July 11.2016 SextalkwithLou, Olga Cohen, Better Sex, Sexual Health through Vaginal Renewal Complex

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Better sex and better sexual helath whne your intimate parts feel good. My guest today Olga Cohen has made that possible for thousands of women. Founder of Inner Intimates and Creator of Vaginal Renewal Complex. Her own journey with vaginal dryness had this enterpreneurial former cosmetic industry executive look for non-hormonal, non-estrogen solutions for herself.  Fast forward ten years and she now has 3 products and more in the pipeline.   

 

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November 2, 2015 Relationship Building, Becoming Magnetic, Dr Diana Wiley, Children of The Night

Realtionship building comes in many sytles and forms. When someone 'gets you' they usually can make you laugh. Consider how kind you are to yourself.  How careful are you with your words and language?  Each one of these can change your lovelife and sex life.  Will be a guset on Dr. Diana Wiley's show sex, lust and laughter and she'll be my guest next week to talk about Sexuality and Aging and what's changing in that arena...LOTS!!!  I'll be prsenting at Children of The Night this week about helathy sexuality.

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November 9, 2015 Dr Diana Wiley, What's new in Sexuality and Aging? LOTS including Dr. Pepper Schwartz AARP survey

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Dr. Diana Wiley   drdianawiley.com, Radio show on prn.fm/show/love-lust-and-laughter/ I was her guest on November 3, 2015.  

AARP sexuality survey by Dr. Pepper Schwartz

Dr. Diana is a Seattle based Psychotherapist with an expertise in the area of Sexuality and Aging and given our aging population there are many things that can impact our sexual enjoyment and function.  We'll cover all that and more.  

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November 16, 2015 Charlie Sheen HIV announcement, HIV testing, Maintaining your Sexual Health

I recorded this the day before Charlie Sheen's HIV announcement, Please let us remember he is a son, a brother and a father.  He made this announcement to get control of his life and face the secret he'd been keeping.  I intend that this will lead to greater acceptance of testing and discussion of HIV testing. HIV and AIDS are not the same thing.  This is about maiintaining YOUR Sexual Health. Difference beteween Anonymous and Confidential testing. 

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Change your Sex Life with Skillful Listening

Lou looks at how powerful listening will impact all areas of your life, better sex, better personal relationships and better work relationships.  Her recent retreat with the National Leadership Council in Seattle.  Her fellow council member Dr. Pepper Schwartz talked about Married at First Sight and the lessons we can learn from the participant couples.  Then Lou shares what fellow experts shared about their first masturbation experiences.

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July 27, 2015 Falling in Love with Your Dark Side

Lou gives ideas for Falling in Love with your Dark Side, The Side of you that keeps you from having what your REALLY want in your life. 

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July 20, 2015- Lou Talks about how to get the Summer Sex Life You Want, Trainwreck the movie

Summer is when many want to expose more of their physical selves and their sexual selves, so I am talking about some step by step ideas to have a better sexual and relationship summer.  Summer sex relationship movies, REALLLY looking forward to seeing Trainwreck and I'll See You In My Dreams.  So who do YOU listen to about your sexlife?  

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June 29, 2015 - FAQs about orgasms, female ejaculation, Cheating many many more. Marriage Equality.

Historic week for love, Marriage Equality.  As I am redoing my website I am refreshing answers to my most FAQs about orgasms, female ejaculation, Cheating many many more.     

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June 16, 2015, More Rooms full of Sex Educators

More Rooms full of Sex educators, contuing AASECT 2015 Minneapolis, 

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June 8, 2015 - Rooms Full of Sex Experts - What I Learned at the AASECT Conference 2015, Minneapolis

Ever wondered what rooms full of sex experts, therapists and educators talk about???  Well I am going to let you be a fly on the wall, audibly, and share some of the top parts of the recent AASECT, American Association of Sex Educators, Counsellors and Therapists Conference this past Thursday - Sunday in Minneapolis.  Transmasculine Sexuai Identities Buck Angel, Rethinking Infidelity - Esther Perel, Coregasms - Debby Herbenick, A Taste of Kink with visit to a scene dungeon, with enough variety and shared information from peers to fill 4 days. Humanitarian Honors to Dan Savage, Distinguished Service Russell Stambaugh, Standard of Excellence Peggy Kleinplatz and Sex Educator Bill Taverner. 

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June 1st, 2015 Kim Airs - All Things Sex Toys

KIM AIRS and I will discuss all things in the Sex Toy World.  What's hot, what's not and how to choose the best for you and or your partner.  Kim founded Grand Openings brick and mortar store in Boston area and truly has been in and part of just about every facet of the world of sex education.  Kink to documentaries (Orgasms) to product development, to sales to prouct reviews.  Needless to say she is a ton of fun to hit trade shows with and as a guest.    

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April 6, 2015 - How to Create the Best Sex Life, Love Life and Relationship

Lou uses Personal Development tools and rules to guide you on How to Create the Best Sex Life, Love Life and Relationship. You need to INVEST in yourself, Take Responsibility, Deal with Change, Consider Who You Listen to, Use the Law Of Attraction and if you do you'll create the sex life or love life or relationship or all three in one. 

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March 30, 2015, Lip Service with Lou Paget - How Sexually Savvy Are YOU? My Sex Quiz questions

This is the first time I have shared HOW SEXUALLY SAVVY ARE YOU?  quiz questions.  These are some of the most common and unusual questions I have been asked in quiz format.  This way you can have fun thinking about the answers and then I answer and expalin why it is the correct answer.  How many Orgasms can women have?  What combination has the highest risk of sobriety relapse?  What percentage of men in MAerica use vibrator?  And how? This is full hour of fun quiz questions. ENJOY!!!

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March 23, 2015 - Lip Service with Lou Paget - Monica Lewinsky TED Talk, 50 Shades Parody in Las Vegas

Monica Lewinsky's TED Talk focusing on cyberbullying is in my mind a pivotal TED Talk.She is taking back th enarrative of her life and blazed onto the scene as probably th emost high profile cyber bullying victim in the world.  As i watched I was seeing a woman who has come into her own, she's beautiful, very well spoken and pasionate about her focus.  She is going to galvanize an anti-cyberbullying movemnet unlike any other.  

Most cyberbullying is related to jealousy, sexuality or mob mentality.  I would love to see parents having to be responsible for the children's cyberbullying as Nicole Wallace , co-host of THE VIEW suggeted. 

Want to have fun in Vegas?  Get thee to the Fifty Shades of Grey Parody. This is a very fun show with a high;ly talented cast.  

My new columns and trends that I am seeing in sex. 

 

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March 2, 2015 Lou's 50 Shades of Grey Movie Review, How to Increase Your Magnetism and more

59 Shades Review - This is my letter to the screenwriter and director for 50 Shades of Grey.  How could you have left out soooo much of the story? The docus was on the sex not on the relationship and THE RELATIONSHIP ran the trilogy,  My wish is that the next screenplay incorporates Anastasia's narrative because that was the fun part of the read.  

Change of earning dynamics in relationships, when more women are earning more than their partners.

The epidemic of rape of campuses - The Hunting Ground - Kirby Dirk and Amy Zeiring documentary

What are you doing to increase YOUR magnetism?  My tried and true steps to help you get it back. 

 

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Feb. 2, 2015 Charles Runels, MD, and the O Shot

Lou interviews Dr.Charles Runels about The O Shot procedure.  Based on Platelet Rich Plasmapheresis (PRP) therapy this is a revolutionary way to improve women's continence and orgasmic response.  Technically the O Shot initiates the growth of new tissue in the clitoris, pubococcygeus muscle that is the muscle that contracts during orgasm, upper vaginal vault and surrounding tissue.  We discuss best uses for this PRP procedure and specifically how it is done.  We discuss the damage and problems with Laser Vaginal Rejuvenation therapy, neither rejuvenating or therapeutic. 

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Lip Service With Lou Paget - Staying Sexually Connected in a Disconnected World

So what do oyou do when you can't connect and feel pushed away sexually?  What if you want to break your pattern of ending good relationships because you aren't turned on as much?  I'll cover some tricky issues many couples struggle with and possible GO-TO options a la Lou. How love differs from desire and how to baby proof your intimacy...it isn't as easy as one thinks. 

 

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Jan. 19, 2015 - Lou covers Adult Novelty Show best new toys and products

I review the Adult Novelty Manufacturers Expo -ANME 2015.  Held twice annually I look for what's new, what works and what are new trends.  I recommend all the products and you can find all online. 

Sportsheets new line of 5 Kits Sexperiments leads to their best ANME show ever.  

I love Bijoux Indiscrets out of Barcelona, Elsa Viegas is co-founder and they have a terrific line of quality lingerie and products.  Their new Twenty-One is an award winning golden diamond vibrator.  Fabulously newly introduced in November 2014 and new to US at this show.

Vibratex - introduces Black Pearl a vibrating prostate massager for men, and FINALLY the Hiatchi Magic Wand as rechargable and new siliocne head.  

OhMiBod - bluemotion remote vibe for women and men that can be operated internationally by your mobile device for your partner's pleasure.  This is OhMiBod's latest new and fabulous design.

Cu in Bed  - one of the best new products I saw - The use of Copper's intrinsic properties as an antimicrobial in an alloy for their first two products - CuRIOUS WAND and UNDERCuVER BAG.  The delivery of this product introduces a new level of cleanliness to our sex toys because the copper alloy does not allow bacteria to grow on the product and or where it is stored. 

Crave - new product Ti Chang introduces - The Vesper - a vibe designed to be worn as a thin chained necklace - look good, feel good

Screaming O - muff diver - 'nuff said.     Fun Factory - The Bouncer with different weights inside to change sensation

Tantus  - stilll a classic in the silicone toy world, Metis Black keeps her designs fresh and classic. 

UberLube -Astroglide Diamond Gel - two lubricants I'd recommend.  

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Jan. 5, 2015, Kim Airs, Bubble Love, Lesbian Sex Toys, Sex Toy Trends, Prostate Toys for Men and all Things Sex Toys

Kim Airs, blogger, founder of Grand Openings Bubble Love marketer and sexual helath advocate joins me to talk about what we expect to see at upcoming adult novelty trade shosw. ANME, XBIZ, SHE and AVN.  We'll also cover Bubble Love the revolutionary product for women who love water stimulation.  Many, many women first learn about orgasms in the shower and bathtub and the inventor crested this product because that is what his wife loves.  Smart man.  What lubes to use, sex toy trends, anal play for men and its association with prostate health.  And some things we'd like to see less of. 

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Dec. 29, 2014 Best Sex In The News 2014

Sex in the News in 2014 was varied and constant.  I look at things I feel had greatest impact in 2014.  Same sex marriage, Bill Cosby's reported sex abuses, hip hip hooray for Pope Francis and his comments on gay worshippers, Cuddle Clubs and why they are needed, increasing trend of Open relationships and marriages, Tinder impact on dating/hookups/relationships or should I say lack thereof.  Increase of infertility and its impact. How Ryan Robertson's suicide completely changed his evangelical parents attitude about how damaging Reparative Therapy.  Dan Savage's 'It Only Gets Better". The Trevor Project.    That Michelle Duggar should 'Button it" about her comments on transgender.  Her comments are irresponsible and she is sadly misinformed and is being used as shill for three politicians in Fayetteville.  FYI - Michelle these transgeneder individuals are 'God's Gift' as well. Fifty Shades continuing impact. Joycelyn elders Chair in Sexual Health Education newly seated chair Dr. Michael Ross.  

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Dec 15, 2014 - Best Christmas Gift I Ever Received, Best Couples' Sex Toys, Essential Lists for Your Life,

I read about how The BEST Christmas gift I ever received wasn't at all what I expected.  I cover Best Sex Toy gifts for people and  Couples - We-Vibe 4, Anaeros (anal sex) , Dai-Do #1 and #4, SportSheets, OhMiBod, Bubble Love, AfterGlow, Crave - Duet, Fixsation and others, making an Essential List for 2014/2015.  Summitatsea.ca.  Questions or issues you'd like me to address. 

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Nov. 24.2014 What are You Thankful About in your Relationships and Life? Thanksgiving

Lou talks about hwo you can create a better stronger connected relationship and sex life by What and How you are Thankful. And there is NO better time to practice being THANKFUL than Thanksgiving oten surrounded by people who push your buttons 'cause baby they put them there.  Have a lovely holiday and Thanksgiving all.   

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Nov. 10, 2014 Lynn Brown Rosenberg -Author My Sexual Awakening at 70 - AKA a 70 Year Old "Virgin" Awakens Her Sexual Self

Author of My Sexual Awakening at 70.  Widowed and asexual for 15 years Rosenberg's tipping point was realizing she hadn't had sex for 15 years and went on a misssion to address her repressed sexuality.  Step 1, change meds, Step 2 great advice from her doctor and therapist and Lynn Brown Rosenberg discovered vibrators, fabulous orgams and an aliveness about herself and sexuality she'd never had.  

Her first online sex chatroom. How two conversations with her parents stunted her sexuality for 69 years.  What messages she'd like women to know.  

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Nov. 2, 2014 Lou Shares Best Ideas for Choosing and Drawing in Your Best Lover & My Preachers of LA segment Season #2- Show 9, Safe, Sane, Sanctified

Lou Shares Best Ideas for Choosing and Drawing in your Best Lover & Sex in The News, Preachers of LA Segment 

Sex in the News - i) How a boat becomes a 'Turkish Slave'???  ii) I think the real people who need to be called on the carpet abut the Honey Boo-Boo sexual abuse issue are the producers.  They should have known from the beginning what the true histories were, meaning did they actually do them background checks about any sexual abuse that occurred.    

My Preachers of LA segment Season #2- Show 9, Safe, Sane, Sanctified 

Choosing Your Best Lover and Partner

1) Be Clear what works for YOU

2) Remove your ego from the selection.  The "list" is your brain not your heart choosing

3) Be Realistic - if you are 50 lbs overweight to what you want to choose based on your here and now, that is how you'll be seen.  

4) Love something else - Love is magnetic it shows a passion, focus and willingness to pay attention to someone other than you.  Be it a dog, artwork or _____.  People who are interested in things are INTERESTING. 

5) Focus, Focus, Focus, Focus.  Know what you want and constantly revisit throughout the day.  First thing as you wake up and last thing when you go to sleep. 

6) TALK to the person, not just text, FB.  Relationships and Love occur in person not cyberspace.

7) Be Grateful, show gratitude for what you have, even if it is "I got up this morning'.

8) Forgive - yourself and others - stay in the now not the past.  It's gone bye bye. Consider using Hawaiian mantra prayer - I'm Sorry, I Forgive You, Thank You , I Love You. 

9) Find Faith in You.  

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Oct. 27, 2014 Rose Caraway Editor THE SEXY LIBRARIAN'S BIG BOOK of EROTICA

Rose Caraway Editor THE SEXY LIBRARIAN'S BIG BOOK of EROTICA. Imagine having your very own Erotica Librarian!!!   Well that's what Rose Caraway has done.  From Perfect Massages, to Shibari girl power to Clinical orgasms in space to Horror Erotica, Caraway's anthology covers 22 very unique and highly erotic tales ideal for anyone looking for new twists on erotic themes.  Trust me this is a must for any afficiando of erotica.  Check out her thekissmequicks.com Caraway's Sexy Librarian Blog-cast the inspiration for this book.  

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Oct. 13, 2014 REALLY?!!?! One Woman's Adventures of Dating in the Digital Age - Roslyn Fleischer AKA Beulah Sanchez

Roslyn Fleischer AKA Beulah Sanchez  Author REALLY?!!?! One Woman's Adventures of Dating in the Digital Age

A guidebook by a woman who has walked the convoluted and less than straight road of digital dating. And the real reason for many on these sites despite their claims of seeking connection falls into one of the following categories:

Facetime Sex, Kink Sex, Tantric Sex, Great Sex, Dreadful Sex oh ans much more: LOL real advebtures in dating.   

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Sept. 29, 2014 MICHAEL RUSSER www.kickstarterlaunch.com "Helping Men Become What Women Love"

MICHAEL RUSSER www.kickstarterlaunch.com "Helping Men Become What Women Love"

My colleague Michael Russer and I cover his new Milennial-focused Kickstarter based program kickstarterlaunch.com starting October 8th, for his book and program  'Helping Men Become What Women Love.  This powerful never-before-created program is a step by step Guide for singles and couples to create EXTRAORDINARY INTIMACY through emotional, physical and spiritual intimacy.  Michael's own journey through impotence to Extraordinary Intimacy was the starting point for this completely unique model for loving, lasting relationships that people have always sought. 

