in Los Angeles and coaches individuals.    She has been seen on, “Keeping Up with the Kardashians,” and the pilot episode of “The Wanda Sykes Show.” She has also lent a voice to both Playboy and Spice Radio.

Often, Sandra is asked, “Why sex education?” to which she shrugs, “I can’t help it.” Since the first time 9-year-old little Sandra told a friend how babies were made (with anatomically-sound understanding), she’s had a lifelong love affair with this adorable aspect of the human condition.    Sandra believes human sexuality should be a distinct field of study as it is a distinct & important aspect of our lives. And she, for one is happy, quite happy, to study it.

Dr. Whipple is one of the leading researchers and authors on female sexual pleasure, function and orgasm.  Co-author of The G Spot, Science of Orgasm and The Orgasm Answer Book.  Lou and Beverly cover her naming the G spot,the wide variety of female orgasms that she wanted to validate, orgasms with spinal cord injury made possible by the vagus nerve that bypasses the spinal column, the complete lack of any published studies to support the G Shot marketed to unsuspecting women. 

RE-RUN of 4.25.12 

Dr. Diana Wiley and I will discuss Sex Addiction - Real or Made Up?  This is hugely controversial topic for those of us in the field of sex education and therapy.  Dr. Wiley is affiliated with the SEATTLE INSTITUTE for SEX THERAPY, EDUCATION and RESEARCH, www.sextx.com.  Diana's a board certified sex therapist, a clinical sexologist and a Marriage and Family Therapist for 25 years.    www.dianawiley.com

Dr.Linda Mona is a cherished colleague in our mutual field of sexual health.  Truly she is my go-to person about sexuality and disability.  From panels and hands on breakout sessions for severly injured OEF and OIF soldiers to Disability Conferences to "LInda what's new ?' Linda is my go-to girl.

So let's jump into what is the definition of a disability: can be a range of things from someone with a bad hip, to chronic arthritis issues, sight impairments, respiratory issues, mobility issues they are all a part of reduced physical function HOWEVER that in no way means that one need to have reduced sexual function. 

Advocating for the sexual rights and expression of people with disabilities has been the primary focus of Dr. Linda R. Mona’s career. She has worked in a variety of professional settings addressing the need for a deeper understanding of the sexual lives of people with disabilities. Specifically, she has assisted with increasing appropriate educational and clinical services available to people with disabilities seeking knowledge about ways of enhancing their sexual satisfaction.

Infusing notions about disability into diversity education and training has also been one of Dr. Mona's career passions. She has worked on challenging traditional medical notions of disability and reframing this life experience from a multicultural lens to further understand the unique experience people with disabilities bring to any work and social context. Much of Dr. Mona’s work has been fueled by her own personal experience living with a disability and her understanding of the positive effects and the societal obstacles faced living with this diverse life experience.  In fact, Dr. Mona was selected as one of the 2009 Working Mother's of the Year by Working Mother Magazine---an award not typically granted to a working mother with a disability. She attributes this accomplishment much to the changing views of disability as a rich diverse life experience.

Linda R. Mona Ph.D. is a state of California Licensed Clinical Psychologist.

(310) 714-6221     info@drlindamona.com

The author of Fifty Shades of Grey is a true foodie, she has to be to create so many of Christian and Anastasia's narratives around their eating given the detail she goes into about the food and beverages.  Christian has a thing about food and Anastasia loves to create for her man in the kitchen.  So I am rerunning Dr. Linda De Villers, author of Simple, Sexy Food a recipe book based on truly aphrodisiacal foods AKA the science behind foods that help us get turned on.  Who knows mabe her Moroccan Honey Chicken on pg 184 could be the new Engagement Chicken Recipe.

Dr. Linda De Villers is the author of an awesome new book, Simple Sexy Food. Take a serious Foodie who also happens to be a PhD Sex Therapist and you've got Simple Sexy Foods.  Blending science and cuisine information she playfully and deliciously takes cooking into the bedroom and sex into the kitchen. I mean there is a reason they call meals the seduction dinner.  Apparently even Dracula had one. FYI most people will not be intimate with someone they won't dine with.  So listen up and you'll hear Simple Sexy ways that can make meal time and afterwards more fun and more passion.  As a serious foodie myself and I look forward to trying pg 129, Vichyssoise with Caviar. Yummmmm!!!

www.loveskills.com

De Villers Linda - lindadevillersphd@yahoo.com

Olga Cohen went into full fledged menopause at the age of 43, as a new bride, complete with unpleasant mood swings and extreme hot flashes. She'd tried hormone replacement for ten years, but stopped after the bad press about the health complications associated with hormone replacement. She could not believe how, almost immediately, so many symptoms returned. Worse, she had a terrible new symptom: painful vaginal dryness.

 She started researching solutions for the problem, and she could not find anything in the market that offered long term results. Luckily, after decades in the cosmetics industry as the owner of a manufacturing company, she had knowledge and access to many natural ingredients.  After having a conversation with Dr. Leo Galland, an intergraded medical doctor, she tried using GLA several times a week -- squeezing the oil directly into the vagina. It took about a month and then she started noticing a difference. The results were dramatic: a complete end to the dryness. When she visited her gynecologist, she could not believe it. Her gynecologist could actually see the difference.

 Olga knew that if she were having these problems, then there must be other women experiencing the same symptoms.  And her gynecologist confirmed that acute dryness was one of the most common complaints she heard in her practice. They agreed it was vital to bring this treatment to other women. 

