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SecondWind was created as a resource for change. 

It is a source to shine light to your darkness by hearing other women talk about their Defining Moment to transform their lives... to hear about their fears, doubts, discouragements and joys.


 

Joyce Buford, a Life coach, Author, speaker, and Internet Podcast Host, is a woman who has experienced transition in her own life and shares her secret to facing the Fear of Change with Total Confidence.

Through her unique program and coaching style, Joyce supports clients during their transition to reclaim their true purpose and strengths. Her program focuses on helping clients who have experienced their own transitions of divorce and loss to thrive without limits.

She lives her life on purpose, using and enjoying her talents to get her message out...........living with effortless happiness.


 

Learn more about Joyce at www.JoyceBufordEmpowers.com

Dealing with Narcissists Part 4

Recognizing the Trauma Caused by Narcissists

In this fourth episode of a four-part series, Sandra Beck explains a bit about Post Narcissistic Stress Disorder. This is a recently recognized set of symptoms to help explain and understand your feelings, experiences and responses to having been in -- and got out of -- a relationship with a narcissist.

Empowerment is a theme that runs through all of Sandra Beck’s work. Whether she is coaching a company owner to a million-dollar commission goal, training a stay-at-home mom to perform SEO on websites or speaking to a corporate group about personal and professional growth, her message is about what is possible and how to create the circumstances of your choosing. Sandra teaches all of her clients how to maximize their lives by using the power of the internet coupled with solid business practices along with the drive of their passions to create the lifestyle of their dreams.

"Don't give up. That's the most important thing. Life can get better." @sandrabeck

What You'll Learn from This Episode:

  • The kinds of stories narcissists tell others about you and how to handle them

  • What the villain/victim/hero triangle is and how it pertains to you and the narcissist

  • Why it can be so hard to leave a narcissist

  • Why narcissists promise to change, and why that makes us stay with them

  • Why your self-esteem suffers when with a narcissist

  • Why you feel like two different people when in a relationship with a narcissist

  • What it means to have Post Narcissistic Stress Disorder and how to recognize it

  • Some causes of trauma that you might not have considered

  • How to handle emotions that bubble up even long after leaving a narcissist, and why it can take a while for them to emerge

  • Why it is important to forgive yourself before attempting to forgive the narcissist

  • How to begin taking steps toward having healthier relationships

  • What it means to have a "feeling-back" - like a flashback but in feelings rather than images

  • Some of the challenges you might experience in re-entering the dating world

  • Some good qualities to look for in relationships

Featured on the Show:

http://www.Beckmultimedia.com

Facebook www.facebook.com/sandra.beck.9480

Twitter - @sandrabeck 

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/sandrabeck

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Dealing with Narcissists Part 3

Taking Care of Yourself when Leaving Narcissists

In this third episode of a four-part series, Sandra Beck shares more details about the importance of taking care of yourself when ending a relationship with a narcissist. She offers various tips and suggestions for dealing with the narcissist during the transition, as well as ideas to help you nurture yourself. 

Empowerment is a theme that runs through all of Sandra Beck’s work. Whether she is coaching a company owner to a million-dollar commission goal, training a stay-at-home mom to perform SEO on websites or speaking to a corporate group about personal and professional growth, her message is about what is possible and how to create the circumstances of your choosing. Sandra teaches all of her clients how to maximize their lives by using the power of the internet coupled with solid business practices along with the drive of their passions to create the lifestyle of their dreams.

"I became my hobby because I had neglected myself for so long." @sandrabeck

What You'll Learn from This Episode:

  • Why we let narcissists keep coming back

  • What it means to be a narcissist's "fuel supply"

  • Why narcissists use "the silent treatment"

  • What it means when a narcissist moves on to someone else

  • What kinds of problems can occur for your children when the narcissist parent finds a new partner, and how you can help

  • What it means to "starve a narcissist" and why it's essential for you to do this

  • How to handle phone calls from a narcissist seeking your attention

  • Why a narcissist will bait you and what that looks like

  • Self-love and self-care tips to help you feel better through the transition

  • Productive, helpful ways to deal with negative emotions

  • How to find the gifts in leaving a relationship with a narcissist

  • The importance of having a good therapist

  • The importance of insuring that you've exhausted all options before deciding to leave a relationship with a narcissist

Featured on the Show:

http://www.Beckmultimedia.com

Facebook www.facebook.com/sandra.beck.9480

Twitter - @sandrabeck 

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/sandrabeck

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Dealing with Narcissists Part 2

How to Navigate Your Relationships with Narcissists

In this second episode of a four-part series, Sandra Beck shares more detail about what it's like to be in a relationship with a narcissist, and in particular some of the challenges of co-parenting with one. She offers tips to help ease that situation, as well as discussing how to find a suitable therapist. 

Empowerment is a theme that runs through all of Sandra Beck's work. Whether she is coaching a company owner to a million-dollar commission goal, training a stay-at-home mom to perform SEO on websites or speaking to a corporate group about personal and professional growth, her message is about what is possible and how to create the circumstances of your choosing. Sandra teaches all of her clients how to maximize their lives by using the power of the internet coupled with solid business practices along with the drive of their passions to create the lifestyle of their dreams.