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Sept. 15, 2014 Married At First Sight, Fifty Shades, Necessary Endings

I laughingly start with a video of Older adults reacting to the 50 Shades of Grey  Trailer.  They had a great range of responses that reflects the general population in the HuffPost Gold for the Soul.  

Reading Necessary Endings by Henry Cloud and his wisdom also applies to our sex lives and relationships. We have all seen there are absolutely times when we should have ended a sexual relationship, business relationship and or a personal relationship.   Also Want to Be Kissed The Way You Want?  Lou talks about that.

My New Guilty Pleasure - Married at First Sight - this show is  a window on how couples enter relationships.  Anyone who is a therapist or wants to learn about love and relationships should glue their eyeballs to this show.  They may call it a 'Social Experiment" yet it is an experiment that is working. 

The Married At First Sight Expert team of Pepper Schwartz PhD, Logan Levkoff PhD, Joseph Cilona PhD and Greg Epstein did an amazing job of selecting the couples and supporting these three couples through this journey.

A HUGE validation that when you are in a relationship or choosing a partner use the experts you have around you.   

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Sept. 8, 2014 PhoneEroticSexTalk.com founder-Sharon Summers

EroticTalkPhoneSex.com Enterpreneur Sharon Summer and I talk about what happens within an erotic phone call business.  What are the best things people get from erotic talk?  Masturbation with a friend.  How does one get started in this? How and Who trains you?  Sharon's world is a blend of part business, part sex, part eroticism.  Who are their customers? Unique characteristics of some customers.  Adult virgins are one group. Growing interest trends? How are you different from cam girls? 

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Sept. 22, 2014 Instantly Increase Your SEX APPEAL

Whether it is a woman or a man - I am constantly asked by people who are single "How do I make myself be more appealing?  How do I 'DRAW' in my soul mate, my partner?"  So HERE we GO!!!  HOW TO INSTANTLY INCREASE YOUR SEX APPEAL.  One of your most powerful and seductive behaviors is your ATTENTION.  How you pay ATTENTION, ATTENTION is a gift, it is a powerful energy that only one person can gve to another.  LISTENING is another powerful tool you have should you use it.  Gentle lIstening will give you a life and relationship unlike you ever expected.

I suggest you do a LIST of 5 Items - You want and 5 that make YOU attractive to your partner.

When you walk with the behaviors of: Confidence, Attention, Gentle Listening, Gentle Speaking you will create a completely new world for you and your heart. 

 

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08/18/14 Love and Sex in the Last Days of Summer

To start I describe what the Grapefruit Blowjob by Auntie Angel is and why it might have appeal for some.  Summer is sex and relationships so as we head into the last days of summer are you looking for what you want in your life?  If so activate the Law of Attraction.  Ask yourself WHAT you REALLY want.  What and Who do you really love?  Take my quick quiz and see where you're focused. Want to know if you have a purpose in being here?  Read Proof of Heaven.  Want the sex life you want - Are you doing personal work?  How are YOU taking care of your heart? Some Sex in the News stories. 

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Show #080414 Sexual Dreams and Fantasies - Lou Interprets

Ever dreamt about doing that person at work and you wake up worried you're going to cheat or secretly wnat out of your relationship.   Not necessarily!!  It may be for  arange of other reasons.  Ever had a nocturnal orgasm?  One where you're asleep and it happens?  Kinsey's research found 40% of women have had them with women in their 40's being the largest number. Want to create erotc dreams?  Read erotica just before going to slepp and keep a VERY deatiled Dream journal.  Sometimes you'll be surprised where youur fantasies come from.   

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Show #72814 July 28, 2014 Sex In The News, Does an Affair Mean the End?, Married at First Sight, 50 Shades Trailer

Lou covers her favorites of the week - Does an affair doom a relationship?  Not necessarily according to Esther Perel.   My previous guest Dr. Pepper Schwartz agrees with Perel that we now have changing ways of dealing with non-monogamy.  Why I am curious people are judging the 50 Shades film solely by the trailer and in many cases they really don't have the right to do so.  My new guilty pleasure married at First Sight a social experiment to see if science can help choose your ideal partner. Drawing from the very low arranged marriage divorce stats four experts pair three couples who meet at the altar.

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Show #72114 July 21/2014 All Things Sex Toys with Kim Airs

Kim Airs of Grandopenings.com and Bubble Love is my guest post our attending the Adult Novelty Manufacturers Expo  (ANME) held semi-annually in Los Angeles. We talk what's new in sex toys, trends in products the new ZANE line, CRAVE make your own vibe promotion which is a great product, SPORTSHEETS new Light Bondage product line for plus size women and first in the industry. 

 

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Show #71414 July 14/2014 Pepper Schwartz PhD The Normal Bar, AARP Sex Survey, Sex Behavior Trends and my NEW guilty pleasure

 

The fabulous Pepper Schwartz, PhD Sociologist at  U of Washington and I discuss her in depth AARP survey and what surprised her in the responses. We talk about her latest book The Normal Bar and in looking at trends what surprised me is what she would study if she was new coming into this field.  THEN we talk about her part in my NEW guilty pleasure.  Pepper is the expert sociologist on the TV show MARRIED AT FIRST SIGHT.

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Show #624 June 30/2014 Lou covers Sex In The News.

Lou weighs in on SEX IN THE NEWS - SCOTUS  Supreme Court Rulings re Hobby Lobby, refusing to hear a Gay Conversion Therapycase for California.  Articles that aren't what they seem to be suggesting in telling you watch TV have more sex, and another that tells you men want more foreplay.  Both aren't what they seem to be and Lou tells you why.

 

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7/21/14 Let's Talk Sex Toys with Kim Airs of BubbleLove

New Vibes, Classic Toys, and some You've Got to Be Kidding!!! Fresh from the Adult Novelty Expo 2014 Kim Airs of BubbleLove and I will review current sex toy trends and what's new in the sex pleasure arena.  There are more small manufacturers who are creating unique personally driven items and marketing hooks.  Crave has a 'make-your-own-vibe, Angel Falls is a water powered vibrator literally all you need is a shower head.  Viratex has a technologically updated Original Rabbit Habit - think Sex in The City vibe that is now 2014 current, and their Black Pearl prostate massager.   

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Show #623 June 23, 2014 Sex in the News, from Duggard wedding to Perez Hilton's prostate exam to George Clooney to Hookup Culture

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Lou gives her take on Sex in the Media.  The Sudanese Christian woman released, about Dov Charney getting fired from American Apparel, why she feels George Clooney chose Amal Alamuddin, importance of Jill Duggard's wedding, NastyGal.com's Sophie Amoruso's book Girl Boss.  The wacky news items of Perez Hilton and Benjy Bronk's prostate exam from a weight loss bet on the Howard Stern show to the student getting stuck in the vagina/vulva sculture in Germany. 

How to REALLY read sexualithy focused articles and how chances are the titles are misleading.  TVs in the bedroom lead to more sex and Men Wanting More foreplay get debunked.  Women who are having lots of sex - the gender baises and surprising reason according to Marrie Lobel @dirtyinpublic.com. She refers to Paula England's Hook-Up Culture research. The appeal of the Blue-Eyed felon. 

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June 9, 2014 Show 609 Lou Covers Sex in the News and FAQ - e.g.) Faked Orgasms

Lou does her recap of SEX IN THE NEWS and FAQ she is asked about SEX.  

CBS Sunday Trans Childen video and why it's important. Mark Schoen's TRANS documentary film great insight of Trans children and adults.

Faking orgasm questions - how can you tel?  How do I choose a lubricant?  

Fantasies - worried about fantasizing with husband.  Difference between fantasies and fetishes. How can I introduce Fantasies into my relationship?  

My Seven YOURTANGO.COM video segments, www.yourtango.com.  Search on site - Lou Paget videos

How can I tell how I taste I worry I don't taste okay.  I worry that my semen is too strong what can I do?  

What do BDS and M stand for in BDSM?  

My partner doesn't stay hard when he goes down on me.  What can I do?  

The damage and nonsense of Reparative Therapy that a GOP memeber wants to promote.  

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June 2nd, 2014, Show 602 -Kristin Newman - What I Was Doing While You Were Breeding - A Memoir

Kristin Newman - Life Lessons in a Showrunning Comedic writer's Memoir.  Perfect for airchair travelers and fans of comedic memoirs.  WHAT I WAS DOING WHILE YOU WERE BREEDING is a refreshing and wildly funy debut from a born stroyteller.  Kristin Newman's irreverent tales of sowing her wild oats will have readers scrambling to pack theis suitcases and follow her lead. Released may 20, 2014 

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Show 526 - May 26, 2014 - LOU COVERS SEX IN THE NEWS

  SEX IN THE NEWS 

1) Santa Barbara Kilings are they tied only to his virginity?

2) Decades long National Case of Slut Shaming - Monica Lewinsky

3) Learning how to read sex articles - Weird thing that makes people Unsupportive of Gay Marriage - look at who and why the article is wrriten and then follow th emoney - who benefits from it.  Look at the site publishing it, PLOS ONE is an open paltform with a 'publish first judge later.' A bit like the crappy tech products we get that are no longer beta tested. 

4) Sex Trafficking Has Reached Facebook - no shock on that

5) Neko Case's reaction to Playboy's sexist tweet - you have to know your audience

6) Out of Touch Sex in The News - Warner Todd Huston - Sex Education and optional liefstyle classes are part of the root problem that caused the Santa Barbara killing spree....Oh REALLY????  

 

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May 19, 2014-Show 519-Troublesome Turn-Ons / Do Parents Make Their Kids Gay? Dr. Winston Wilde

May 19, 2014 Troublesome Turn-Ons Dr. Winston Wilde - www.winstonwilde.com

Dr. Wilde is a Doctorate in Human Sexuality and a California MFT.  Sexuality is such a personal world with so much public social policy that Troubling Turn-Ons can occur for many individuals.  Dr. Wilde can be reached at www.winstonwilde.com and http://desertsexcenter.com/staff.  

1) What determines a Troubling Torn-On?  

2)  How Does Turn-On differ from Fantasy?  Or does it?

3) Examples of cases. Smoking, Orgasm only with thoughts of genocide, reality of most people who are attracted to minors, only turned on when highly jealous, partners must see him as 20 years younger, Jimmy Swaggert's prostitution attraction. 

4) Do parents Make Their Kids Gay? Research looking at American children over twenty years says NO. 

5) Lou comments on Recent Sex in Media. Jean Franzblau's Coming Out Kinky, California Women's Conference, Dr. Marissa Pei - Asian Oprah. 

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May 12, 2014 - LOU WEIGHS IN ON SEX IN THE NEWS

Lou Paget SEX IN  THE NEWS...May 12/2014  AKA Become a Shrew Consumer of Media Sex Info.

1) Checkout this link to my contribution - http://www.everydayhealth.com/news/what-when-shes-not-interested-sex

2) Wide Hipped Woman have More Sex Partners...oh really???

3) Women trying to sing while orgasming

4) Willow Smith her mother Jada Pinkett Smith's real comment

5) Michael Sam openly gay in NFL draft - his job is football his heart knows who he loves

6) Conchita Wurst Eurovision winner

7) Coming Out Kinky - Jean Franzblau

8) Emily Letts - video during abortion

9) Hanna Kern - Med School auctioning virginity

10) Professor sued over obsession with students bondage porn past

11) SIECUS REPORT 2013

12) Winston Wilde next week Troubling Turn ons

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May 5, 2014 Dr. Hernando Chaves - Trends in Sex Ed and Therapy - What Needs to be Kept/Repurposed or Deleted?

Hernando Chaves, MFT and DHS and I will cover the following questions:

Find him @ www.drhernandocahves.com, askmen.com

Dr Chaves will share what had him get into this field

1) Trends in Sex Education and Therapy…What needs to be kept/repurposed or deleted?

2) In the College Sex Eduction classes you teach what has changed since you started?   More med/drug impacts? Demo of females and males who have only had porn as sex ed source?

3) Have any stats on at age of 18 who has had sex education @ pleasure and anatomy?  1/3,/1/3, 1/3

4) Speaking of body awareness can we touch on your expertise @ circumcision?  Read an article last week in Toronto as a Canadian group of pediatricians are meeting to set up guidelines.  What would you tell them?

5) What are the most common questions you are asked?     Same for students and clients?

6)  Trend of more gender variability?  Your site Drhernandochaves.com have QULTBAG  can you explain what that acronym stands for?

7) Favorite websites for clients and students look at.  Why?

8)  The importance of addressing where each demographic gets its information and how they present,  these adolescents - social media, porn, sexting

9)  Talked @ KINK.com and its extreme nature - talk to me about how the level of extremity can impact arousal.

10)  You've used surrogates for clients in what situations have you done so?

11) Do students / clients relate to celeb behavior sexually.  Relationship interactions of the RH (Real Housewives) series?

12)  Has the greater willingness of celebs to come out help your clients?  

13)  How long do most people stay in therapy?  Obviously individual.

14)  Areas of sexuality you won't touch?

15)  Most satisfying clients/student results? .

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4.14.14 KIM AIRS -BUBBLELOVE- What's Next in Sex Toys AKA The Business of Selling Pleasure

 

 

 

 

KIM AIRS - WHAT'S NEXT IN SEX TOYS...BUBBLELOVE

Kim has been in just about every area of commerce related to sexuality.  Owner Grand Openings, Sex Educator, Entrepreneur, did Sex Toy Parties, is a Sex Toy and Product Developer and Consultant, and in her free time Blogger for XBiz and motorcycle afficiando.

We'll discuss her history in sex toys and retail, new trends, what she sees as new on the sex toy horizon AND her newest venture BubbleLove!!!!  A brand new to the market innovative sex toy for women who love to use water for self-stim.  

 

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APRIL 9, 2014. JEAN FRANZBLAU COMING OUT KINKY; A Grown-Up Story

JEAN FRANZBLAU - PRODUCER/WRITER/PERFORMER Coming Out Kinky

World Premiere May 3rd, 2014 - www.comingoutkinky.brownpapertickets.com

We are going to talk about her journey and discovery of Kink. And we'll talk about everything!!!

When she was a little girl, Jean believed that sex must be bad and made the impossible commitment to never be sexual. The show tracks her unusual path of exploration as she discovers that sex is a natural and wonderful part of the human experience. Jean Franzblau is also a corporate training professional. She has given presentations on topics such as customer service, communication and stress management in six countries for up to three hundred people. Find her on Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn.

 

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April 2, 2014 Sexological Bodywork - Lara Catone and Diego Wallraff

SEXOLOGICAL BODYWORKERS - LARA CANTONE and DIEGO WALLRAFF C.S.B./LMT

Oh GOOD I’ve got your attention!!!  Lara Catone and Diego Wallraff are California State Board of Education Certified SEXOLOGICAL BODYWORKERS. 

What does a sexological bodywork session look like? What are the main issues that bring people to Lara and Diego?  Are these sessions only in person?  Is anyone nude?  How does this differ from Sexual Surrogacy?  How long does it take?  How did you do your training and where?

 

Both Lara Catone and Diego Wallraff have extensive backgrounds in body healing therapies, yoga, massage therapy, breath work and tantra, yet there were still times they could not reach or help previous clients release or connect to what was blocking them.   Sexological Bodywork was the solution for them. 

 

www.LaraCatone.com


www.ATouchFromTheHeart.com

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March 26, 2014 Lou Looks at Current Sex Positive News

Lou covers Sex in The Media, from Lady Gaga to Bisexuality, World's Worst Dater to Porn Studies, Duck Dynasty's anti-gay stance to Gay Marriage in Michigan...and why the mindset behind both is the same.  Given we are inundated by media presented 'factoids' often from the same news feed services it behooves us as consumers to adopt a Caveat Emptor attitude and become our own informed consumer of information especially in the arena of our sexuality.

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March 19, 2014 Mark Michaels and Patricia Johnson Authors - Partners in Passion.

Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson Partners in Passion
Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson

About the Authors:
A graduate of NYU and Yale, Mark A Michaels writes for scholarly and legal publications and his plays have been produced off-Broadway. He took his first Tantra class in 1997 and gave his first lecture on the subject two years later.