Since then, Olga has come to realize that painful vaginal dryness is not just caused by menopause, but can be the result of a wide variety of physical conditions. Dryness is also experienced by women who have just given birth, who have had a hysterectomy, or who are suffering from cancer or autoimmune disease.

WITH THE HELP OF DR. MIRIAM GREENE AND DR. LEO GALLAND, Grohen Technologies has developed InnerIntimates™ Vaginal Renewal Complex. Vaginal Renewal Complex offers a safe and easy solution for vaginal dryness. As Olga says, " It’s my little secret that is helping countless women look, feel, and live better."

Follow Olga on facebook @olgassecret.

I met Jodi and sisiter Jen at the International Lingerie Show in Las Vegas September 11th.  At any show I look for what's new that I can guide people to try.  Good, non-toxic, sex products are rare especailly in the crowded market segment of lubricants and body lotions.  Well much to my delight I walked into the Sierra Sage corner booth and discovered a treat!!!!  Earth friendly, Never Tested on Animals, 100% Organic, product line for sex created by three women with heart and intention.  Jodi has a Master's in Health Psychology, her sister Jen is a midwife and herbalist.  These ladies along with t heir mother and husbands are building the Burt's Bees in the arena of intimacy, sexuality enhancing products.  www.sierrasageherbs.com, info@sierrasageherbs.com.  

The Chemistry Between Us attempts to do what no other book has done: present a grand unified theory of how love, sex, and human social bonding is created in our brains, how that creation drives our behavior, and to place these mechanisms into social, historical and even political contexts.

Provocative, opinionated, and written with humor and insight for the lay reader, The Chemistry Between Us offers answers to some of the most tumultuous, joyous, heart-breaking, questions every one of us faces at some time in our lives, and asks us to consider the broader social impact of molecular events in our heads.

What makes two people, strangers before meeting for the first time, conclude that they not only would like to, but must, spend the rest of their lives together? What could happen inside the brain of a sober, responsible, married man, a federal judge, to enable him to carry a loaded pistol while buying drugs for his stripper paramour? How could male violence relate to the brain chemistry of love? Why would a young woman, happily committed to her boyfriend, flirt with a jerk?

What can the story of a young adoptee tell us about our current culture of parenting? What drives a mother to behave like a mother, and what does that have to do with human romantic love? How are grown men like babies? (Besides the whole whiny-with-the-flu thing.) What can we learn from rats that refuse to have sex unless they're wearing leather? What's the relationship between sexual fetish and love, and drug addiction and love?

What is gender? Do brains have a gender? How can some people be attracted to others of the same sex? What causes a person with all the body parts of a man to insist he's a woman? Or a bodily female person to insist she's a man?

Readers on the left and the right, people of all faiths, sexual orientations, and relationship status, are bound to find elements of The Chemistry Between Us that they'll object to fiercely, only to read on and find something to applaud. At the very least, readers will be fascinated, and likely to find themselves asking some serious, and some not-so-serious, questions about the world we're making and how that world might be affecting the very nature of human relationships.

My guest Tiffany York Founder & CEO of Fixsation did what any great entrepreneur does, she saw a need in the couples' intimacy market and took immedaite action to create a solution.  She wanted a non-insertive vibe made with all the right componet parts that couples could use together during intercourse. Nothing to interrupt the connection, hands free no remotes just the two of them.  Voila - The FIXSATION was born.  Tiffany's dilemma was to address couple's reaching orgasm together.  Not from a performance place but from an enjoyment place.  Busy parents and working couples have their regular love making eclipsed by 'duites'.  The Fixsation is a UBS charged 1/2 inch thick ovoid disc shaped vibe, take your ring and index finger and make a slightly opn circle. Held in place by a very hot lace strap panty all you need to decide is which if the 5 vibe settings and the panty size.  You are your partner can fixate on the sensation with him on top, you on top or any position that brings you together.   

Her show OFF THE RECORD last week about long term affairs had me reach out to host Judy Schriener.  I hear about affairs and foolong around every day and sometimes they surface in a relationship and sometimes they don't.  As an award winning business journalist, ever curious about how people think, she did research on why men cheat.  She found that the reason men cheat isn't always a simple 1-2-3 formula of opportunity.  She found there are as many reasons as there are individuals.  "I'm entitled to it I make all the maney." So are there benefits to affairs?  Does one fling lead to another?  Do partners leave their realtionships and marriages?  We'll discuss female and male cheating, same thing or different?  Does who makes the money impact cheating..I think so.  Are there winners?  Ashley Madison as a cultural touch stone. Judy's anecdotes will both entertain and educate you on the business world affair.

