There is no one-size-fits-all approach to understanding our individual attachment styles. However, becoming self-aware of what is at the core of our disconnection can provide us with valuable insights into relationship patterns and help us build healthier connections and more satisfying relationships.
For deeper insights into the psychology of attachment, Harvesting Happiness Podcast host Lisa Cypers Kamen speaks with author and licensed psychologist, Ann Kelley.
Ann discusses the fundamental learnings about attachment and self-regulation gleaned from the book she co-authored, Secure Relating: Holding Your Own in an Insecure World, and offers tools for building awareness of individual attachment styles.
Ann Kelley, PhD — Attachment Theory:
- Humans self-regulate to gain connection and attachment. [2:20]
- In Secure Relating, Ann explores the modern attachment regulation spectrum (MARS) model. [6:33]
- How to co-regulate with a partner when you don’t feel safe. [15:36]
- The 3R Spiral is to recognize, reflect, and rewire. [28:37]
- Self-regulation tools for healthy relationships. [32:16]
Meet Our Guest:
Ann Kelley, PhD, is a licensed psychologist in private practice specializing in couples therapy focused on an integrative, attachment-based relational approach. Ann and her wife Sue Marriott, LCSW, CGP, are co-authors of Secure Relating: Holding Your Own in an Insecure World and produce the critically acclaimed podcast Therapist Uncensored.
Secure Relating delivers hope, connection, and empowerment amidst the many barriers to emotional closeness and provocations towards self-protection by offering a comprehensive approach to understanding and transforming all kinds of relationships into more secure and satisfying bonds.
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