Patricia Johnson spent many years as a professional operatic soprano. In 1999, a longstanding interest in Tantra inspired her to attend a lecture by Mark Michaels, now her husband and collaborator. Since then, she and Michaels have taught and lectured throughout the world. They live in New York City.

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March 12, 2014 Lorraine Brodek author A NOBODY in a SOMEBODY World, My Hollywood Life in Beverly Hills.

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LORRAINE HOLNBACK BRODEK author of A NOBODY in a SOMEBODY World, My Hollywood Life in Beverly Hills.  Lorraine was guided by a comment from Jonathan Winters to 'Turn your brain into a camera and take little mental snapshots of all the going's on.'  And take snapshots she did.  Lorraine grew up in A-List Beverly Hills in the 50's and has seen the Hollywood world as an insider who could observe undetected.  Why?  because as her dear friend Erma Bombeck stated, she was a 'nobody'.  Blending her long career in production and marketing within the Hollywood studio system Brodek recounts an insider's veiw of slices of Beverly Hills people, hollywood events and on the road productions.

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March 5, 2014 Ellen Dolgen - Creator of the Singing Uterus, Perimenopause & Menopause Health Advocate AKA The Vagina Whisperer


ELLEN DOLGEN - www.ellendolgen.com. Join me and the hilarious Ellen Dolgen. Want to hear about - O Shot? Hormones? Sex Advice? Dolgen is part health advocate, part best girlfriend and part educator about Perimenopause and Menopause. Author of Shimirshky, and creator of what a twitter writer suggested The Oscar go to the Singing Uterus and host of Menopause Mondays @ ellendolgen.com

Suffering in Silence is OUT, Reaching out is IN!!!!

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Sex and the Little People - Dr. Marylou Naccarato

Sex and the Little People.  Standing a statuesque 3'11" Marylou Naccarato DHS, PhD(c) is a little person, and a Sexuality Educator. 

www.DrMarylou.com

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Dr. Marylou conducts explicit educational and entertaining sex and relationship workshops, for all people who desire to heighten their sensuality and intimacy. She shares fun creative techniques, sex positions, and a variety of adult toys that are suited to your range of mobility!

She also holds private and group sessions for teens, adult individuals and/or couples. One of her goals is to bring forth issues regarding sensuality and intimacy for people with short stature, disabilities, or chronic illness. She personally believes that everyone is disabled or “differently-abled” in one way or another. “It’s all a matter of degree, and whether your condition is visibly noticeable” she states. Dr. Marylou also conducts educational sexuality seminars for students and professional clinicians in the field of Sexology, Sex Therapy, and Rehabilitation Therapy.

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Lou Gives 5 Quizzes to get you Sex and Relationship Ready

#WeCantDateIf is the inspiration for tonight's #sextalkwithlou.  Quizzes to get you ready for sex and love.

Quiz #1 - Do a Real Analysis of Yourself?  In a Realtionship - How's it working?

Quiz #2 - Your Body - Its Care and feeding.

Quiz #3 - Clear About What you Want? 

Quiz #4 - What's Your Reationship & Sex History - no time to lie to yourself

Quiz #5 - Looking For Them

 

 

 

 

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SEX After Women Share How Intimacy Changes As Life Changes - Author Iris Krasnow

IRIS KRASNOW - SEX After Women Share How Intimacy Changes As Life Changes

Below is my testimonial for her book.

"This book will start conversations that need to be had, and discussions about female sexual health and pleasure that need to be better understood.     I know only too well that some of the best and most practical advice comes from those who had been there.  I also know change to and in our sex lives is inevitable and that women want to know what other women really do to recreate their intimate and sexual landscape.   Part validation, part guide, part supportive girlfriend Sex After is your close girlfriends in book form sharing the real goods and I mean real goods on what they did and do. 

 

 

How can a woman sustain intimacy through the many physical and emotional shifts of the female growth cycle?

Sex After… is filled with advice in the voices of 150 women, from waitresses to CEOs, ages twenty to eighty-eight. Their stories are raw and prescriptive, describing the challenges that can arise in each phase of a woman's life – from navigating the hooking-up culture in the twenties, to sexuality after pregnancy, midlife malaise, breast cancer, menopause, divorce, widowhood.

The interviews with ordinary women are bolstered by expert commentary from sex researchers, gynecologists, oncologists, and therapists, coming together in an all-encompassing exploration and explanation of everything about sex you are dealing with, or are curious about that lies ahead.

Sex After… offers a clear and hopeful roadmap to how to push through the obstacles that affect a woman's most intimate relationships. The giddy Golden Girls in the book are proof that, with creativity and an open mind, the sizzle can last a lifetime! (Men will love this book, too.)

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We-Vibe AKA The Company Helps You Get Your Groove On

The We-Vibe story is part entrepreneurial dream and part ideal marketing timing.  My guest is Tori Parker the Director of Business Development  - The Americas.  I always look for company's that have superior products and an honest work ethos.   we-vibe.com  The newest addition is the We-Vibe 4.

Daydreaming to the hum of his car tires on the asphalt during a long road trip, inventor Bruce Murison wondered why there wasn't a massager that could just slide in between a couple while they made love. That started a journey of another type for Bruce and his wife, Melody. The more Bruce researched, the more he found an industry full of products that were intimidating, poorly designed and cheaply made. Bruce and Melody founded Standard Innovation Corporation and Bruce dedicated himself to the enormous — and enormously important — task of creating safe, high-quality, eco-friendly sexual wellness products that enhance the lovemaking experience for couples. Many years and thousands of design iterations later, the patented, silicone-encased, worn while making love We-Vibe was born. Since then, We-Vibe products have taken the world by storm. They are enjoyed by millions of couples, from all walks of life and aged from 18 to over 80 years old, and have become among the fastest selling sexual wellness products of its type in history.

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Kristina Wright Erotica Author Bedded Bliss & XOXO

Bedded Bliss - A Couple's Guide to Lust Ever After  &  XOXO SWEET AND SEXY ROMANCE her two most recent books, Cleis Press, 2013/2014

www.KristinaWright.com / FB/twitter/ just about everywhere!!

This is Erotica Night!!!Tonight my guest is award winning erotica writer Kristina Wright whose life actually is more like yours than you could imagine.  Just with a little twist. These are Kristina's own words;

" I just celebrated my 23rd wedding anniversary and I have been writing erotica and erotic romance for almost 15 years, tapping into the desires of average people who often write me notes saying they wish they could share their fantasies with their partner. The book covers every stage of marriage, from newlywed to middle age and beyond, including the ups and downs of parenting, long distance separations, changes in libido, etc. In 23 years, I've experienced just about everything marriage has to offer and I am happy to share my experience and wisdom with readers, along with asking a dozen erotica authors-- all of whom are in long-term relationships ranging from 5 to over 30 years-- to contribute their anecdotes, memoir and erotic fiction."

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Charlie Glickman, Ph.D., Author The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure

Charlie Glickman, Ph.D. Sexuality Educator, Author, Speaker and Trainer

www.charlieglickman.com, facebook.com/charlieglickman, Twitter @charlieglickman, www.makesexeasy.com

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Again I get to interview Charlie Glickman about his break through book, The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure.  We have tons of material, research and awareness about the Female G Spot and finally the Male G Spot is getting its spotlight.  The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure - finally a plain speaking, solid sex education book for Prostate Pleasure.  As two top Sex Educators, Charlie Glickman PhD and Aislinn Emirzian have put together an easy reading book on a subject that is equal parts prostate health and powerful sexual pleasure. Charlie, Aislinn and I will debunk myths, (You are not secretly gay if you like this type of pleasure!!!) and answer the most commonly asked 'wrong' questions and deliver for women and men the potential of Prostate Pleasure.  

Men are more aware of their need for a PSA test yet few are aware that Prostate health and pleasure are closely aligned.  The Bend Over Boyfriend video series opened a new awareness that straight men enjoy penetrative play with their female partners. I know the sales numbers of hetero strap-on products with just one company were astronomical!!!

Charlie can be found at http://www.charlieglickman.com and Aislinn , www.aislinnemirzian.com.

Charlie Glickman PhD has been a sexuality educator for over twenty years. He teaches workshops on a wide range of topics, including sex-positivity, sex & shame, gender & masculinity, sexual orientation, communities of erotic affiliation, and many sexual practices such as prostate play, anal sex, pegging, sex toys, BDSM, and polyamory. Charlie is certified as a sexuality educator by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists and he regularly presents at conferences and community events, offers trainings on sexuality for medical professionals, therapists, and clergy.

Charlie is available for speaking engagements, in-service trainings, and workshops. You can find more information about him on his website.

Aislinn Emirzian is a workshop instructor and sex coach based in San  Francisco. She first became a sex educator at Smith College, and later worked with sex positive adult toy stores like Oh My  Sensuality Shop in Massachusetts and Good Vibrations in California. Over the years, she has taught workshops on a wide range   of topics, but prostate  pleasure is her favorite! Find her at www.aislinnemirzian.com.

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Lou does her Final Show of 2013 - Sexual Zeitgeist 2013 - Coalition to Support America's Heroes R2R, Children of the Night, Ideal Partner

Lou does her Final Show of 2013 - Starting with Sexual Zeitgeist 2013 - Joycelyn Elders Chair in Sexual Health Education fully funded, Pope Francis as a powerful role model, Coalition to Support America's Heroes R2R, Children of the Night, Ideal Partner Exercise. 

The powerful experience of being invited to attend The Road to Recovery with other panel members for the Relationships, Sexuality and Quality of Life panel and breakout sessions.   Panel members were Lou Paget CSE, Linda Mona PhD, Bill Stayton ThD, PhD, Tom Stewart CEO Sportsheets, Mitch Tepper PhD.  Medical Anthropologist Zoe Wool and PhD Anthropology student Antoinette Izzo, Diane Paget RN, BN also provided support to these 100 families.

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Sexual Thanksgiving and Gratitude
Kristina Wright - Erotica author Bedded Bliss

This is Erotica Night!!!Tonight my guest is award winning erotica writer Kristina Wright whose life actually is more like yours than you could imagine.  Just with a little twist. These are Kristina's own words;

" I just celebrated my 23rd wedding anniversary and I have been writing erotica and erotic romance for almost 15 years, tapping into the desires of average people who often write me notes saying they wish they could share their fantasies with their partner. The book covers every stage of marriage, from newlywed to middle age and beyond, including the ups and downs of parenting, long distance separations, changes in libido, etc. In 23 years, I've experienced just about everything marriage has to offer and I am happy to share my experience and wisdom with readers, along with asking a dozen erotica authors-- all of whom are in long-term relationships ranging from 5 to over 30 years-- to contribute their anecdotes, memoir and erotic fiction."

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Jackie Silver - THE Expert on Aging Backwards

Ever wanted to slow down the clock physically?  Reverse it??  Well tonight's guest Jackie Silver is the expert voice YOU have been waiting for.  Seriously this woman has 5 Steps to have you rejuvenate / age backwards. And one of them is looking at your earlobes.  

She taught me things I never expected would be indicators and simple daily ways to 'AGE BACKWARDS"

Below is from Jackie's site:  www.agingbackwards.com

Hi! So glad you stopped by! Check out all my secrets, tips and shortcuts for staying young and gorgeous, and just have fun exploring here. You’ll also find the latest beauty and anti-aging news and reviews. Plus, you’ll get great advice from some of the best experts in the world.

In case you’re wondering, I wasn’t just “born this way.” It’s taken some, um, work and a whole lot of research. Want proof? Click on the purple button to see me at age 12. Okay, blow dryers weren’t invented yet! LOL

When it comes to looking beautiful and young, I do all the research for you so all you have to do is just show up!

 

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Lou on Halloween fantasies, Your Tango, Sex After...

 

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Michael Russer and Jacky Lopez - The inspiration for webinar Extraordinary Intimacy

Michael Russer was my guest on August 8th and I knew I was hearing a positive we-can-do message that many many couples needed to hear.  That erectile issues and impotence are NOT the END of your love life. As a result Michael and I collaborated on the beta test webinar EXTRAORDINARY INTIMACY - a 4 week program to share this ground breaking attitude and step by step method.

So tonight I have the gift of Michael and his partner Jacky Lopez on to share their story of creating intimacy they did not know was possible.  These are two entrepreneurs with busy lives and they will share how they have been able to create this intimacy.  Then in the second half Micheal and I will discuss what we learned from our beta testers and what our next steps are for the EXTRAORDINARY INTIMACY webinar series.

Michael Russer's upcoming book (2014 release)  “HARDLY BROKEN – One man’s journey to extraordinary intimacy in the face of full impotence”    FYI - You can go to http://hardlybroken.com to pre-register for various benefits prior to his book being published.

BIO: Michael J. Russer
Beginning in September of 2011 Michael began a year-long personal transformation that included a diagnosis of prostate cancer, radical prostatectomy, follow up intensive radiation treatments and full blown impotence. He considers his resulting impotence to be one of the biggest blessings in his life.  It is because of his impotence that he and his partner discovered an entirely new approach to experiencing levels of emotional and physical intimacy that far exceeds anything either experienced prior to when things were working “correctly”. It is his personal mission in life to serve other couples who struggle with emotional and physical intimacy due to ED, impotence or simply because they have lost their “spark” and use his communications skills to share what he has learned worldwide. Prior to this phase of his life, Michael was a highly regarded international speaker and author about the Internet. His media experience includes keynotes, radio and TV interviews, videos, articles for national publications and voiceovers.

Media Contact Information » Phone: 805-280-8271 | Email: media@HeartOpenLLC.com | Fax: 775-360-4907

Social Media Channels » Twitter | Facebook | Linked In | YouTube

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Olga Cohen, Olga's Secret Vaginal Renewal Complex.

Olga Cohen went into full fledged menopause at the age of 43, as a new bride, complete with unpleasant mood swings and extreme hot flashes. She'd tried hormone replacement for ten years, but stopped after the bad press about the health complications associated with hormone replacement. She could not believe how, almost immediately, so many symptoms returned. Worse, she had a terrible new symptom: painful vaginal dryness.

 She started researching solutions for the problem, and she could not find anything in the market that offered long term results. Luckily, after decades in the cosmetics industry as the owner of a manufacturing company, she had knowledge and access to many natural ingredients.  After having a conversation with Dr. Leo Galland, an intergraded medical doctor, she tried using GLA several times a week -- squeezing the oil directly into the vagina. It took about a month and then she started noticing a difference. The results were dramatic: a complete end to the dryness. When she visited her gynecologist, she could not believe it. Her gynecologist could actually see the difference.

 Olga knew that if she were having these problems, then there must be other women experiencing the same symptoms.  And her gynecologist confirmed that acute dryness was one of the most common complaints she heard in her practice. They agreed it was vital to bring this treatment to other women. 

Since then, Olga has come to realize that painful vaginal dryness is not just caused by menopause, but can be the result of a wide variety of physical conditions. Dryness is also experienced by women who have just given birth, who have had a hysterectomy, or who are suffering from cancer or autoimmune disease.

WITH THE HELP OF DR. MIRIAM GREENE AND DR. LEO GALLAND, Grohen Technologies has developed InnerIntimates™ Vaginal Renewal Complex. Vaginal Renewal Complex offers a safe and easy solution for vaginal dryness. As Olga says, " It’s my little secret that is helping countless women look, feel, and live better."

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Lou Dishing on her current activities, Dr. Joycelyn Elders, yourtango.com

Lou discusses current media she has done. I am the Vice-Chair for the fund raising council that is finalizing the Dr. Joycelyn Elders Chair in Sexual Health Education. Former US Surgeon General Dr Elders knows that sexual health education is the key to ending the poverty cycle of 'babies having babies".  If or a loved one identifies with Dr. Elders and her legacy please contact me about potential donations to the Elders Chair.

I was one of four YourTango.com Experts @ living together + or - before marriage. FYI - do not practice Psychic Sex or Psychic Relationships.

Ornabakes.com blog that I am posting to @ body image and self esteem. I cover Week #2 of Seven Days of Sexy. I talked about Week #1 last week.

Given Manners, Etiquette and Deportment were my specialty before I started talking about sex I see a direct correlation between the two. I LOVE Judith Martin's Miss Manners book and pull references from there during the show. 

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3G Sex Talk Lou Paget and her Twin Diane

3G= Girlfriends, Glass of Wine and talking about Getting Your Groove on or in some cases back....

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Are We Being Drugged Out of Good Sex? Madeleine Castellanos M.D.