Judy Schriener, Lou Paget, http://rockstarradionetwork.com/shows/offtherecord, affairs, cheaters, sex, married affairs, Ashley Madison, infidelity, married lover, secret lovers, sex cheats

The Olympics epitomizes excellence in ideals in attitudes and in bodies. My guest Michele Cameron was Gold Medalist 1988 Seoul Synchronized Pairs and originally I wanted an insider's view on "So how much sex does go on at the Olympic Village?"  Michelle's comment she didn't know she swam on the last day so was so focused she never even saw other athletes.  Then I realized I wanted Michelle to share her story and how that Olympic passion and burn has fueled and been transformed into the drive behind creating her company Gold Medal Inspirations and her children's foundation, "A Gift of Love."  We'll talk about the ups and downs and how the darkest often is just before a break through.    Married to fellow Olympian Al Coulter and mom of four terrific children.  www.goldmedalinspirations.com 

Gold medals, Olympics, Olympic Gold, Michelle Cameron, Lou Paget, inspiration, sex and olympics,  passion, Syncho swimming, 
Canadian Gold Medalist, overcoming adversity, sex

The Sexual Positions of Fifty Shades - the best and how to make them yours. Anastaia and Christian are very active and you can get some juicy ideas from them.  Then my guest and colleague Emily Prior of the Center for Positive Sex will discuss the real Kink, BDSM lifestyle. 50 Shades got some things right and others not.  BDSM/KINK 101 FYI Ana and Christian never had a true 'scene', they played.  We'll discuss best resources, ideas, and techniques to get your kinky sex set and on its way for erotic power play.  www.positivesexuality.org

www.positivesexuality.org

Fifty Shades of Grey

Emily Prior

Lou Paget

Sex positions

orgasms

Fifty Sex Positions

BDSM

Kinky sex

kink

shattering orgasms

The cultural impact of this trilogy has just started to surface.  Movie, product lines, music CDs.   In essence it is a love story, Harlequin Romance meets kinky sex.  Honestly that doesn't give you the range of nuanced and in depth material EL James has packed into her books.  I mean let's be serious I know the world of sexuality and I write books.  This was a LOL highly enjoyable read for me, and one almost didn't do.  I thought 'Oh I can avoid reading it, nope couldn't happen.  I have two projects and I need to KNOW what's in these books.  Devotees expect it.   What vanilla can learn from kink.  What the BDSM world really is like.  Toys etc.

Sportssheets.com  -  my recommended go-to for vanilla bondage is their S&M line. 

Fifty Shades

Fifty Shades of Grey

kinky sex

BDSM

Sex Toys

Christian Grey

Love story

harlequin romance

Lou Paget

How does astrology help people find/keep love?
What can they learn about why they are single?
1.       timing – there are seasons of love and seasons of loneliness – and they can be predicted
2.       compatibility – that magical “wow” feeling you want with someone (this may be great, but the person may be a bad partner – see the next one)
3.       relationship capacity – the ability to be a good partner – this may be missing, in SPITE of amazing compatibility (and we’ve all been there!)
4.       “late bloomers in love” – half of the population isn’t successful at partnering until they’re in their LATE thirties and beyond… and this is SUCH A RELIEF to people and encourages them to NOT quit!
5.       “single archetypes” revealed by the stars that – once understood and addressed can be OVERCOME

Ellen Dolgen  8.1.12 - Shmirshky - the pursuit of Hormone Happiness

FINALLY a book that delivers THE TALK about peri-menopause, menopause and all things associated with it.  Ellen Dolgen is that investigative girlfriend who fearlessly and methodically sorted through the confusing morass of information about this most natural of female transitions.  This information is delivered by a woman who is so methodical and meticulous about every aspect of her life she even sorts and organizes all her drawers. You'll find the carefully organized information chapters are so user friendly, with easy to understand definitions, that this will become your go-to bible for all things about your Shmirishky...your vagina in transition.  She has read the books, ALL the books, the studies, she has visited many, many physicians, the endocrinologists, and researched the sites and blogs.  While researching she then asked every woman she knew, who would talk about her peri-menopausal and menopausal experiences.  This revolutionary information is delivered in a go-to-girlfriend style whether it is explaining the difference between Bio-Identical vs Natural vs Synthetic hormones or how to cope with your emotional roller coaster,  Ellen's hilarious delivery will have you laughing while you are learning. 


Ellen Dolgen
HRT
Menopause
Women's Health Initiative
Shmirshky



genConnect
The Three Tomatoes
Red Hot Mamas
Vibrant Nation
Living Better at 50

Imagine taking a retreat that has the potential to change your entire life.  Claes Lilja of International Brotherhood Retreats does just that for men who are HIV+.  Blending his background of life coaching, guided mediation training, Enneagram expertise Claes structures a program in the Poconos region so these men can experience their own transformations in mind, body and soul. 

Facebook: Bro Therhood

Twitter http://twitter.com/PozRetreat

I have always loved lives that follow their passion and Megan Bishop-Scott's life is a testament to following heart and intuition. Tonight we will hear her life's and her family's history of soul mates from two completely separate worlds, in her case privileged western Canadian blonde and a homeless black vet who meet on Venice Beach. Her passion for writing and stories has fueled her life, from Canada to US to India and beyond.  Her book Inside The Wall details her life, with John Warner Scott, their son Esah. Existence has guided her entire life and lead her to her next level of enlightment as a ashramite

Paramahansa Nithyanada, Megan Bishop-Scott, Inside the Wall, Life is a giant classroom, ashrams, meditation, homeless, Kriya Yoga, Paramahansa Yogananda, Avatar, Rasta John, Lou Paget

Looking at singles and dating –
 
·       Commitment issues…recognizing patterns in relationships…being scared…inappropriate partners…
·       Women pursuing men…what women need to pay attention to (posture, eye-contact, etc.), chemistry, need vs want, etc.
·       What do men really want?  Yes, they want sex, but many also want to enhance the emotional relationship…Studies show that the odds of a man being happy in a relationship increased by a factor of three if he snuggled up regularly!
·       Passive aggression – a relationship spoiler – the roots of passive aggressive behavior, solutions for the partner of  a passive aggressive man, etc.

drdianawiley.com, loupaget.com, sex and dating, online dating, what do men want?, online sex, Kinsey study, relationship patterns, sexual chemistry, sex therapist, sex and love

INTRO:   How Bright is Your Future in Sex?
 