"Everyone has a right to their own thoughts and feelings." @sandrabeck

What You'll Learn from This Episode:

  • Some of the traits that make someone an "empath" (in this instance, the term used to mean the partner of a narcissist)

  • Why an empath and a narcissist fit together so easily

  • Why being "easygoing" can make you a prime target for a narcissist, and why it makes it hard for you to realize it

  • How the changes and transitions of life are triggers for the narcissist's worst behaviors

  • What is "vulnerable narcissism"? 

  • Can you "manage" a narcissist?

  • What is polarization and what can you do about it?

  • How to talk to your children about their narcissistic parent

  • How to find a good therapist who understands your needs

  • Why you should never tell a narcissist your "weak spots"

  • Why it's best not to talk to your friends about your narcissistic partner

  • How to deal with a narcissist's childish behavior, whether in public or in private

  • Important strategies for handling "must-attend" events that are shared with a narcissist

  • How to handle Christmas or other gift-giving occasions when a narcissist will also be involved

Featured on the Show:

http://www.Beckmultimedia.com

Facebook www.facebook.com/sandra.beck.9480

Twitter - @sandrabeck 

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/sandrabeck

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Dealing with Narcissists Part 1

The First Step is Recognizing the Problem...

In this first episode of a four-part series, Sandra Beck discusses some of the telltale signs that you are dealing with a narcissist. Whether as a boss, spouse, friend, teacher or anyone else, these relationships are sneaky and insidious until you learn to spot the destructive traits.

Empowerment is a theme that runs through all of Sandra Beck's work. Whether she is coaching a company owner to a million-dollar commission goal, training a stay-at-home mom to perform SEO on websites or speaking to a corporate group about personal and professional growth, her message is about what is possible and how to create the circumstances of your choosing. Sandra teaches all of her clients how to maximize their lives by using the power of the internet coupled with solid business practices along with the drive of their passions to create the lifestyle of their dreams.

"You start to recognize when they're going to use something against you, so you write it down and know what the actual mistake was." @sandrabeck

What You'll Learn from This Episode:

  • What is a narcissist?

  • The kinds of relationships in which you might find yourself dealing with a narcissist

  • What traits can make you an easy target for a narcissist

  • Why narcissists don't apologize

  • Patterns of behavior that demonstrate narcissism

  • Why narcissists don't understand empathy or feelings for others

  • How a narcissist's behavior can drive you to self-doubt and insecurity

  • A brief look at some of the possible roots of narcissistic behavior

  • Why narcissists can be strong leaders

  • How narcissists find your weak spot and use it to hurt you

  • Why narcissists isolate you from your support system

  • Why you'll always be wrong and they'll always be right

  • How control factors into a narcissist's behavior

  • Why narcissists will turn on those closest to them if it serves them

  • What makes narcissists push people's buttons and why they enjoy watching the subsequent fireworks

  • Why narcissists resent you for loving them

  • How you can "lose your voice" when in relationships with narcissists 

  • How children can be impacted when watching parents in a narcissist-dominated relationship

Featured on the Show:

http://www.Beckmultimedia.com

Facebook www.facebook.com/sandra.beck.9480

Twitter - @sandrabeck 

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/sandrabeck

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Joyce Buford: A Look at Forgiveness and How it Impacts Health and Happiness

These Helpful Nuggets Could Improve Your Life Beyond Measure...

Joyce Buford shares some thoughts on the enormous topic of forgiveness, clearing up some common myths about what it is and what it isn't. She will also explain how withholding forgiveness can adversely affect health and happiness. 

Joyce Buford is a Life Coach, Author, Speaker, and Internet Podcast Host. Having experienced transition in her own life, she shares her secret to facing the fear of change with total confidence. She supports listeners and clients during various significant transitions in life and helps them reclaim their true purpose and strengths. 

"Make the effort to forgive so that you can empower your life and move forward, releasing, letting go, and enjoying a life of richness." @YourSecondWind

What You'll Learn from This Episode:

  • Some kinds of situations that are made easier by forgiveness

  • Some of Joyce's personal issues that needed forgiveness

  • Why forgiveness is important

  • Why forgiveness does not mean that the offending action was okay

  • What makes us want to "get even" and how this prevents us from healing

  • Why it can feel like letting go of grievances is the hardest thing you can do 

  • What forgiveness really is -- and what it isn't

  • Some discussion of Barbara J. Hunt's book "Forgiveness Made Easy: The Revolutionary Guide to Moving Beyond Your Past and Truly Letting Go"

  • Hunt says there are five obstacles to forgiving and Joyce shares the first one 

  • Why we are vulnerable when forgiving

  • The hidden price you pay when you don't forgive 

  • Why forgiveness is for you and not the person who hurt you

  • Bradford Brown's powerful description of what forgiveness really means

  • Why forgiveness is not a sign of weakness

  • One of Nelson Mandela's most powerful teaching moments

  • Why our brains are hard-wired to need to forgive without us realizing it

Featured on the Show:

Barbara J. Hunt's book - Forgiveness Made Easy: The Revolutionary Guide to Moving Beyond Your Past and Truly Letting Go - http://bit.ly/BarbaraHunt

Dr. Lawrence Wilson - https://drlwilson.com

Bradford Brown's quote: "Forgiveness is the absolute refusal to hold ill will against someone for what they did or didn't do."

Nelson Mandela - https://www.nelsonmandela.org/ - quote: "As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn't leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I'd still be in prison."

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