Madeleine Castellanos M.D. Psychiatrist. 

www.reclaimyoursexuality.com

When I had Dr. Castellanos on a month ago I knew I had to have her back to address the growing impact on medicatins on people's sex lives.  People we have a real problem and the wave hasn't even crested yet.  

Here are some topics we'll cover, and I wnat to start the trend of hwo to get off them and return brain and sexual function.  That is a very Big Job .

Chemical Imbalance.  Brain imbalance.  My understanding is there is no theory for this and no demonstrated state of chemical imbalance.  It is a physician’s way to suggest and urge a person take prescriptions. (Stuart Shipko)

According to data obtained from IMS Health, the number of children 0-5 on psychiatric drugs has increased 42% since 2009 In 2012, there were 1,085,410 children aged 0-5 on psychiatric drugs, which is the highest the number has been in the last decade.   (CCHR)

Let’s breakdown what ADHD is and is not.  My understanding is the ‘diagnosing’ of ADD skyrocketed when schools were being given funding if they had children who ‘had it.’ (Mary Miller)

 How do teachers qualify with ‘diagnosing’ children with ADHD.

What can parents do to stop a teacher insisting they drug their child?

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Lou Paget covers - SEX IN THE NEWS

Once a month I like to look at some of the more prominent sex stories in any media. I go from Glamour magazine articles - adult star James Deen's awareness of what adult films are for and that the actors are more professional than many think, the things a $200,000 matchmaker will tell you NOT to do if you want to meet someone, dating concierge Laurie Davis of eflirtexpert.com suggestions.  My thoughts on Melissa Gorga's new book Love Italian Style that that spurred Tracie Egan Morrisey's Jezebel piece saying she Advocates Marital Rape.  To me reads in part like a Rules throwback and in part her relationship and what works for THEM. I compare the Glamour article "Why No One Is Getting their Period" and a previous HuffPost Live interview I did on The Pull-Out Generation. And I am suspicious it is 'advertorial' for Merck's 4 page color spread ad for Nexplanon that followed 15 very thin pages later.

The new program Micheal Russer and I are creating to refine, build and create intimacy and connection.

Dr. Madeleine Castellanos will be my guest Oct. 2nd @ hormones, medications and how to Preserve Our Sex Lives and Our Children's Sexual Future

 

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Valerie Ramsey - Author Creating What's Next Gracefully

Valerie Ramsey - Author of Creating What's Next Gracefully. Valerie began a mid-life corporate career at 53, started modeling at 63, and became a published author and speaker at 68.  This is a woman on a mission with a message.

We'll discuss how your relationship and sexuality are tied to all areas of your life and the changes one experiences in a long term marriage.  What part is Gracefully in life, sex? in attitude?  What part is the emotional connection and how to keep it.  What were some of the myths that people told her as a young bride.  Who are her role models and why? Sex toys and lubes.

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What Would A Penis Tell a Woman? - Madeleine M. Castellanos, M.D.

As a Certified Sex Educator I am ALWAYS looking for experts in various fields who can deliver great solid easily understandable information about sexuality...in ALL areas.  Dr. Madeleine Castellanos hits that mark.  Her initial medical speciality in Urology lead to her book, A Woman's Guide to Male Sexual Issues  - hence What Would A Penis Tell A Woman? title.  I reached out to Castellanos because I wanted an M.D. psychiatrist with a sexological background to give me a perspective after I read an Ohio State University paper.  The paper by Bonomi, saying they "identified patterns in Fifty Shades that reflect pervasive intimate partner violence." Not at all my perspective and I wanted a broader persective. 

So that was the start of our conversation that lead us to discuss how she started looking for sex information for her patients, fantasy sex, Kink, trends, how stress wipes out our sex lives, Pull-Out Generation HuffPost Live segment I did today and lots more.

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Great Lover Behavior, Attitude and Techniques - Lou Paget shares from her seminars

This week I discussed GREAT LOVER Behavior, Attitudes and Techniques from my book, The Great Lover Playbook. After this week's casting of Dakota Johnson and Charlie Hunnam sparked more conversations @ Fifty Shades of Grey, in an upcoming show I will share How To Get The Most Out of Fifty Shades of Grey, in positions, in toys, in food, in ambience, in attitude, in music etc.

 

 

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Lou does Sex in the News, Great Hand Jobs, Miley Cyrus VMA, Fifty Shades

This is my week to talk about what I see in the news, what makes me crazy, great manual techniques women and men, info interchangable depending on your body.  Seduction meals.

Starting with a gf who is heading back into dating, last week's guest, Fiona Fine of Goddessconnections.com had some great advice, Date Like a Man.  FYI - Miley Cyrus wasn't twerking on the VMA stage, suggestive and activity that will get eyeballs on the screen which is what producers and advertisers want. Would Montana Judge Baugh have given the same sentence to a 52 yo man who raped his 14 granddaughter?  Me thinks NOT!!  

Starting October 1st, I will be doing a NEW, invitation only, live coaching Webinar 4 Weeks to Extraordinay Intimacy with Micheal Russer.  This will be a live coaching webinar for Couples and Singles who know they want extraordinary emotional, physical and spiritual intimacy.  Contact me at office@loupaget.com for consideration.

Myopic Vision Clouds Science.  I adore science and the scientific study of sexuality.  However I do see RED flags when a paper is released with only ONE side of a presentation, book or study. Amy Bonomi from Ohio State wrote a paper supporting their supposition that Fifty Shades of Grey Romanicizes Sexual Violence and Emotional Abuse of Women.  I call 'Double Crap' on their article.  Violence in any form is unacceptable, mental or physical.  However I call their Methodology into question.  To use less than 10% of the trilogy (124 pages of 1625), use a Methodology of 'consistency of interpretation", translation the lead author will tell the other two scholars what to think....they ignored and overlooked the that that this is a love story, millions of woman around the world as so not going to drawn to sexual violence as a tirn on.  That really insults women's intelligence.  They ignore that Anastasia is not an easily influenced young woman, that when ever there is disaster in the trilogy, Red Room, or sexual encounter it is Anastasia that has initiated it not Christian.  They make suppositions about Anasatasia's multiple fathers (could contribute to intimaacy compliaations) without really looking at her rock solid relationship with her stepfater.  That she is well aware of flighty female relationships based on her mother's behavior.  Please if you are going to use a book as an example look at the entire thing not less tahn 10%.

 

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Fiona Fine - Founder GoddessConnections.com

My guest is the entreprenuerial Fiona Fine who is the founder of two female-centric personal fact finding online magazines.

Howtoputthefunbackintodating.com

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                            WomenWhoRunIt.com

This is going to be so much FUN!!! 

Goddess Connections is home to two brands:

Our Editor-in-Chief, Fiona Fine is a self-glorified Goddess and Dating Expert in her early 50's. After a long, unfulfilling and unsatisfying relationship and years in the corporate world, she decided to put the pleasure back into her existence and to start living life purely on her own terms. She is the founder of Goddess Connections and started the movement: How To Put The Fun Back Into Dating where she helps women turn their dating lives around. She is also the Editor-In-Chief of Women Who Run It: Your Life - Your Love - Your Terms! a magazine that advocates for women like her; 'alpha' women who want to stop the frazzled time-sucking search for information and discover the fastest path to the money, career, health, relationships, even SEX of their dreams.

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SexSmartFilms.com Mark Schoen, Transthemovie.com

MARK SCHOEN PhD SEXSMARTFILMs.COM

I am thrilled to have my dear friend and colleague Dr. Mark Schoen of @SexSmartFilms.com on this week's #SexTalkWithLou.  As a top sex educator for over 30 years Mark has created one of the best go-to resources for sex education films.  His user friendly massive collection is used by educational professionals, therapists and Joe and Jane Q Public.  And I mean ALL types of films. We'll discuss What are the trends in sex education films?  Which country makes the best?  How are we doing here in the US?  What areas need more content?  Being politically correct what are some growing terms that need to be incorporated into our sexual lexicon:, #genderquerying, #genderneutral. 

Then I want to cover his incredible documentary TRANS, about transgender stories that will touch your heart and give anyone more insight into the journey of transgender individuals.

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So How Did YOU Get Into Selling Sex Toys to Soccer Moms??? - Karla Scott Director of Sales Eldorado Trading Company

Karla Scott, Director of Sales for Eldorado Trading Company will give us an insider's view of the world of selling sex toys to retailers across the country.  This will be a VERY fun conversation!!!!

Karla and I will talk about how she creates and tailors Eldorado's marketing of adult novelties to their national and international retailers. She is the boots on the ground AKA sales reconnaissance for her company.  

Given that Colorado based Eldorado is one the top US based distributors and has 15,000 SKUs and over 300 different vendors she has many options to help her retailers choose the best for their customers.

How does she answer, "What is the best vibe? What about this lube?"  Her answers lie in education and training, gathering the best products which is an Eldorado focus and training the sales staff so they have the best possible information BEFORE they talk to customers and don't learn in a trial by error fashion.  She brings her floral retailing skills into her sex toy world, translation - educate your staff first!!!  Good Business principles n'est ce-pas? 

What she sees the current market trends are.  Toys she wishes weren't available. How does she balance wearing 2 hats, one serving the manufacturer and the other the retailer, and much much more……

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Cheating and Boredom - Dr. Diana Wiley & Lou Paget

I'll start with Sex in The News, I mean reall could there be more???

Truly two of the most common and toughest sexual issue categories  - are 1) Cheating and 2) Boredom.    Pay attention while two seasoned sexaulity experts give their best ideas, solutions and possible options for people and couples to use and consider.

Let's start with how does a couple define cheating?  There are as many definitions as there are people.  Dr. Diana will discuss what possible cognitive (why you thought to do it) behavioral (practical behaviors to change/adjust/add) techniques she might use to address this. That couples who remain together typically fall into one of 3 categories and wich category they are in determines if they will be satisfied afterwards or jsut stick it out.   Hardly what one wants to do for the rest of their life

Boredom - so who's responsible for entertaining you????  Really if you are an adult it is about taking a proactive position on all things.  Children wait adults act. 

Then Diana and I will talk about what I saw that was new at the Adult Novelty Manufacturers Expo 10 days ago.  I look at the trends and what's new.

 

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Sexy Politics, Sexy Manners and Book of the Week

Seriously there is sooo much about sex and its impact in the news from Elliott Spitzer, 'trust me with your purse strings' plea to Rick Perry's attack on Senator Wendy Davis to Weiner's run for NYC mayor.  Truly for the return to politics dudes I see it as a run for money.  I see that Spitzer, Sanford and Weiner have run out of money and having been on the political money train want back on.  Know why they're being listened to? Their wives.  George Carlin's has a great monologue that addresses their political double speak hypocrisy. 

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Great day for Love and Caring in the US and California

Anyone who knows me knows I am passionate about people being free to love who they want and having that choice be respected. 

 

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Sex in The News - Lou's comments on Who Got it Right? Wrong?

Sex in the News- the last two weeks has had a range of hugely impactful reports and articles on sexuality in the media. I will be reviewing a number of them and calling certain writers and attitudes on the proverbial carpet.  

Micheal Douplas's I got oral cancer from cunnilingus, Oh really????  There is an association of HPV (Human Papilloma Virus) 16 with oral and throat cancers however to say it is the cause is in my opinion irresponsible.  The impact of women now not getting the type of sexual pleasure that for many women is the best is just one impact.  Then I'll look at the anthropological source of HPV 16. 

Recent article HPV vaccine cut infection by half in ten girls.  GRRRRR!!!!!   Seriously people look at the science and the research and follow the money.   I use Dr. Diane Harper's presentation at the 4th International Public Conference on Vaccinations, October 4th, 2009.    www.nvic.org  Dr. Harper was one the lead researchers for Merck's development of Gardasil and Glaxosmith Kline's Cervarix and she states there is NOTHING that is as effective at preventing cervical cancer than screening...translation Pap smears.  I discuss plenty more on this subject. 

The high end adult novelty lawsuit between Standard Innovation AKA as We-Vibe and Lelo.  The international Trade Commission ruled in favor of Standard Innovation.  What this means for more and better products on the market. 

The collapse of Exodus International, the ex-gay organization that claimed through Reparative Therapy people could be 'cured' of homosexuality.   Exodus' former head Alan Chambers who reached out last year to Lisa Ling who has a show on OWN wanting to formally apologize to all those who had been adversely affected by Exodus' practices.   My guest last month Dr. Winston Wilde titled his show, Reparative therapy is neither. 

Sen. Lisa Murkowski (R-Alaska) changes her view on same sex marriage influenced by a lesbian couple who have adopted four children. 

The blustering flustering men who are once again trying to raise their social media profile by challenging aspects of the abortion law.  The 20 week abortion ban passes the House.  Baby's masturbate in utero rationalization.

Sam Taylor-Johnson is hired as the director for "Fifty Shades of Grey"

 

 

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Megan Andelloux CSE, Creator of Study Sex College Tour

So you think you want to teach human sexuality?  Well then pay close attention as tonight my guest Megan Andelloux and I will share the inside track on how to make a living lecturing worldwide about healthy human sexuality.

Megan's philosophy is sexuality can be spoken about and following the Hippocartic Oath answer the questions about sex and above all "Do No Harm"

ohmegan.com, Creator of Study Sex College Tour.


Megan Andelloux is a nationally Certified Sexuality Educator (CSE) through The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists, an HIV educator and a Board Certified Sexologist through The American College of Sexologists.


Ms. Andelloux worked for nine years as a youth-focused sexuality educator in NY, RI, CT, and NJ before bringing her love for teaching at a locally run feminist sex-shop in Providence, RI. It was there that she began to notice adults did not have a space to ask questions and learn about sexuality. She also noticed adults hold many of the same questions teens do when it comes to sexual issues, and so she merged into working in the world of adult sexuality education.


Ms. Andelloux was named ” Vagina Warrior of the Year” from the Vagina Monologues for her work regarding sexual communication and fear reduction. She has been labeled by the Rhode Island press as “The Princess of Pleasure” and more recently, “The Sex Ed Warrior Queen” as she is on a mission to promote sexual health, wellness, and communication.

Ms. Andelloux lectures internationally at colleges, universities, medical schools, and sexuality institutions on issues surrounding sexual pleasure, sexual health, politics, and erotic justice. To date, she has taught at over three dozen higher educational institutions, including medical schools and Ivy league universities such as Brown, Yale, and Harvard.

She is listed on Wikipedia as an American Feminist, Writer and Sex Educator and on the Erotic Heritage Museum’s Hall of Heros, which showcases icons of sexual revolution.

She has worked full-time in the field of Sexual Education for more than twelve years.


 

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DId the Movie Sessions tell us the Truth about Sexual Surrogacy? Shai Rotem

As we approach Memorial Day I was reflecting on the service our military gives this country.  I've also coordinated panels on sexuality and disability for the Coalition to Support America's Heroes (CSAH).  I've seen how severly injured soldiers  injuries impact these service personnel's sex lives, marriages and family relationships.  Given how powerful the media's messages are I looked at, "So what recent messages has the film industry delivered about sexuality - and top on my list to look at was Sessions.  Based on Cheryl Cohen Greene's professional surrpgate partnership with severly disabled poet Mark O'Brien. 

Did Sessions get it right?  So I asked a colleague and Clinical Sexual Surrogate to give me the insider's view on this powerful and often misinterpreted part of sex therapy.  And believe you me I learned plenty myself. 

Shai Rotem is the founder of The Center for Professional Clinical Surrogate Therapy. He is an experienced certified Surrogate-Partner since 1997. He is also a member, trainer, and supervisor in the SPTO (Surrogate Partner Therapy Organization)– the professional organization for experts in the field of SPT. In his work, he helps clients with vast variety of physical, mental, emotional, sexual, and spiritual issues.   www.surrogatetherapy.net

Shai was born and raised in Israel. In 2006 he moved to Los Angeles, CA where he works as a Surrogate-Partner, lecturer, teacher, and healer. He gives lectures and presentations about SPT (Surrogate Partner Therapy), and healthy sexuality on a regular basis in graduate schools and clinics in the Los Angeles area.

Shai has a BA degree in Psychology, he is certified in the Energy Healing arts, Reflexology, and meditation techniques.