Betsy Crane Ph.D., Professor and former Director of Human Sexuality Graduate Program at Widener University, PA will discuss the explosive growth of people seeking graduate degrees in the field of sexuality.  One of only two nationally accredited institutions, In the last five years the Widener Program has grown from 30 students to 100 in fall of 2012.  Who are these students and what are their career paths.  What are they focused on and what knew bodies of research are they creating?  What drives them to pursue this field.  Medical schools aren't training doctors about human sexuality so these students may hold a key to better sexual health programs in institutions. 

Questions

1) What had Dr. Crane go into this field?

2) I am often asked where do I go and what should I take to be marketable? 

3) What cultural behaviors are being studied by your graduates?  Anal sex for women?  Transgender?

4) I have two studies I'd love to see conducted:   a) on the sensitivity of the inside of men's ears realtive to it being an androgenic receptor site (hair growth as they age) and correlation for some men it is a straight line stim to an erection versus not the same for women and, b) study of heavy pubic hair pattern and higher libidos in women.

5) Are there new areas that need to studied?  You moved from the Director position to a greater teaching responsibilities.  Is that because you have some pet projects you'd like to support or usher through?  

6) Who is the ideal candidate for Widener's HSS grad program?  

7) Are they recruited on campus or do rgey have to create their pown career path once launched? 

8) Mark Schoen shared with me the explosion of this grad program and the caliber of students applying. Why might that be?

9)

Patti Britton,Ph.D., MPH is a nationally board certified clinical sexologist and former President of AASECT the largest certifying group for the sexual health and therapy professionals.  She'll share highlights from last week's national conference in Austin. Our field is exploding as more people realize the importance of our sexual health as a crucial part of our over all health.  Sex isn't just penises and vaginas and orgasms.  Look at aasect.org to see career ideas and professionals in your area.

Becoming and Entrepreneurial Sexologist AKA How to have Your Brains Make You Money.  This is an often requested recording of my 2010 Society for the Study of Sexuality-Western Region  Symposium. I share my Entrepreneurial Tips and Lessons that have helped my create a worldwide business in the area of sexuality Eduction. AND these lessons apply to all areas of business.  Before choosing to focus on sexuality my area of expertise was Manners, Etiquette and Deportment and believe me good manners are an essential business tool. 

A recent paper on monogamy by a biomathematician at U of Tennessee had me look at monogamy from a number of viewpoints.  Who benefits more Women? Men? Children?   Is there a monogamy conspiracy?    What is the supposed source of monogamy?  How many definitions of monogamy are there? What does evolution / science have to say?  Polyamorists? Open relationships?   Tara Raucci Robinson, my former assistant and one of the most fearless women I know when it comes to dealing with relationships, will discuss All Things Monogamy.

Tara Raucci Robinson
monogamy
polyamory
cheating
adultery
Sergey Gavrilets
U of Tennessee
coupling
Lou Paget
monogamous couples

Gary Richwald, MD, MPH Dr. Richwald is a communicable disease specialist and clinical virologist. For twelve years from 1989 to 2000, he served as the Director of the Los Angeles County STD Program, the largest provider of sexual health and disease-related services in the United States. He is currently a consultant to the American Social Health Association in the area of viral diseases and Medical Advisor for the LA and Orange County HELP (HSV and HPV support) groups. Dr. Richwald has served as a CDC consultant in STDs, co-chair of the AMA Consensus Development Group on External Genital Warts and HPV infection, Chair, California STD Control Association, and has provided expert testimony to federal and the State of California legislative committees. He is the author of a number of publications in the area of STD diagnosis and treatment, HIV/STD prevention, human papillomavirus and herpes simplex virus infections, adult immunizations, resistant bacterial infections, evaluation of contraceptive methods, and the impact of immigration policy on communicable diseases.

1) What do people still not know about sexually transmitted Herpes?

2)  There are many types of Herpes which types do humans need to know about?  

3)  The impacts on how people feel about themselves after the have been diagnosed

4) What are the best search terms someone looking online to be tested for Herpes / STDs should use?

5)  I entered free herpes testing  - californiaherpes.com 
 
6)  Does Herpes lead to other STDs?

7)  How does herpes impact sexual function? 

8)  Does someone with herpes have to date / be sexual only with other people who have Herpes?

9)  What are the biggest issues the people in the Herpes Support groups deal with?

10) How does repressive Herpes therapy work?

11) What is the impact for women who want to get pregnant?  If they have Herpes / their partner has herpes? 

12) You mentioned that with each support group meeting you hear a comment or a question that you've never heard. Can you share some of those and help our listeners understand better?

13) Should everyone be tested and is there a best / better test?

14) Best ways to tell a new partner you have herpes?

15) Like HIV anonymous testing is there the same for Herpes?

16)  What are the legal ramifications of knowingly giving someone Herpes?

Herpes, genital herpes, STDs, Sex tests, Gray Richwald, Lou Paget,

5.16.12

Dede Paget

Stories from the Real World - re-entering the dating world - Anecdotal Examples

Rather than just say"Do x, try y I want to give people concrete examples of what are great behaviors you need to put on your radar to ease you into a new social life and the next part of your life.                        
When relationships end one goes through a mourning period and then at some point one lifts their head and looks at" Okay I want to get back out in the dating world.

1) How important do you think the 'THE LIST" is?  What needs to be on it?  What doesn't?    Draft two lists one about them and one about you. Importance of cleanliness!!!

2) What are the mistakes you have watched your girlfriends and male friends make when looking for a partner. 
Maria - anger
Diane - weight and inappropriate attachment
Hanging out with angry other women
Making it be all about them
Working too hard - I can do it all - message of I don't need anyone
I'll pay for myself - need to create a space for a partner to show up

3)  Do you think people's 'pickers' get better with age or do they keep choosing the same person/

4)  Do they need a vibrational tune-up?  You know have them looking for what they want NOT what they don't want.
After menopause For some women the person they fall in love with is another woman and that stuns them

5)  Importance of presentation - Dating doctors,  Should you wax? no bruised fruit

6)  What are the most important behaviors to look for?   Did you ever ignore warning signs?   I sure did.

7)  What is the best gift someone could give you?  Why?

8) What are the different issues a woman deals with when dating a man is 50 + and how to handle these issues?  ED  libido loss, stress, Kendra describes having sex with a guy on viagra like being with a battering ram and NOT in a good way.   Your body has changed may need more stimulation / lubricant.  You don't use it you'll lose it  

This is about communication !!  


9)  Heard a great way to have a man who watches porn keep himself connected to his partner and that is to fantasize about her, or use memories of her so when you orgasm the reward circuitry in your brain downloads about her and not the image on the screen. 


10)  Protection is key when dating.

Chicken or the Egg??? Is your sex life damaging your relationship or is your relationship hurting your sex life?  Dr. Lori Buckley (www.drloribuckley.com) of the Center for Relationship, Marriage & Sex Therapy and I will look at the two main sources of sex and intimacy issues.  What we see are the best ways for an individual or a couple to untangle their issues and have the love life and sex life they want and deserve.  We both know that when people hear what others are dealing with it invariably validates, reduces their shame or stress about that issue and has them then see how others are put in the power position to create solutions that work for them as individuals. 

G Spot Found  - Ostrzenski
http://www.kxly.com/health/G-spot-found-Now-maybe-we-should-lose-it/-/101030/11811088/-/x7jknw/-/index.html
http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1743-6109.2012.02668.x/abstract -
http://articles.latimes.com/2012/apr/25/health/la-he-g-spot-20120425
http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-504763_162-57420949-10391704/scientist-claims-discovery-of-g-spot-structure-other-experts-unconvinced/

Sex Diaries Project - what I like about this is it speaks to our Chicken and The Egg conundrum that we have with sex being a problem or the relationship is a problem.  Rather this addresses that there are soooo many other shades of gray ( not the book  :-}}) that are relationship and sexual realities.
http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2012/01/27/the-sex-diaries-project-what-1-500-bedroom-diaries-can-teach-us-about-sex.html

We could also talk about Michael Metz and Barry McCarthy and their concept of 'Good Enough" sex.

Make-up sexlike cocaine - Huffington Post
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/emma-gray/make-up-sex-is-like-cocaine-addiction-clinical-psychologist-seth-meyers-psychology-today_b_1500331.html?ref=women&ir=Women

Lori Buckley

couples sex therapy

G Spot

Sex Diaries Project

Good enough sex

Lou Paget

Makeup sex

Tonight as I have a major speaking event I will rerun my conversation of a year ago April 27/2011 with Dr. Ron Levine.  Dr. Levine is a practicing clinical psychologist in Van Nuys California and an ordained Rabbi.  We will be discussing how faith based philosophies are more aligned with healthy sexual education than most people understand.  What the Song of Songs tells us.  That our sexuality is a blessed gift from God.  The myth that if you give children age appropriate sex education they'll go out and do it. 

torah, sex education, Song of Songs, congugal rights, creation stories, sex in the image of god, Dr. Ron Levine, sex therapy, body education, sexual desire, Lou Paget

Dr. Diana Wiley and I will discuss Sex Addiction - Real or Made Up?  This is hugely controversial topic for those of us in the field of sex education and therapy.  Dr. Wiley is affiliated with the SEATTLE INSTITUTE for SEX THERAPY, EDUCATION and RESEARCH, www.sextx.com.  Diana's a board certified sex therapist, a clinical sexologist and a Marriage and Family Therapist for 25 years. 
www.dianawiley.com

Larry Garland President/CEO Eldorado

http://www.facebook.com/EldoradoTradingCompany

Larry Garland is the President/CEO of Eldorado Trading Company one the adult industry's top distributors which lives by the motto, Only the Best.  Think Neiman Marcus of adult distributors.  So he has to have his entrepreneurial eyes looking in both directions, at what the consumers are trending to buy and the supply direction of what the manufacturers are developing. We'll talk about Fifty Shades of Grey on niche product purchases, Who he feels makes the best toys, Any restrictions he may have on shipping into countries and in the US - Comstock Laws.   How he chooses a new product line or manufacturer.  The growth of the Big Beautiful Women category and much much more.   www.eldorado.net

adult novelties
sex toy parties
sex toys
vibes
sex education
Eldorado Trading Company
Lubricants
Fifty Shades of Grey
marital aids