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Lissa Rankin M.D. Mind Over Medicine - Scientific Proof That You Can Heal Yourself

Lissa Rankin M.D. has a huge mission - Helping to Heal the Healers - sharing Mind Over Medicine - Scientific Proof We Can Heal Ourselves' ground breaking collection of information and scientific facts to the people we go to for health care - M.D.s, physicians, all healthcare providers.  Putting back into their minds and hands information that will make them be the healers they went into healthcare to become.    

People….Love your loved ones? Love life?  Love yourself? Then people READ this book it will put you in the driver's seat about keeping you and your loved ones alive longer and in better shape because of things the medical world never told you.  In Mind Over Medicine; Scientific Proof That You Can Heal Yourself Lissa Rankin M.D. delivers clear, oftimes LOL user-friendly science based explanations and suggestions on how you can have the body and health you want, how to heal yourself and help your loved ones do the same.

In Mind Over Medicine Dr. Lissa adresses the power we have by our thoughts to Heal Ourselves.  Why we have to Change Health Care, How Friendship Can save your life, Go to Church live 14 Years Longer, Lonliness is the killer.  Why Your Inner Pilot Light is SO important.


Knowing what she does lucky me!!!! Dr. Lissa is my guest tonight May 15th 6-7 PM PDT.   I CANNOT wait to pick her brilliant mind on how I can now and in the future when needed heal myself and download her information to help my loved ones and others. Call in live during the show 877-864-4869 or http://toginet.com/chat/.

Lissarankin.com

Mindovermedicinebook.com

7/11/13

 

 

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What Inspires Me in my Field of Sexuality

Each Monday morning, Rick Davis who coordinates my social media, look at what is my weekly Theme.  This week was Seeking / Searching.  Then I started looking at all the people and events in my field that have Inspired Me because people often ask me "What inspired you to work in sexuality?'  Answer - the people who told me how my work had impacted them and their relationships.

I am so so inspired by heart and passion.  By people who don't hear "No, Can't Happen, Who do You Think You Are?" when their heart's voice says Keep going you're right.  I am inspired by my colleagues who keep me accountable.  My peers who have come form very disparate backgrounds to create new ground breaking toys and products that have contributed to people's sexual connection and pleasure.  Tom Stewart - Sportsheets, Tiffany York of MyFixsation, Etahn Imboden of Jimmy Jane, Jackie Brandwynne of Very Private Inc, Tony Levine of Big Teaze Toys, Bruce and melody Murison of Standard Innovatons taht created the first couple's vibe the We-Vibe.    From a former marine to industrial designer to consumer products guru to electrical engineer none of these people started in the area of sex enhancing products yet their inspirations were tied to them not finding what they wanted and needed. 

I am very inspired by people who have the strength to standup even when their beliefs aren't popular.  Greg Paulk who rescinded his Ex-gay Reparative Therapy stance, Matt Moore who shared he knows it's impossible to change yourself and still struggles with blending his faith and not acting on his homosexual attractions, Brain McNaught the Godfather of Gay Sensitivity who is known worldwide for his Corporate Diversity Trainings.  Dr. David Satcher who would not back down on his Surgeon-General's Call to Action on Sexuality under the sexaully repressive politics of the Bush Jr White House. 

In closing I am inspired by the Elizabeth Smart's John Hopkins presentation this week was so powerfully highlighted that comprehensive sexual education is needed.  This is one very strong, brave young woman. 
http://fox13now.com/2013/05/06/video-elizabeth-smart-speaks-at-johns-hopkins-university/ 

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Reparative Therapy is Neither - Dr. Winston Wilde

An article earlier this week about the former poster boy for Reparative Therapy Ex-gay Leader John Paulk reversing his stand on this therapy spurred me to ask my terrific colleague Dr. Winston Wilde to shine a light on Reparative Therapy.  Especially in light of a California Bill SB-1172 Sexual Orientation Change efforts.  This bill was signed by Gov. Brown September 30, 2012 and point 865.1 specifically states it is not to be administered to anyone under 18.  

Then the day of this interview Matt Moore referred to as the ex-gay Christian Blogger was exposed to have been on the gay dating site Grindr.

Dr. Wilde feels it s important for our professional peers to create a policy statement about this form of therapy.  What is it?  Does it actually work?  What is the science behind it?  Are trained professionals doing this?  Why wouldn't Michelle Bachmann and her husband talk about their use of it during her Presidential campaign?

WInston WIlde - 1999 Doctor of Human Sexuality: Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, San Francisco. 1997 Masters in Clinical Psychology: Antioch University Los Angeles. 1995 Bachelors in Liberal Arts: Antioch University Los Angeles.   Specialization - Sexual, Erotic and Gender Minorities.

Wilde has lectured on diverse topics as Love, Evolutionary Sexology, Male Circumcision, and Psychotherapy with Erotic Minority Persons across America and in Canada, Mexico, Puerto Rico, Cuba, India and Nepal.

Co-founder The Desert Center for Sexuality Awareness, Rancho Mirage CA.  desertsexcenter.com

www.winstonwilde.com  docwilde@verizon.net

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Dove Ad - what can people with disabilities teach us about our perception of our body's image?

The recent Dove ad creative showing women's preception of their appeal and attractiveness had me decide to replay this segment with Dr. Linda Mona.  The DOVE ad women had no obvious body impairments yet described themselves as less appealing than a total stranger would.

So what can we learn from people with disabilities and body image?

Dr.Linda Mona is a cherished colleague in our mutual field of sexual health.  Truly she is my go-to person about sexuality and disability.  From panels and hands on breakout sessions for severly injured OEF and OIF soldiers to Disability Conferences to "LInda what's new ?' Linda is my go-to girl.

So let's jump into what is the definition of a disability: can be a range of things from someone with a bad hip, to chronic arthritis issues, sight impairments, respiratory issues, mobility issues they are all a part of reduced physical function HOWEVER that in no way means that one needs to have reduced sexual function. 

Advocating for the sexual rights and expression of people with disabilities has been the primary focus of Dr. Linda R. Mona’s career. She has worked in a variety of professional settings addressing the need for a deeper understanding of the sexual lives of people with disabilities. Specifically, she has assisted with increasing appropriate educational and clinical services available to people with disabilities seeking knowledge about ways of enhancing their sexual satisfaction.

Infusing notions about disability into diversity education and training has also been one of Dr. Mona's career passions. She has worked on challenging traditional medical notions of disability and reframing this life experience from a multicultural lens to further understand the unique experience people with disabilities bring to any work and social context. Much of Dr. Mona’s work has been fueled by her own personal experience living with a disability and her understanding of the positive effects and the societal obstacles faced living with this diverse life experience.  In fact, Dr. Mona was selected as one of the 2009 Working Mother's of the Year by Working Mother Magazine---an award not typically granted to a working mother with a disability. She attributes this accomplishment much to the changing views of disability as a rich diverse life experience.

Linda R. Mona Ph.D. is a state of California Licensed Clinical Psychologist.

(310) 714-6221     info@drlindamona.com

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Dr. Trina Read - Founder VivaXO.com, Author

Two world class sexuality experts dish on male sexuality and trends.  Join me and my guest Dr. Trina Read this Wednesday, April 17th and you'll get to be a fly on the wall and if you've got your own questions call in/online and you'll get our undivided attention. 

Dr. Trina and I will look at male sexuality? Specifically to debunk some of the hyths about it:
(1)     The myths of impotence
(2)     The revolution in testosterone therapy
(3)     Why men fake it
(4)     Why men have an undeserved reputation for being selfish and uncaring in bed

...and THAT is just the start Gentle Listeners.

 

BIO Dr. Trina Read

Media expert, best selling author, sex coach, international speaker, spokeswoman, newspaper and magazine columnist, Sexologist, Dr. Trina Read’s mission is to show couples how to have fun and meaningful sex.    Dr. Trina devotes her writing time to her numerous websites, many women’s magazines, and syndicated mommy sex blog. Her books include, Till Sex Do Us Part: Make Your Married Sex Irresistible; as well as, Everything You Wanted to Know About Sex: Volumes I, II & III.

Founder VivaXO.com & Eat Drink Love, CBC Relationship Columnist,
http://VivaXO.com
Follow me on Twitter at: http://twitter.com/DrTrinaRead

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Laura Antoniou author The Killer Wore Leather

About The Killer Wore Leather:
Cormac “Mack” Steel, Mr Global Leather, has been murdered at this year’s BDSM/fetish weekend in New York City. He was found dead on the floor of his Manhattan suite wearing only a pair of frilly, yellow panties. And the suspects who could have killed him number in the thousands. Detective Rebecca Feldblum has worked murder cases before, but none quite so exotic as this one. Suddenly trapped in a world of leather and latex, masters and slaves, pups and trainers, Rebecca has only a weekend to find who killed Mack Steel—and although she doesn’t know it, she’ll discover more about the kink underworld, and herself, than she could ever anticipate. A deliciously tongue-in-cheek murder mystery, The Killer Wore Leather is a strapping invitation for readers to join Rebecca as she explores the private, erotic world of BDSM personalities and leather kinks in search of a murderer. With biting humor and keen insight, popular erotica author Laura Antoniou creates the kinkiest game of Clue worth playing.


About the Author:
Laura Antoniou authored the well-known Marketplace series of erotic novels. She has also edited the groundbreaking Leatherwomen anthologies, and writes scholarly work on BDSM. In 2011, Antoniou won the Lifetime Achievement Award from the National Leather Association. Her work has been translated into Spanish, German, Hebrew, Japanese and Korean. With over 20 years of experience writing, teaching, and speaking about kinky sex communities, Antoniou has sold over 600,000 books and counting. She resides in Queens, New York.“The Killer Wore Leather comes just in the nick of time for me.

Fifty Shades of Grey stopped being funny around page 34, so thank you, Laura, for giving me something that’s supposed to make me laugh!”
—Kate Kingsley, author of Red

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Your Wish is Your Command for Your Sex Life - Lou Paget

Tonight I'm going to use a powerful Success Series that I have used with terrific results in my life and use it as a template for increasing the Success in People's Sex lives.  I know only too well that a person's behavior is often the same in the boardroom as in the bedroom. The simplicity of these ideas and suggestions belies how powerfully they can cahnge your life, attract the love and success you want and do so more quickly than you ccould imagine. 

 

 

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Get Valentine's Ready!!! Brian Alexander - The Chemistry Between Us

Every wondered why one person does it for you and another doesn't?  Why you chose your Valentines?  The Chemistry Between Us attempts to do what no other book has done: present a grand unified theory of how love, sex, and human social bonding is created in our brains, how that creation drives our behavior, and to place these mechanisms into social, historical and even political contexts.

Provocative, opinionated, and written with humor and insight for the lay reader, The Chemistry Between Us offers answers to some of the most tumultuous, joyous, heart-breaking, questions every one of us faces at some time in our lives, and asks us to consider the broader social impact of molecular events in our heads.

What makes two people, strangers before meeting for the first time, conclude that they not only would like to, but must, spend the rest of their lives together? What could happen inside the brain of a sober, responsible, married man, a federal judge, to enable him to carry a loaded pistol while buying drugs for his stripper paramour? How could male violence relate to the brain chemistry of love? Why would a young woman, happily committed to her boyfriend, flirt with a jerk?

What can the story of a young adoptee tell us about our current culture of parenting? What drives a mother to behave like a mother, and what does that have to do with human romantic love? How are grown men like babies? (Besides the whole whiny-with-the-flu thing.) What can we learn from rats that refuse to have sex unless they're wearing leather? What's the relationship between sexual fetish and love, and drug addiction and love?

What is gender? Do brains have a gender? How can some people be attracted to others of the same sex? What causes a person with all the body parts of a man to insist he's a woman? Or a bodily female person to insist she's a man?

Readers on the left and the right, people of all faiths, sexual orientations, and relationship status, are bound to find elements of The Chemistry Between Us that they'll object to fiercely, only to read on and find something to applaud. At the very least, readers will be fascinated, and likely to find themselves asking some serious, and some not-so-serious, questions about the world we're making and how that world might be affecting the very nature of human relationships.

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Charlie Glickman PhD & Aislinn Emirzian Co-Authors - The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure

We have tons of material, research and awareness about the Female G Spot and finally the Male G Spot is getting its spotlight.  The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure - finally a plain speaking, solid sex education book for Prostate Pleasure.  As two top Sex Educators, Charlie Glickman PhD and Aislinn Emirzian have put together an easy reading book on a subject that is equal parts prostate health and powerful sexual pleasure. Charlie, Aislinn and I will debunk myths, (You are not secretly gay if you like this type of pleasure!!!) and answer the most commonly asked 'wrong' questions and deliver for women and men the potential of Prostate Pleasure.   

Men are more aware of their need for a PSA test yet few are aware that Prostate health and pleasure are closely aligned.  The Bend Over Boyfriend video series opened a new awareness that straight men enjoy penetrative play with their female partners. I know the sales numbers of hetero strap-on products with just one company were astronomical!!!

Charlie can be found at http://www.charlieglickman.com and Aislinn , www.aislinnemirzian.com.

Charlie Glickman PhD has been a sexuality educator for over twenty years. He teaches workshops on a wide range of topics, including sex-positivity, sex & shame, gender & masculinity, sexual orientation, communities of erotic affiliation, and many sexual practices such as prostate play, anal sex, pegging, sex toys, BDSM, and polyamory. Charlie is certified as a sexuality educator by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists and he regularly presents at conferences and community events, offers trainings on sexuality for medical professionals, therapists, and clergy.

Charlie is available for speaking engagements, in-service trainings, and workshops. You can find more information about him on his website.

Aislinn Emirzian is a workshop instructor and sex coach based in San  Francisco. She first became a sex educator at Smith College, and later worked with sex positive adult toy stores like Oh My  Sensuality Shop in Massachusetts and Good Vibrations in California. Over the years, she has taught workshops on a wide range   of topics, but prostate  pleasure is her favorite! Find her at www.aislinnemirzian.com.

 

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Charlie Glickman & Aislinn Emirzian                        1.16.2013

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1)   What was your impetus to write this book?

2)   As fellow sex educators I know only too well this is an area of men’s anatomy that is little studied and understood.    Are there any researchers  focusing on this?  Physiologically – pelvic hypogastric vs pudendal nerve stim?   What did Beverly Whipple have to add?

3)    I really like the conversational tone of your book,  whose idea was that and why?

4)   How did you pitch this to Cleis Press your publisher?  Was it Felice Newman? 

5)   You did two different surveys of men and their partners who enjoyed this type of play.  How did you find them?  

6)   This is a type of play that all sexual identities can enjoy should they venture to do so.    What % of people would you guess have explored this?   I use the women with male partners and anal sex as a starting point for this question.  Many women have done it once and once only as it was done badly.  Most people get very poor. Translation porn shove in one shove into the other visuals that are flat out wrong.   Glad to read the , Stop if he says stop. 

7)   Hence kudos to you as I think this will be the “go-to” handbook for couples and men who want to learn about this and their bodies.

8)   Page 14 the survey participants anecdotal descriptions sounds almost exactly like woman about G spot stim.    Great comparison list on page 45.

9)   I Can you outline a Beginner Program for someone, couples curious and totally new

10)                   Who do you feel the books demos will be? 

11)                   I was at ANME last week and specifically looked for male Prostate toys, new and convertible from female toys. 

12)                   I know sales of strap-ons has gone through the ceiling in the last year.  Part may be 50 Shades but I think the Bend Over Boyfriend videos were the first water over the dam so to speak.   Your thoughts?

13)                    I know some men discovered this masturbating and or with a vibe yet were leery to share with a female partner, I loved your  Chapter 1 FAQs

14)                    Any surprises while you were researching this book?

15)                    Your diagrams particularly about the various styles of finger stim were terrific.  The stroke not poke did make me laugh

16)                    Rachel Maines is such a gem as an historical sexologist, LOVED the analogous prostate massage to the vulvar massages of the 1920s can you explain more about this.

17)                    The health aspects are in my mind going to be huge.  Whether we look at the energetic release or the stagnation to men being more comfortable with their bodies this is a pivotal area of sexual knowledge.

18)                   Anything else at the moment….

 

 

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Chris Kraft Ph.D - Trends in the Sex Therapy and College Worlds

My guest is a long time colleague and friend.  Dr. Chris Kraft and I are currently on the Leadership Council for Program in Human Sexuality at U of Minnesota.   Chris is a licensed psychologist and AASECT certified sex therapist specially trained to achieve pragmatic and solution-oriented results for couples and individuals. His goal is to improve each person's happiness as it relates to their sexual intimacy, expression and identity.

Dr. Kraft specializes in the evaluation and treatment of all sexual and gender conditions: low sexual desire, erection, orgasm and arousal difficulties, genital pain conditions, sexual addiction and compulsivity, internet pornography, marital infidelity, sexual orientation, cross dressing, gender concerns, and other unique fetishes and sexual attractions.

Dr. Kraft is the co director of clinical services and instructor at the Sexual Behaviors Consultation Unit in the Department of Psychiatry at the Johns Hopkins School of Medicine.  Dr. Kraft is also a part-time Lecturer in the Psychological and Brain Sciences Department at the Johns Hopkins University where he teaches two human sexuality courses.

So we're going to look at what he sees from a therapist's standpoint is new in sexual compulsivity, internet pornography treatment...can it be 'cured'? Any new fetishes becoming more common place?  And his unique position of teaching 2 different classes in Human Sexuality.

 

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Carol Queen PhD, Sexuality Educator, Activist, Author and Entrepreneur

I am so excited to welcome a star peer in our field - Carol Queen.  Her creds follow and they are impressive but it is her personality that is even better.  A mentor, a teacher, a researcher and a museum founder all in the arena of sexuality. 

An award-winning author, activist and sex educator with a PhD in sexology, Dr. Carol Queen has been a part of Good Vibrations since 1990. She currently serves as both Staff Sexologist and Curator of the Antique Vibrator Museum at Good Vibrations in San Francisco (www.goodvibes.com). She represents Good Vibes to the public and the press. Honored for her body of work and her immeasurable contributions to sexual wellness and awareness, she received the inaugural AVN “O” Award for Outstanding Achievement in 2009.

Queen is the author or editor of eleven books about sex, including Exhibitionism for the Shy, Real Live Nude Girl: Chronicles of Sex-Positive Culture, and PoMoSexuals. She is the co-founder and executive director of The Center for Sex & Culture (www.sexandculture.org) and frequently speaks at colleges and universities about sexuality. Visit her at www.carolqueen.com; follow her on Twitter at @CarolQueen.

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Megan Bishop-Scott author Inside The Wall - ashramite with Parmahansa Nithyananda

Given we are approaching Ascension discussion of Megan's book and life story is ideal timing - this is a real person's quest that can guide others who are seeking their purpose and their enlightenment.

"This book Inside the Wall will be more useful to seekers on the path than Autobiography of a Yogi because it is so down-to-earth; Megan honestly, authentically presents her seeking." Paramahansa Nithyananda *

I have always loved lives that follow their passion and Megan Bishop-Scott's life is a testament to following heart and intuition. I have watched Megan follow her spiritual quest worldwide.  There is a reason her yogi, Paramahansa Nithyananda, gave her the testimonial above for her book.    Tonight we will hear her life's and her family's history of soul mates from two completely separate worlds, in her case privileged western Canadian blonde and a homeless black vet who meet and fall in love on Venice Beach. Her passion for writing and stories has fueled her life, from Canada to US to India and beyond.  Her book Inside The Wall details her life, with John Warner Scott, their son Esah.  Seeking has guided her entire life and lead her to her next level of enlightenment as a ashramite in Nithyananda's India based ashram.

*In 2012, Swami Nithyananda was named by Watkins' Mind Body Spirit magazine as one of the 100 (#88) Most Spiritually Influential Living People in the world.

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Emily Morse - Relationship Expert & Co-host on Bravo's Miss Advised

Welcome to my internet living room!!!  You get to be a fly on the wall while I get to dish about all things sexual with Emily Morse, Relationship Expert & Co-host on Bravo's Miss Advised.   This is my idea of real fun!!!!  We'll talk about what we see are trends in sexual behaviors, our wackiest questions, folowing my Heroes show last week who are hers.  What had her chose this field?  What has she learned about herself on Miss Advised.  No subject will be off limits so if you have a burning question dail our call in digits, 877-864-4869

Emily Morse is a sex & relationship expert, author, talk show host & Bravo TV star. She is the host of Sex With Emily, a radio show and podcast about sex, relationships and everything in between.  Listen to the show on demand at SexWithEmily.com , through itunes or Friday nights on  Sirius/XM Satellite radio.

As a “sexpert,” Emily is known for her non-judgmental advice, accessibility and humor.

Emily launched the Sex with Emily radio show and podcast in 2005 before becoming a Bravo television personality on the hit show Miss Advised.  She is a Kegel Camp counselor (check out her iPhone App: Kegel Camp) and is the author of Hot Sex: Over 200 Things You Can Try Tonight.  Emily earns her doctorate in Human Sexuality next year.

Emily Morse - Relationship Expert & Co-host on Bravo's Miss Advised

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My Heroes and Motivators

Last week Amy Byer who handles my social media asked me to consider writing out a list of who my heroes are.   That had my brain start sorting and shifting on who is a hero and how does one become someone's hero?  As I started my list it surprised me what the themes were.  Then today one the English speaking world's top motivational speakers Zig Zigler died and for anyone who is atsudent of motivation and personal development he is a godfather to the field.  It had me look at why did I chose particular people.   Lord knows here in California we have ALL kinds of motvational speakers and yet I have found many of them do not walk their talk.  I'll talk about those that have supported my career and my life's journey.  

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Winston Wilde DHS LMFT, The Go-To Kink Therapist

Lou welcomes Winston Wilde, Doctorate of Human Sexuality and Licensed Marriage Family Therapist.  Dr. Wilde is Beverly Hills and Palm Springs based seasoned prominent sex therapist who specializes in erotic minorities.  Translation, he is the go-to therapist for kinky people, modern couples and polyfolk. Those into BDSM/kink and polyamory are all growing communities.  There are very different nuances and understandings that a truly kink friendly therapist has to have.  We'll discuss those and more, lots more. www.winstonwilde.com Phone - 323-692-9120

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SexNerdSandra.com - Sandra Daughtery

My guest this evening is Sandra Daugherty.  http://sexnerdsandra.com A passionate sex educator based in Los Angeles, her irreverent humor and quirky love for details has given rise to her moniker, Sex Nerd Sandra.  So how does one become a sex nerd and what does a sex nerd do???  We'll cover all those details and how Sandra started in the field. 

Just as there is a range of sexual appetites and desires there is a growing variety and range of sex educators devoloping to match those varying populations.

Sandra is the resident sex blogger on Chris Hardwick’s Nerdist.com. She also works & teaches at The Pleasure Chest in Los Angeles and coaches individuals.    She has been seen on, “Keeping Up with the Kardashians,” and the pilot episode of “The Wanda Sykes Show.” She has also lent a voice to both Playboy and Spice Radio.

Often, Sandra is asked, “Why sex education?” to which she shrugs, “I can’t help it.” Since the first time 9-year-old little Sandra told a friend how babies were made (with anatomically-sound understanding), she’s had a lifelong love affair with this adorable aspect of the human condition.    Sandra believes human sexuality should be a distinct field of study as it is a distinct & important aspect of our lives. And she, for one is happy, quite happy, to study it.

 

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Dr. Beverly Whipple and the Science of Orgasms

Dr. Whipple is one of the leading researchers and authors on female sexual pleasure, function and orgasm.  Co-author of The G Spot, Science of Orgasm and The Orgasm Answer Book.  Lou and Beverly cover her naming the G spot,the wide variety of female orgasms that she wanted to validate, orgasms with spinal cord injury made possible by the vagus nerve that bypasses the spinal column, the complete lack of any published studies to support the G Shot marketed to unsuspecting women. 

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Sex Addiction Real or Made up? Dr. Diana Wiley

RE-RUN of 4.25.12 

Dr. Diana Wiley and I will discuss Sex Addiction - Real or Made Up?  This is hugely controversial topic for those of us in the field of sex education and therapy.  Dr. Wiley is affiliated with the SEATTLE INSTITUTE for SEX THERAPY, EDUCATION and RESEARCH, www.sextx.com.  Diana's a board certified sex therapist, a clinical sexologist and a Marriage and Family Therapist for 25 years.    www.dianawiley.com

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Sex and Our Imperfect Bodies-Dr. Linda Mona We've all got one....Sex with our imperfect bodies and their disabilities.

Dr.Linda Mona is a cherished colleague in our mutual field of sexual health.  Truly she is my go-to person about sexuality and disability.  From panels and hands on breakout sessions for severly injured OEF and OIF soldiers to Disability Conferences to "LInda what's new ?' Linda is my go-to girl.

So let's jump into what is the definition of a disability: can be a range of things from someone with a bad hip, to chronic arthritis issues, sight impairments, respiratory issues, mobility issues they are all a part of reduced physical function HOWEVER that in no way means that one need to have reduced sexual function. 

Advocating for the sexual rights and expression of people with disabilities has been the primary focus of Dr. Linda R. Mona’s career. She has worked in a variety of professional settings addressing the need for a deeper understanding of the sexual lives of people with disabilities. Specifically, she has assisted with increasing appropriate educational and clinical services available to people with disabilities seeking knowledge about ways of enhancing their sexual satisfaction.

Infusing notions about disability into diversity education and training has also been one of Dr. Mona's career passions. She has worked on challenging traditional medical notions of disability and reframing this life experience from a multicultural lens to further understand the unique experience people with disabilities bring to any work and social context. Much of Dr. Mona’s work has been fueled by her own personal experience living with a disability and her understanding of the positive effects and the societal obstacles faced living with this diverse life experience.  In fact, Dr. Mona was selected as one of the 2009 Working Mother's of the Year by Working Mother Magazine---an award not typically granted to a working mother with a disability. She attributes this accomplishment much to the changing views of disability as a rich diverse life experience.

Linda R. Mona Ph.D. is a state of California Licensed Clinical Psychologist.

(310) 714-6221     info@drlindamona.com



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True Aphrodisiacal Food, Recipes and food that gets things going in the Bedroom - Dr. Linda de Villers author Simple Sexy Food

The author of Fifty Shades of Grey is a true foodie, she has to be to create so many of Christian and Anastasia's narratives around their eating given the detail she goes into about the food and beverages.  Christian has a thing about food and Anastasia loves to create for her man in the kitchen.  So I am rerunning Dr. Linda De Villers, author of Simple, Sexy Food a recipe book based on truly aphrodisiacal foods AKA the science behind foods that help us get turned on.  Who knows mabe her Moroccan Honey Chicken on pg 184 could be the new Engagement Chicken Recipe.

Dr. Linda De Villers is the author of an awesome new book, Simple Sexy Food. Take a serious Foodie who also happens to be a PhD Sex Therapist and you've got Simple Sexy Foods.  Blending science and cuisine information she playfully and deliciously takes cooking into the bedroom and sex into the kitchen. I mean there is a reason they call meals the seduction dinner.  Apparently even Dracula had one. FYI most people will not be intimate with someone they won't dine with.  So listen up and you'll hear Simple Sexy ways that can make meal time and afterwards more fun and more passion.  As a serious foodie myself and I look forward to trying pg 129, Vichyssoise with Caviar. Yummmmm!!!

www.loveskills.com

De Villers Linda - lindadevillersphd@yahoo.com

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Sexuality When There Are Chronic Health Issues...Get Creative.

Wednesday October 10th, 2012 - REPEAT of Wednesday 30th of November 2011
Los Angeles based Gretchen Kubacky, Psy.D., Health Psychologist, and I will discuss what we as sexuality educators can do for the growing population of those with a chronic health condition. How we can best guide with information and validate their experiences and give this population options, ideas and recommendations so they can be sexual on THEIR terms. We will discuss erasing the idea that if you have a physical health issue it renders you asexual. Couldn’t be further from the truth. www.DrGretchenKubacky.com, 310-625-6083
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Olga Cohen, Founder InnerIntimates Vaginal Renewal Complex, Co-Founder Grohen Technologies

Olga Cohen went into full fledged menopause at the age of 43, as a new bride, complete with unpleasant mood swings and extreme hot flashes. She'd tried hormone replacement for ten years, but stopped after the bad press about the health complications associated with hormone replacement. She could not believe how, almost immediately, so many symptoms returned. Worse, she had a terrible new symptom: painful vaginal dryness.

 She started researching solutions for the problem, and she could not find anything in the market that offered long term results. Luckily, after decades in the cosmetics industry as the owner of a manufacturing company, she had knowledge and access to many natural ingredients.  After having a conversation with Dr. Leo Galland, an intergraded medical doctor, she tried using GLA several times a week -- squeezing the oil directly into the vagina. It took about a month and then she started noticing a difference. The results were dramatic: a complete end to the dryness. When she visited her gynecologist, she could not believe it. Her gynecologist could actually see the difference.

 Olga knew that if she were having these problems, then there must be other women experiencing the same symptoms.  And her gynecologist confirmed that acute dryness was one of the most common complaints she heard in her practice. They agreed it was vital to bring this treatment to other women. 

Since then, Olga has come to realize that painful vaginal dryness is not just caused by menopause, but can be the result of a wide variety of physical conditions. Dryness is also experienced by women who have just given birth, who have had a hysterectomy, or who are suffering from cancer or autoimmune disease.

WITH THE HELP OF DR. MIRIAM GREENE AND DR. LEO GALLAND, Grohen Technologies has developed InnerIntimates™ Vaginal Renewal Complex. Vaginal Renewal Complex offers a safe and easy solution for vaginal dryness. As Olga says, " It’s my little secret that is helping countless women look, feel, and live better."

Follow Olga on facebook @olgassecret.

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Jodi Scott - Co-founder Sierra Sage Herbs Quaility Handcrafted Organic Salves for your Special Parts

I met Jodi and sisiter Jen at the International Lingerie Show in Las Vegas September 11th.  At any show I look for what's new that I can guide people to try.  Good, non-toxic, sex products are rare especailly in the crowded market segment of lubricants and body lotions.  Well much to my delight I walked into the Sierra Sage corner booth and discovered a treat!!!!  Earth friendly, Never Tested on Animals, 100% Organic, product line for sex created by three women with heart and intention.  Jodi has a Master's in Health Psychology, her sister Jen is a midwife and herbalist.  These ladies along with t heir mother and husbands are building the Burt's Bees in the arena of intimacy, sexuality enhancing products.  www.sierrasageherbs.com, info@sierrasageherbs.com.  

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Brain Alexander Author The Chemistry Between Us

The Chemistry Between Us attempts to do what no other book has done: present a grand unified theory of how love, sex, and human social bonding is created in our brains, how that creation drives our behavior, and to place these mechanisms into social, historical and even political contexts.

Provocative, opinionated, and written with humor and insight for the lay reader, The Chemistry Between Us offers answers to some of the most tumultuous, joyous, heart-breaking, questions every one of us faces at some time in our lives, and asks us to consider the broader social impact of molecular events in our heads.

What makes two people, strangers before meeting for the first time, conclude that they not only would like to, but must, spend the rest of their lives together? What could happen inside the brain of a sober, responsible, married man, a federal judge, to enable him to carry a loaded pistol while buying drugs for his stripper paramour? How could male violence relate to the brain chemistry of love? Why would a young woman, happily committed to her boyfriend, flirt with a jerk?

What can the story of a young adoptee tell us about our current culture of parenting? What drives a mother to behave like a mother, and what does that have to do with human romantic love? How are grown men like babies? (Besides the whole whiny-with-the-flu thing.) What can we learn from rats that refuse to have sex unless they're wearing leather? What's the relationship between sexual fetish and love, and drug addiction and love?

What is gender? Do brains have a gender? How can some people be attracted to others of the same sex? What causes a person with all the body parts of a man to insist he's a woman? Or a bodily female person to insist she's a man?

Readers on the left and the right, people of all faiths, sexual orientations, and relationship status, are bound to find elements of The Chemistry Between Us that they'll object to fiercely, only to read on and find something to applaud. At the very least, readers will be fascinated, and likely to find themselves asking some serious, and some not-so-serious, questions about the world we're making and how that world might be affecting the very nature of human relationships.

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Tiffany York - Fixsation - New Couples Vibe

My guest Tiffany York Founder & CEO of Fixsation did what any great entrepreneur does, she saw a need in the couples' intimacy market and took immedaite action to create a solution.  She wanted a non-insertive vibe made with all the right componet parts that couples could use together during intercourse. Nothing to interrupt the connection, hands free no remotes just the two of them.  Voila - The FIXSATION was born.  Tiffany's dilemma was to address couple's reaching orgasm together.  Not from a performance place but from an enjoyment place.  Busy parents and working couples have their regular love making eclipsed by 'duites'.  The Fixsation is a UBS charged 1/2 inch thick ovoid disc shaped vibe, take your ring and index finger and make a slightly opn circle. Held in place by a very hot lace strap panty all you need to decide is which if the 5 vibe settings and the panty size.  You are your partner can fixate on the sensation with him on top, you on top or any position that brings you together.   