Eco-conscious line of adult toys, www.papayatoys.com

Pamela McKee entered this world 6 years ago and has been an advocate of safer and better products.  A partner in Papaya Toys and representing the technologically advanced MojoWijo she walks her talk.  We will discuss the new trends she sees, the benefits for the consuming market, I mean who doesn't want a better sex toy?  We'll also talk about markets that are drastically underserved, those with chronic medical conditions, severely injured military personnel and those couples physically separated.  The main reason they are underserved and what we see as viable solutions ANYONE can put into place.

sex toys, adult novelties, teledildonics, vibrators, mojowijo.com, papayatoys.com,

Guest Dr. Linda De Villers is the author of an awesome new book, Simple Sexy Foods. Blending science and cuisine information she playfully and deliciously takes cooking into the bedroom and sex into the kitchen. I mean there is a reason they call meals the seduction dinner.  Apparently even Dracula had one. FYI most people will not be intimate with someone they won't dine with.  So listen up and you'll hear Simple Sexy ways to use Food create more fun and more passion.

Dr. Linda DeVillers -Licensed CA Psychologist, #Psy 8518; AASECT Certified Diplomate of Sex Therapy; AASECT Certified Supervisor; AASECT Certified Sex Educator. Adjunct Professor, Pepperdine University Graduate School of Education and Psychology

Deciphering Sexuality Studies in the Media  - AKA How to Unravel What they are Saying and be a Shrewd Consumer of Sexual Health Information.

One of the #1 reasons women are online is health information.  My guest will be S. Diane Paget-Dellio BN, RN  Good Clinical Practice (GCP) Auditor.  As an auditor for Clinical Trials she has seen behind the curtain and can help guide you to finding and getting better sexual health information for you and your family.   Why pharmaceuticals can no longer use a placebo in a clinical trial.  Short answer - there is nothing to gauge its efficacy it means nothing.  So you read an article and find the study online, we'll help with that too, then we'll tell  what to look for to follow the money and we'll give you auditor's eyes and ears to determine if the study really helps you.    

Live call in 877-864-4869 6-7 PM PDT 9-10 EDT
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sex
orgasms
sexual health
Sexuality studies
DSM-IV
FDA sciencedaily.com
psychcentral.com
loupaget.com
HIV
sexuality
clinical trails

This show is for all the moms and dads who want to inject some newness, some passion, some woo hoo factor. My guest Ally Loprete walks in the shoes of mom, wife, blending 2 careers and family so she'll be my 'expert' parent asking: How do other Parents Do IT? Where can we get new ideas? Is spontaneous sex EVEN possible now?  What does science say about maintaining sexual connection? Single parents and sex? Pregnancy sex, why did Jessica Simpson say those orgasms are sooo amazing?

Entrepreneur Bonnie Gayle co-creator of Sex Butter, a unique organic sexual enhancement product. This is one of the best enhancement products I have seen and had my peri menopausal field researchers test in a long time. For women and men Sex Butter is made with  Coconut oil, shea butter, cocoa butter, jojoba oil and grape seed, paraben-free and hormone-free.  Sex Butter isn't just for sensual play, solo or partnered it is also beneficial for your general skin's health. wwww.sexbutter.net sexbutter@gmail.com Bonnie Gayle

Lou welcomes Winston Wilde, Doctorate of Human Sexuality and Licensed Marriage Family Therapist.  Dr. Wilde is a Beverly Hills and Palm Springs seasoned prominent sex therapist who specializes in erotic minorities.  Translation, he is the go-to therapist for kinky people, modern couples and polyfolk. Those into BDSM/kink and polyamory are all growing communities.  There are very different nuances and understandings that a truly kink friendly therapist has to have. We'll discuss those and more, lots more. www.winstonwilde.com P:323-692-9120

Lou welcomes adult toy industry marketing executive Jenny Tse of Icon Brands to discuss the inside story on all that titillates our sensory fancy.  Straight from the expert's mouth Jenny and I will discuss this industry's trends, impact on people's sexual function and perceptions of their sexual selves.  Which is the best vibe?  Do straight men really like anal toys? Who comes up with these ideas and how many make it into production?  Where Jenny sees career opportunities for anyone wanting to market intimate adult toys.  jenny@iconbrands.com

Tonight Los Angeles based Gretchen Kubacky, Psy.D., Health Psychologist, and I will discuss what we as sexuality educators can do for the growing population of those with a chronic health condition. How we can best guide with information and validate their experiences and give this population options, ideas and recommendations so they can be sexual on THEIR terms. We will discuss erasing the idea that if you have a physical health issue it renders you asexual. Couldn't be further from the truth. www.DrGretchenKubacky.com, 310-625-6083

Seattle, WA based sex therapist Diana Wiley Ph.D. is one of my favorite guests. She will share her 25 + years of Best Ideas, Techniques and Practices couples can use to stay connected, begin a connection or rejuvenate a connection. An expert on AGING & SEXUALITY, Dr. Diana highlights that lust, laughter, and love need to be kept as priorities in order to improve longevity and enhance quality of life as we evolve and mature. Her comment is "Any age is a great age to strip off the sexual "shoulds" - remembering that sex is play, not work!" Now shall we add people are sexual throughout their lives and this population wants information tailor made to their needs? Pregnancy isn't an issue, flexibility is so they want best options after hip/knee replacement. Diana is the co-host of Progressive Radio Network's Wiley & Sage, Sex Love and Laughter. http://www.progressiveradionetwork.com/dr-diana-wiley-billy-sage. www.drdianawiley.com (206) 448-5359

www.drdianawiley.com, www.loupaget.co, Diana Wiley, Lou Paget, Sexuality & Aging, sex therapy, sex education, oral sex, manual sex, http://www.progressiveradionetwork.com/dr-diana-wiley-billy-sage/