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Judy Schriener - Affairs - Storm Cloud or Silver Lining?

Her show OFF THE RECORD last week about long term affairs had me reach out to host Judy Schriener.  I hear about affairs and foolong around every day and sometimes they surface in a relationship and sometimes they don't.  As an award winning business journalist, ever curious about how people think, she did research on why men cheat.  She found that the reason men cheat isn't always a simple 1-2-3 formula of opportunity.  She found there are as many reasons as there are individuals.  "I'm entitled to it I make all the maney." So are there benefits to affairs?  Does one fling lead to another?  Do partners leave their realtionships and marriages?  We'll discuss female and male cheating, same thing or different?  Does who makes the money impact cheating..I think so.  Are there winners?  Ashley Madison as a cultural touch stone. Judy's anecdotes will both entertain and educate you on the business world affair.

Judy Schriener, Lou Paget, http://rockstarradionetwork.com/shows/offtherecord, affairs, cheaters, sex, married affairs, Ashley Madison, infidelity, married lover, secret lovers, sex cheats

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Michelle Cameron - Gold Medal Inspirations

The Olympics epitomizes excellence in ideals in attitudes and in bodies. My guest Michele Cameron was Gold Medalist 1988 Seoul Synchronized Pairs and originally I wanted an insider's view on "So how much sex does go on at the Olympic Village?"  Michelle's comment she didn't know she swam on the last day so was so focused she never even saw other athletes.  Then I realized I wanted Michelle to share her story and how that Olympic passion and burn has fueled and been transformed into the drive behind creating her company Gold Medal Inspirations and her children's foundation, "A Gift of Love."  We'll talk about the ups and downs and how the darkest often is just before a break through.    Married to fellow Olympian Al Coulter and mom of four terrific children.  www.goldmedalinspirations.com 

Gold medals, Olympics, Olympic Gold, Michelle Cameron, Lou Paget, inspiration, sex and olympics,  passion, Syncho swimming, 
Canadian Gold Medalist, overcoming adversity, sex

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The Sex of Fifty Shades AKA Positions and BDSM/KINK 101

The Sexual Positions of Fifty Shades - the best and how to make them yours. Anastaia and Christian are very active and you can get some juicy ideas from them.  Then my guest and colleague Emily Prior of the Center for Positive Sex will discuss the real Kink, BDSM lifestyle. 50 Shades got some things right and others not.  BDSM/KINK 101 FYI Ana and Christian never had a true 'scene', they played.  We'll discuss best resources, ideas, and techniques to get your kinky sex set and on its way for erotic power play.  www.positivesexuality.org

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Fifty Shades of Lou AKA My Top 50 from 50 Shades.

The cultural impact of this trilogy has just started to surface.  Movie, product lines, music CDs.   In essence it is a love story, Harlequin Romance meets kinky sex.  Honestly that doesn't give you the range of nuanced and in depth material EL James has packed into her books.  I mean let's be serious I know the world of sexuality and I write books.  This was a LOL highly enjoyable read for me, and one almost didn't do.  I thought 'Oh I can avoid reading it, nope couldn't happen.  I have two projects and I need to KNOW what's in these books.  Devotees expect it.   What vanilla can learn from kink.  What the BDSM world really is like.  Toys etc.

Sportssheets.com  -  my recommended go-to for vanilla bondage is their S&M line. 

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Sex Toys

Christian Grey

Love story

harlequin romance

Lou Paget

 

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Carol Allen - Vedic Astrologer www.loveisinthestars.com

How does astrology help people find/keep love?
What can they learn about why they are single?
1.       timing – there are seasons of love and seasons of loneliness – and they can be predicted
2.       compatibility – that magical “wow” feeling you want with someone (this may be great, but the person may be a bad partner – see the next one)
3.       relationship capacity – the ability to be a good partner – this may be missing, in SPITE of amazing compatibility (and we’ve all been there!)
4.       “late bloomers in love” – half of the population isn’t successful at partnering until they’re in their LATE thirties and beyond… and this is SUCH A RELIEF to people and encourages them to NOT quit!
5.       “single archetypes” revealed by the stars that – once understood and addressed can be OVERCOME

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Ellen Dolgen Shmirshky - the pursuit of hormone happiness

Ellen Dolgen  8.1.12 - Shmirshky - the pursuit of Hormone Happiness

FINALLY a book that delivers THE TALK about peri-menopause, menopause and all things associated with it.  Ellen Dolgen is that investigative girlfriend who fearlessly and methodically sorted through the confusing morass of information about this most natural of female transitions.  This information is delivered by a woman who is so methodical and meticulous about every aspect of her life she even sorts and organizes all her drawers. You'll find the carefully organized information chapters are so user friendly, with easy to understand definitions, that this will become your go-to bible for all things about your Shmirishky...your vagina in transition.  She has read the books, ALL the books, the studies, she has visited many, many physicians, the endocrinologists, and researched the sites and blogs.  While researching she then asked every woman she knew, who would talk about her peri-menopausal and menopausal experiences.  This revolutionary information is delivered in a go-to-girlfriend style whether it is explaining the difference between Bio-Identical vs Natural vs Synthetic hormones or how to cope with your emotional roller coaster,  Ellen's hilarious delivery will have you laughing while you are learning. 


Ellen Dolgen
HRT
Menopause
Women's Health Initiative
Shmirshky



genConnect
The Three Tomatoes
Red Hot Mamas
Vibrant Nation
Living Better at 50

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Brotherhood Retreats Claes Lilja

Imagine taking a retreat that has the potential to change your entire life.  Claes Lilja of International Brotherhood Retreats does just that for men who are HIV+.  Blending his background of life coaching, guided mediation training, Enneagram expertise Claes structures a program in the Poconos region so these men can experience their own transformations in mind, body and soul. 

 

Facebook: Bro Therhood

Twitter http://twitter.com/PozRetreat

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Megan Bishop Scott INSIDE THE WALL Following your Passion

I have always loved lives that follow their passion and Megan Bishop-Scott's life is a testament to following heart and intuition. Tonight we will hear her life's and her family's history of soul mates from two completely separate worlds, in her case privileged western Canadian blonde and a homeless black vet who meet on Venice Beach. Her passion for writing and stories has fueled her life, from Canada to US to India and beyond.  Her book Inside The Wall details her life, with John Warner Scott, their son Esah. Existence has guided her entire life and lead her to her next level of enlightment as a ashramite

Paramahansa Nithyanada, Megan Bishop-Scott, Inside the Wall, Life is a giant classroom, ashrams, meditation, homeless, Kriya Yoga, Paramahansa Yogananda, Avatar, Rasta John, Lou Paget

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Diana Wiley Ph.D. - Singles and Dating

Looking at singles and dating –
 
·       Commitment issues…recognizing patterns in relationships…being scared…inappropriate partners…
·       Women pursuing men…what women need to pay attention to (posture, eye-contact, etc.), chemistry, need vs want, etc.
·       What do men really want?  Yes, they want sex, but many also want to enhance the emotional relationship…Studies show that the odds of a man being happy in a relationship increased by a factor of three if he snuggled up regularly!
·       Passive aggression – a relationship spoiler – the roots of passive aggressive behavior, solutions for the partner of  a passive aggressive man, etc.

 

drdianawiley.com, loupaget.com, sex and dating, online dating, what do men want?, online sex, Kinsey study, relationship patterns, sexual chemistry, sex therapist, sex and love

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How Bright is Your Future in Sex? Betsy Crane, Ph.D.

INTRO:   How Bright is Your Future in Sex?
 
Betsy Crane Ph.D., Professor and former Director of Human Sexuality Graduate Program at Widener University, PA will discuss the explosive growth of people seeking graduate degrees in the field of sexuality.  One of only two nationally accredited institutions, In the last five years the Widener Program has grown from 30 students to 100 in fall of 2012.  Who are these students and what are their career paths.  What are they focused on and what knew bodies of research are they creating?  What drives them to pursue this field.  Medical schools aren't training doctors about human sexuality so these students may hold a key to better sexual health programs in institutions. 

Questions

1) What had Dr. Crane go into this field?

2) I am often asked where do I go and what should I take to be marketable? 

3) What cultural behaviors are being studied by your graduates?  Anal sex for women?  Transgender?

4) I have two studies I'd love to see conducted:   a) on the sensitivity of the inside of men's ears realtive to it being an androgenic receptor site (hair growth as they age) and correlation for some men it is a straight line stim to an erection versus not the same for women and, b) study of heavy pubic hair pattern and higher libidos in women.

5) Are there new areas that need to studied?  You moved from the Director position to a greater teaching responsibilities.  Is that because you have some pet projects you'd like to support or usher through?  

6) Who is the ideal candidate for Widener's HSS grad program?  

7) Are they recruited on campus or do rgey have to create their pown career path once launched? 

8) Mark Schoen shared with me the explosion of this grad program and the caliber of students applying. Why might that be?

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Patti Britton, Co-founder Sex Coach University Wed. 9:00PM, EST

Patti Britton,Ph.D., MPH is a nationally board certified clinical sexologist and former President of AASECT the largest certifying group for the sexual health and therapy professionals.  She'll share highlights from last week's national conference in Austin. Our field is exploding as more people realize the importance of our sexual health as a crucial part of our over all health.  Sex isn't just penises and vaginas and orgasms.  Look at aasect.org to see career ideas and professionals in your area.

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Becoming and Entrepreneurial Sexologist

Becoming and Entrepreneurial Sexologist AKA How to have Your Brains Make You Money.  This is an often requested recording of my 2010 Society for the Study of Sexuality-Western Region  Symposium. I share my Entrepreneurial Tips and Lessons that have helped my create a worldwide business in the area of sexuality Eduction. AND these lessons apply to all areas of business.  Before choosing to focus on sexuality my area of expertise was Manners, Etiquette and Deportment and believe me good manners are an essential business tool. 

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Monogamy - Do You, Don't You? Whose definition do you use?

A recent paper on monogamy by a biomathematician at U of Tennessee had me look at monogamy from a number of viewpoints.  Who benefits more Women? Men? Children?   Is there a monogamy conspiracy?    What is the supposed source of monogamy?  How many definitions of monogamy are there? What does evolution / science have to say?  Polyamorists? Open relationships?   Tara Raucci Robinson, my former assistant and one of the most fearless women I know when it comes to dealing with relationships, will discuss All Things Monogamy.

Tara Raucci Robinson
monogamy
polyamory
cheating
adultery
Sergey Gavrilets
U of Tennessee
coupling
Lou Paget
monogamous couples

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Herpes Sex Ed 101 - Getting Sexually Savvy with dr. Gary Richwald

Gary Richwald, MD, MPH Dr. Richwald is a communicable disease specialist and clinical virologist. For twelve years from 1989 to 2000, he served as the Director of the Los Angeles County STD Program, the largest provider of sexual health and disease-related services in the United States. He is currently a consultant to the American Social Health Association in the area of viral diseases and Medical Advisor for the LA and Orange County HELP (HSV and HPV support) groups. Dr. Richwald has served as a CDC consultant in STDs, co-chair of the AMA Consensus Development Group on External Genital Warts and HPV infection, Chair, California STD Control Association, and has provided expert testimony to federal and the State of California legislative committees. He is the author of a number of publications in the area of STD diagnosis and treatment, HIV/STD prevention, human papillomavirus and herpes simplex virus infections, adult immunizations, resistant bacterial infections, evaluation of contraceptive methods, and the impact of immigration policy on communicable diseases.

 

1) What do people still not know about sexually transmitted Herpes?

2)  There are many types of Herpes which types do humans need to know about?  

3)  The impacts on how people feel about themselves after the have been diagnosed

4) What are the best search terms someone looking online to be tested for Herpes / STDs should use?

5)  I entered free herpes testing  - californiaherpes.com 
 
6)  Does Herpes lead to other STDs?

7)  How does herpes impact sexual function? 

8)  Does someone with herpes have to date / be sexual only with other people who have Herpes?

9)  What are the biggest issues the people in the Herpes Support groups deal with?

10) How does repressive Herpes therapy work?

11) What is the impact for women who want to get pregnant?  If they have Herpes / their partner has herpes? 

12) You mentioned that with each support group meeting you hear a comment or a question that you've never heard. Can you share some of those and help our listeners understand better?

13) Should everyone be tested and is there a best / better test?

14) Best ways to tell a new partner you have herpes?

15) Like HIV anonymous testing is there the same for Herpes?

16)  What are the legal ramifications of knowingly giving someone Herpes?

Herpes, genital herpes, STDs, Sex tests, Gray Richwald, Lou Paget,

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Stories from the Real World - Re-Entering the dating world - Di Paget

5.16.12

Dede Paget

Stories from the Real World - re-entering the dating world - Anecdotal Examples

Rather than just say"Do x, try y I want to give people concrete examples of what are great behaviors you need to put on your radar to ease you into a new social life and the next part of your life.                        
When relationships end one goes through a mourning period and then at some point one lifts their head and looks at" Okay I want to get back out in the dating world.

1) How important do you think the 'THE LIST" is?  What needs to be on it?  What doesn't?    Draft two lists one about them and one about you. Importance of cleanliness!!!

2) What are the mistakes you have watched your girlfriends and male friends make when looking for a partner. 
Maria - anger
Diane - weight and inappropriate attachment
Hanging out with angry other women
Making it be all about them
Working too hard - I can do it all - message of I don't need anyone
I'll pay for myself - need to create a space for a partner to show up

3)  Do you think people's 'pickers' get better with age or do they keep choosing the same person/

4)  Do they need a vibrational tune-up?  You know have them looking for what they want NOT what they don't want.
After menopause For some women the person they fall in love with is another woman and that stuns them

5)  Importance of presentation - Dating doctors,  Should you wax? no bruised fruit

6)  What are the most important behaviors to look for?   Did you ever ignore warning signs?   I sure did.

7)  What is the best gift someone could give you?  Why?

8) What are the different issues a woman deals with when dating a man is 50 + and how to handle these issues?  ED  libido loss, stress, Kendra describes having sex with a guy on viagra like being with a battering ram and NOT in a good way.   Your body has changed may need more stimulation / lubricant.  You don't use it you'll lose it  

This is about communication !!  


9)  Heard a great way to have a man who watches porn keep himself connected to his partner and that is to fantasize about her, or use memories of her so when you orgasm the reward circuitry in your brain downloads about her and not the image on the screen. 


10)  Protection is key when dating.

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Lori Buckley, Ph.D., Is your sex life damaging your relationship or is your relationship hurting your sex life?

Chicken or the Egg??? Is your sex life damaging your relationship or is your relationship hurting your sex life?  Dr. Lori Buckley (www.drloribuckley.com) of the Center for Relationship, Marriage & Sex Therapy and I will look at the two main sources of sex and intimacy issues.  What we see are the best ways for an individual or a couple to untangle their issues and have the love life and sex life they want and deserve.  We both know that when people hear what others are dealing with it invariably validates, reduces their shame or stress about that issue and has them then see how others are put in the power position to create solutions that work for them as individuals. 

G Spot Found  - Ostrzenski
http://www.kxly.com/health/G-spot-found-Now-maybe-we-should-lose-it/-/101030/11811088/-/x7jknw/-/index.html
http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1743-6109.2012.02668.x/abstract -
http://articles.latimes.com/2012/apr/25/health/la-he-g-spot-20120425
http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-504763_162-57420949-10391704/scientist-claims-discovery-of-g-spot-structure-other-experts-unconvinced/

Sex Diaries Project - what I like about this is it speaks to our Chicken and The Egg conundrum that we have with sex being a problem or the relationship is a problem.  Rather this addresses that there are soooo many other shades of gray ( not the book  :-}}) that are relationship and sexual realities.
http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2012/01/27/the-sex-diaries-project-what-1-500-bedroom-diaries-can-teach-us-about-sex.html


We could also talk about Michael Metz and Barry McCarthy and their concept of 'Good Enough" sex.