Monterey, CA based LMFT and D.S.T., Stephen Braveman is a multi-talented sexuality therapist who specializes in a wide variety of psychological and sexual issues. We will start with the heavy stuff and discuss his work with men who are Adults Molested as a Child and his part in Oprah's final show featuring men who had been sexually abused. We'll talk about the healing and hope in the PSA "You are Not Alone" from the Monterey Rape Crisis Center. the Film, Boyhood Shadows is a poweful testament to these men finally sharing their stories and working to heal. Stephen also specializes in gender and transgender issues and he presents on the modalities of Sacred Sexuality Tantra connection.

He is the co-author of CPR for Your Sex Life which is like having a sex therapist's reference manual in your hands. Divided into the C's, P's and R's it is A Guide and Workbook for Couples To Breathe Life into a Dead, Dying or Dull Sex Life. www.bravemantherapy.com, stephen@bravemantherapy.com, 831-375-7553

MARYLOU NACCARATO     Sex Educator/Speaker/Life Coach             http://www.high10yourlife.com

 “Many people live with disabilities & limitations. Learn how to raise your level of Sexability.”  Marylou Naccarato

Imagine being an IRS Revenue Agent for 23 years and discovering your passion is practical Sex Education for people of short stature and with disabilities. That describes Marylou Naccarato.  Marylou lives by the credo, "There are those who wait for life to happen and those who make it happen."  As a professional woman, mother, and short person Marylou believes everyone is disabled or differently-abled in one way or another.  It is a matter of whether your condition is internal or external and regardless we all can have loving intimacy.

As a Sex Educator, Life Coach, and Speaker Marylou Naccarato draws from her formal education and life experiences as a person of short stature. Standing at a statuesque 3’11” she developed a “High10 Your Life” approach to managing life’s magical, yet often unpredictable journey. 

Marylou conducts explicit educational and entertaining sex and relationship workshops, for all people who want to heighten their sensuality and intimacy. She shares creative techniques, sex positions, and a variety of adult toys that are suited to your range of mobility.

She holds private and group sessions for teens, adult individuals and/or couples. Her goal is to bring forth issues openly regarding sensuality and intimacy for people with short stature and those living with other disabilities with-out shame or embarrassment. She also conducts informational sexuality seminars for professional clinicians in the field of Sexology and Rehabilitation therapy who work with clients that are disabled. She is a member of AASECT. She has a BA degree in Sociology, and is currently working towards a graduate degree in Human Sexuality.

She personally believes that everyone is disabled or “differently-abled” in one way or another. “It’s all a matter of degree, and whether your condition is internally or externally noticeable” she states. If you are living with high blood pressure, diabetes, or even if a few pounds overweight, there is a possibility that your sex life will be affected. Medical technology today affords us the benefit of living longer and healthier lives.

Many live with the survival scars of an accident or injury, cancer, heart attack, stroke, or other health conditions. Normal progression of aging, medication, recovering from a surgery, declining physical stamina, stress, and your overall mental health are all conditions that can limit the quality of your everyday SEX life unless you/and or your partner make a conscious decision to raise your level of “Sexability.”

Marylou emphasizes that you can have a very passionate and erotic experience without intercourse or orgasm either alone or with your partner. Remove the performance anxiety quotient and allow yourself the opportunity to dialogue and explore with your partner about what is pleasurable. Ultimately, the real sensual experience is the emotional connection and intimate bonding that you create with each other.

Marylou is also a Sex and Disability blogger on Betty Dodson’s site www.dodsonandross.com

Kenneth Ray Stubbs Ph.D. celebrated author of sexuality and spirit and I will discuss his next level of teaching that of the Sexual Shaman.  Schooled in traditional religion and academics ray Stubbs has created a body of spiritual energy sexuality well respected in the field of sexual education and tantra.

Phyllis Martin my toginet colleague and host of Infertility Forum is my guest this evening.  Truly there can probably be no more heart breaking experience for couples and women than when they are unable to create that desired family.  Let's be honest baby-Making sex isn't very sexy at all!!!  So Phyllis and I will discuss how to maintain relationship sensual and sexual connection through this very common life event.  What she as a therapist recommends and what I as a sex educator suggest to couples dealing with infertility.

WHO IS MY NEXT GUEST< SUSAN CRAIN BAKOS?

An outspoken champion of female (and male) sexual empowerment, I created SexyPrime to enhance your sex life-by giving you technique tips, reporting on the latest sex behavior and sex science research and sex trends from around the world, connecting with you intellectually through book (and occasionally art and movie) reviews and cultural commentary, and entertaining and arousing you with sex stories. I am a research sexologist, a sex educator, a magazine journalist--with credits from The Ladies Home Journal to Penthouse--the author of twenty books and a ghostwriter. Listening and talking to people about their most intimate erotic experiences comes easily to me, and I believe sex is intrinsic to a healthy and happy life. We express our core identities through our sexuality. I support and celebrate your choices freely made, whether you are straight, gay, bi, poly, monogamous or whatever-and I stand up for female sexuality at every age and stage of life. Ah, but I also love men.

As an aging Boomer, I want to be an example of sexual freedom, especially to my sister Cougars and younger women. I am the outrageous Auntie Mame (with the latest science of sex studies in her overnight bag along with the scarves and pearls and black lace-topped thigh high stockings) who gives her married sister a vibrator for Mother's Day and adores her young nieces. I am mentally preparing for my final persona, The Grande Dame of Sex.

I am most proud of the techniques I have created: The Orgasm Loop, a revolutionary no-fail orgasm technique for women (It really works!) and The Sex Wardrobe Basics, sex techniques inspired by and paired with wardrobe items like red shoes, a string of pearls, the white boyfriend shirt-and more. (It's a series in progress.) My original fellatio technique, The Basic Black Dress of Blow Jobs, was the first of the series.

Rev, Dr. William Stayton and I will be discussing the blending of the faith based attitudes with human sexual health.  As an ordained American Baptist clergy Bill Stayton has become an icon in the field of sexual health with his gentle spirit guided counselling to assist sexual health therapists and educators to better guide and deliver information into faith based communities. 

Moushumi Ghose, MFT, and I will be discussing some of her 'Favorite Things", Open relationships, how she got into this work, how same sex relationships can enhance our sexuality, and has enhanced hers and what she sees most commonly with couples and dealing with sexuality within relationships, and how societal views affect and have affected all of the above.  Mou has a very diverse background blending a digital musical career with her psychotherapy training.  Her next passion to pursue is the writing of her first book, Marriage, Money and Porn.

My guest this evening is Peter Pacik, M.D. we will be discussing his book, When Sex Seems Impossible about vaginismus.  Dr. Pacik has been performing plastic surgery for over thirty years and is a recognized pioneer in helping patients overcome severe vaginismus. Vaginismus is a condition where women are unable to have intercourse without discomfort and in some cases it is  impossible. In 2010, he received FDA approval for his study using intravaginal injections of Botox together with progressive dilation under anesthesia to treat vaginismus.

Dr. Pacik and I met when I attended his SSSS - Society for Scientific Study of Sexuality, presentation in Henderson Nevada last year. Finally!!! I thought here is a treatment for these women that for years have ben told it is their heads, it is not it is in their pelvis.  As with all dyspareunia conditions, conditions where intercourse is painful or a woman has genital pain, this is a baffling and relationship destructive and prevetative condition that isn't very well understood. 

In his book, When Sex Seems Impossible; Stories of Vaginismus & How You Can Achieve Intimacy, Dr. Pacik describes case studies of woman and their experiences dealing with vaginismus.  The book's introduction says it all, Stories That Need to Be Told.  The reason is most physicians and even OB'GYNs have little to no awareness of how to treat much less understand if a patient presents with this condition.    The stories will touch your heart and stay with you.  So should you hear of a woman dealing with this you could be her angel and guide her to a physician who can actually help her.

My guest tonight is Dr. Linda Mona, Licensed Clinical Psychologist who has advocated for the sexual rights and sexual expression of people with disabilities for over 15 years. 

Dr. Mona and I have done presentations for severely injured soldiers (female & male) on how to have them connect if single, reconnect if partnered and validate their sexual selves apart from their disability.

For anyone who may be dealing with, or knows someone who is, the unique sexuality issues associated with disability, PTSD, TBI, or med impacts this is your show.

Tonight we're going to talk all about Female Orgasms.  The research into them who decides the parameters for recognizing different orgasms, the 10 types women can have etc., etc. The reason I wrote my book The Big O: Orgasms How to Have Them Give Them and Keep Them Coming, was because of how many questions I knew people weren't getting answered about this type of pleasure.

My guest tonight, Dr. Beverly Whipple is one of the top researchers in the area of female sexual function and orgasms.  She co-authored the international best seller The G Spot, The Science of Orgasm and The Orgasm Answer Book. She is one of the most peer awarded and acknowledged Sex Educators in our field.  Dr. Whipple holds a PhD in Psychbiology and a Masters in Nursing and Masters in Counselling from Rutgers.

My guest tonight will be Leonard Rubinstein MD we'll talk about the sexual and relationship health benefits of the anti-aging and cosmetic surgery techniques he has developed, and his Medical Tourism clinics.  His National Radio Show "Rejuvenate Yourself from the Inside Out"!  http://www.blogtalkradio.com/LARubinsteinMD Sunday 10 AM EST

Tonight Dr. Neil Cannon and I will discuss current media articles and trends in sexual health.  Neil Cannon has a Doctorate  in Human Sexuality, a Master's in Public Health and a Post Graduate certification in Marriage, family Therapy as well as a Post Graduate Certification on GLBT, Gay, Lesbian, Bi-sexual & Transgender Family systems.   

Supporting GLBT Youth Coming Out   - My guest tonight will be Al Killen-Harvey, a San Diego based LCSW who is a nationally recognized expert on supporting GLBT youth, their families, educators and health professionals in the coming out process.  What is being done, what should be done and how this process impacts all of us.  

If you have a question this is your chance to ask a nationally recognized expert for his input.  877-864-4869.

My guest will be entrepreneur, expert in the arena of women's consumer product and creator of Very Private Intimate Moisture, Jacqueline Brandwynne.  Truly what I feel is one of the best lubricants for intimacy on the market. Our discussion will be part of what I call Vaginal Health 101.