Make-up sexlike cocaine - Huffington Post
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/emma-gray/make-up-sex-is-like-cocaine-addiction-clinical-psychologist-seth-meyers-psychology-today_b_1500331.html?ref=women&ir=Women

Lori Buckley

couples sex therapy

G Spot

Sex Diaries Project

Good enough sex

Lou Paget

Makeup sex

 

 

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Dr. Ron Levine - Do Jews have Better Sex?

Tonight as I have a major speaking event I will rerun my conversation of a year ago April 27/2011 with Dr. Ron Levine.  Dr. Levine is a practicing clinical psychologist in Van Nuys California and an ordained Rabbi.  We will be discussing how faith based philosophies are more aligned with healthy sexual education than most people understand.  What the Song of Songs tells us.  That our sexuality is a blessed gift from God.  The myth that if you give children age appropriate sex education they'll go out and do it. 

 

torah, sex education, Song of Songs, congugal rights, creation stories, sex in the image of god, Dr. Ron Levine, sex therapy, body education, sexual desire, Lou Paget

 

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Sex Addiction - Real or Made up? Diana Wiley PhD

Dr. Diana Wiley and I will discuss Sex Addiction - Real or Made Up?  This is hugely controversial topic for those of us in the field of sex education and therapy.  Dr. Wiley is affiliated with the SEATTLE INSTITUTE for SEX THERAPY, EDUCATION and RESEARCH, www.sextx.com.  Diana's a board certified sex therapist, a clinical sexologist and a Marriage and Family Therapist for 25 years. 
www.dianawiley.com

 

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Larry Garland President/CEO Eldorado Trading Company

Larry Garland President/CEO Eldorado

http://www.facebook.com/EldoradoTradingCompany

Larry Garland is the President/CEO of Eldorado Trading Company one the adult industry's top distributors which lives by the motto, Only the Best.  Think Neiman Marcus of adult distributors.  So he has to have his entrepreneurial eyes looking in both directions, at what the consumers are trending to buy and the supply direction of what the manufacturers are developing. We'll talk about Fifty Shades of Grey on niche product purchases, Who he feels makes the best toys, Any restrictions he may have on shipping into countries and in the US - Comstock Laws.   How he chooses a new product line or manufacturer.  The growth of the Big Beautiful Women category and much much more.   www.eldorado.net

adult novelties
sex toy parties
sex toys
vibes
sex education
Eldorado Trading Company
Lubricants
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Pamela McKee - Managing Partner Papaya Toys

Eco-conscious line of adult toys, www.papayatoys.com

Pamela McKee entered this world 6 years ago and has been an advocate of safer and better products.  A partner in Papaya Toys and representing the technologically advanced MojoWijo she walks her talk.  We will discuss the new trends she sees, the benefits for the consuming market, I mean who doesn't want a better sex toy?  We'll also talk about markets that are drastically underserved, those with chronic medical conditions, severely injured military personnel and those couples physically separated.  The main reason they are underserved and what we see as viable solutions ANYONE can put into place.

sex toys, adult novelties, teledildonics, vibrators, mojowijo.com, papayatoys.com,

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Dr. Linda de Villers Simple Sexy Foods

Guest Dr. Linda De Villers is the author of an awesome new book, Simple Sexy Foods. Blending science and cuisine information she playfully and deliciously takes cooking into the bedroom and sex into the kitchen. I mean there is a reason they call meals the seduction dinner.  Apparently even Dracula had one. FYI most people will not be intimate with someone they won't dine with.  So listen up and you'll hear Simple Sexy ways to use Food create more fun and more passion.

Dr. Linda DeVillers -Licensed CA Psychologist, #Psy 8518; AASECT Certified Diplomate of Sex Therapy; AASECT Certified Supervisor; AASECT Certified Sex Educator. Adjunct Professor, Pepperdine University Graduate School of Education and Psychology

 

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Deciphering Sexuality Studies in the Media - AKA How to Unravel What they are Saying and be a Shrewd Consumer of Sexual Health Information.

Deciphering Sexuality Studies in the Media  - AKA How to Unravel What they are Saying and be a Shrewd Consumer of Sexual Health Information.

One of the #1 reasons women are online is health information.  My guest will be S. Diane Paget-Dellio BN, RN  Good Clinical Practice (GCP) Auditor.  As an auditor for Clinical Trials she has seen behind the curtain and can help guide you to finding and getting better sexual health information for you and your family.   Why pharmaceuticals can no longer use a placebo in a clinical trial.  Short answer - there is nothing to gauge its efficacy it means nothing.  So you read an article and find the study online, we'll help with that too, then we'll tell  what to look for to follow the money and we'll give you auditor's eyes and ears to determine if the study really helps you.    

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psychcentral.com
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Bringing Back The Connection AKA Parents Being Partners Again

This show is for all the moms and dads who want to inject some newness, some passion, some woo hoo factor. My guest Ally Loprete walks in the shoes of mom, wife, blending 2 careers and family so she'll be my 'expert' parent asking: How do other Parents Do IT? Where can we get new ideas? Is spontaneous sex EVEN possible now?  What does science say about maintaining sexual connection? Single parents and sex? Pregnancy sex, why did Jessica Simpson say those orgasms are sooo amazing?

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Bonnie Gayle co-creator Sex Butter

Entrepreneur Bonnie Gayle co-creator of Sex Butter, a unique organic sexual enhancement product. This is one of the best enhancement products I have seen and had my peri menopausal field researchers test in a long time. For women and men Sex Butter is made with  Coconut oil, shea butter, cocoa butter, jojoba oil and grape seed, paraben-free and hormone-free.  Sex Butter isn't just for sensual play, solo or partnered it is also beneficial for your general skin's health. wwww.sexbutter.net sexbutter@gmail.com Bonnie Gayle

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Winston Wilde DHS - Kink Therapist

Lou welcomes Winston Wilde, Doctorate of Human Sexuality and Licensed Marriage Family Therapist.  Dr. Wilde is a Beverly Hills and Palm Springs seasoned prominent sex therapist who specializes in erotic minorities.  Translation, he is the go-to therapist for kinky people, modern couples and polyfolk. Those into BDSM/kink and polyamory are all growing communities.  There are very different nuances and understandings that a truly kink friendly therapist has to have. We'll discuss those and more, lots more. www.winstonwilde.com P:323-692-9120

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Jenny Tse Icon Brands Executive

Lou welcomes adult toy industry marketing executive Jenny Tse of Icon Brands to discuss the inside story on all that titillates our sensory fancy.  Straight from the expert's mouth Jenny and I will discuss this industry's trends, impact on people's sexual function and perceptions of their sexual selves.  Which is the best vibe?  Do straight men really like anal toys? Who comes up with these ideas and how many make it into production?  Where Jenny sees career opportunities for anyone wanting to market intimate adult toys.  jenny@iconbrands.com

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Dr. Gretchen Kubacky 11.30.11

Tonight Los Angeles based Gretchen Kubacky, Psy.D., Health Psychologist, and I will discuss what we as sexuality educators can do for the growing population of those with a chronic health condition. How we can best guide with information and validate their experiences and give this population options, ideas and recommendations so they can be sexual on THEIR terms. We will discuss erasing the idea that if you have a physical health issue it renders you asexual. Couldn't be further from the truth. www.DrGretchenKubacky.com, 310-625-6083

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Dr. Diana Wiley

 

Seattle, WA based sex therapist Diana Wiley Ph.D. is one of my favorite guests. She will share her 25 + years of Best Ideas, Techniques and Practices couples can use to stay connected, begin a connection or rejuvenate a connection. An expert on AGING & SEXUALITY, Dr. Diana highlights that lust, laughter, and love need to be kept as priorities in order to improve longevity and enhance quality of life as we evolve and mature. Her comment is "Any age is a great age to strip off the sexual "shoulds" - remembering that sex is play, not work!" Now shall we add people are sexual throughout their lives and this population wants information tailor made to their needs? Pregnancy isn't an issue, flexibility is so they want best options after hip/knee replacement. Diana is the co-host of Progressive Radio Network's Wiley & Sage, Sex Love and Laughter. http://www.progressiveradionetwork.com/dr-diana-wiley-billy-sage. www.drdianawiley.com (206) 448-5359


www.drdianawiley.com, www.loupaget.co, Diana Wiley, Lou Paget, Sexuality & Aging, sex therapy, sex education, oral sex, manual sex, http://www.progressiveradionetwork.com/dr-diana-wiley-billy-sage/

 

 

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Stephen Braveman, Male adults Molested as Children

Monterey, CA based LMFT and D.S.T., Stephen Braveman is a multi-talented sexuality therapist who specializes in a wide variety of psychological and sexual issues. We will start with the heavy stuff and discuss his work with men who are Adults Molested as a Child and his part in Oprah's final show featuring men who had been sexually abused. We'll talk about the healing and hope in the PSA "You are Not Alone" from the Monterey Rape Crisis Center. the Film, Boyhood Shadows is a poweful testament to these men finally sharing their stories and working to heal. Stephen also specializes in gender and transgender issues and he presents on the modalities of Sacred Sexuality Tantra connection.


He is the co-author of CPR for Your Sex Life which is like having a sex therapist's reference manual in your hands. Divided into the C's, P's and R's it is A Guide and Workbook for Couples To Breathe Life into a Dead, Dying or Dull Sex Life. www.bravemantherapy.com, stephen@bravemantherapy.com, 831-375-7553

 

 

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"High10YourLife" Marylou Naccarato

MARYLOU NACCARATO     Sex Educator/Speaker/Life Coach             http://www.high10yourlife.com

 “Many people live with disabilities & limitations. Learn how to raise your level of Sexability.”  Marylou Naccarato

Imagine being an IRS Revenue Agent for 23 years and discovering your passion is practical Sex Education for people of short stature and with disabilities. That describes Marylou Naccarato.  Marylou lives by the credo, "There are those who wait for life to happen and those who make it happen."  As a professional woman, mother, and short person Marylou believes everyone is disabled or differently-abled in one way or another.  It is a matter of whether your condition is internal or external and regardless we all can have loving intimacy.


As a Sex Educator, Life Coach, and Speaker Marylou Naccarato draws from her formal education and life experiences as a person of short stature. Standing at a statuesque 3’11” she developed a “High10 Your Life” approach to managing life’s magical, yet often unpredictable journey. 

Marylou conducts explicit educational and entertaining sex and relationship workshops, for all people who want to heighten their sensuality and intimacy. She shares creative techniques, sex positions, and a variety of adult toys that are suited to your range of mobility.

She holds private and group sessions for teens, adult individuals and/or couples. Her goal is to bring forth issues openly regarding sensuality and intimacy for people with short stature and those living with other disabilities with-out shame or embarrassment. She also conducts informational sexuality seminars for professional clinicians in the field of Sexology and Rehabilitation therapy who work with clients that are disabled. She is a member of AASECT. She has a BA degree in Sociology, and is currently working towards a graduate degree in Human Sexuality.

She personally believes that everyone is disabled or “differently-abled” in one way or another. “It’s all a matter of degree, and whether your condition is internally or externally noticeable” she states. If you are living with high blood pressure, diabetes, or even if a few pounds overweight, there is a possibility that your sex life will be affected. Medical technology today affords us the benefit of living longer and healthier lives.

Many live with the survival scars of an accident or injury, cancer, heart attack, stroke, or other health conditions. Normal progression of aging, medication, recovering from a surgery, declining physical stamina, stress, and your overall mental health are all conditions that can limit the quality of your everyday SEX life unless you/and or your partner make a conscious decision to raise your level of “Sexability.”

Marylou emphasizes that you can have a very passionate and erotic experience without intercourse or orgasm either alone or with your partner. Remove the performance anxiety quotient and allow yourself the opportunity to dialogue and explore with your partner about what is pleasurable. Ultimately, the real sensual experience is the emotional connection and intimate bonding that you create with each other.

Marylou is also a Sex and Disability blogger on Betty Dodson’s site www.dodsonandross.com

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Sexual Shaman Ray Stubbs

Kenneth Ray Stubbs Ph.D. celebrated author of sexuality and spirit and I will discuss his next level of teaching that of the Sexual Shaman.  Schooled in traditional religion and academics ray Stubbs has created a body of spiritual energy sexuality well respected in the field of sexual education and tantra.

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InFerility Forum host Phyllis Martin

Phyllis Martin my toginet colleague and host of Infertility Forum is my guest this evening.  Truly there can probably be no more heart breaking experience for couples and women than when they are unable to create that desired family.  Let's be honest baby-Making sex isn't very sexy at all!!!  So Phyllis and I will discuss how to maintain relationship sensual and sexual connection through this very common life event.  What she as a therapist recommends and what I as a sex educator suggest to couples dealing with infertility.

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Who is Susan Crain Bakos creator of The Orgasmic Loop?

WHO IS MY NEXT GUEST< SUSAN CRAIN BAKOS?

An outspoken champion of female (and male) sexual empowerment, I created SexyPrime to enhance your sex life-by giving you technique tips, reporting on the latest sex behavior and sex science research and sex trends from around the world, connecting with you intellectually through book (and occasionally art and movie) reviews and cultural commentary, and entertaining and arousing you with sex stories. I am a research sexologist, a sex educator, a magazine journalist--with credits from The Ladies Home Journal to Penthouse--the author of twenty books and a ghostwriter. Listening and talking to people about their most intimate erotic experiences comes easily to me, and I believe sex is intrinsic to a healthy and happy life. We express our core identities through our sexuality. I support and celebrate your choices freely made, whether you are straight, gay, bi, poly, monogamous or whatever-and I stand up for female sexuality at every age and stage of life. Ah, but I also love men.

As an aging Boomer, I want to be an example of sexual freedom, especially to my sister Cougars and younger women. I am the outrageous Auntie Mame (with the latest science of sex studies in her overnight bag along with the scarves and pearls and black lace-topped thigh high stockings) who gives her married sister a vibrator for Mother's Day and adores her young nieces. I am mentally preparing for my final persona, The Grande Dame of Sex.

I am most proud of the techniques I have created: The Orgasm Loop, a revolutionary no-fail orgasm technique for women (It really works!) and The Sex Wardrobe Basics, sex techniques inspired by and paired with wardrobe items like red shoes, a string of pearls, the white boyfriend shirt-and more. (It's a series in progress.) My original fellatio technique, The Basic Black Dress of Blow Jobs, was the first of the series.

 

 

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Rev., Dr. William Stayton Sex and Religion

Rev, Dr. William Stayton and I will be discussing the blending of the faith based attitudes with human sexual health.  As an ordained American Baptist clergy Bill Stayton has become an icon in the field of sexual health with his gentle spirit guided counselling to assist sexual health therapists and educators to better guide and deliver information into faith based communities. 

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Mou Ghose MA, MFT, Los Angeles Sex Therapy

Moushumi Ghose, MFT, and I will be discussing some of her 'Favorite Things", Open relationships, how she got into this work, how same sex relationships can enhance our sexuality, and has enhanced hers and what she sees most commonly with couples and dealing with sexuality within relationships, and how societal views affect and have affected all of the above.  Mou has a very diverse background blending a digital musical career with her psychotherapy training.  Her next passion to pursue is the writing of her first book, Marriage, Money and Porn.

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Petr Pacik, M.D., When Sex Seems Impossible.

My guest this evening is Peter Pacik, M.D. we will be discussing his book, When Sex Seems Impossible about vaginismus.  Dr. Pacik has been performing plastic surgery for over thirty years and is a recognized pioneer in helping patients overcome severe vaginismus. Vaginismus is a condition where women are unable to have intercourse without discomfort and in some cases it is  impossible. In 2010, he received FDA approval for his study using intravaginal injections of Botox together with progressive dilation under anesthesia to treat vaginismus.

Dr. Pacik and I met when I attended his SSSS - Society for Scientific Study of Sexuality, presentation in Henderson Nevada last year. Finally!!! I thought here is a treatment for these women that for years have ben told it is their heads, it is not it is in their pelvis.  As with all dyspareunia conditions, conditions where intercourse is painful or a woman has genital pain, this is a baffling and relationship destructive and prevetative condition that isn't very well understood. 

In his book, When Sex Seems Impossible; Stories of Vaginismus & How You Can Achieve Intimacy, Dr. Pacik describes case studies of woman and their experiences dealing with vaginismus.  The book's introduction says it all, Stories That Need to Be Told.  The reason is most physicians and even OB'GYNs have little to no awareness of how to treat much less understand if a patient presents with this condition.    The stories will touch your heart and stay with you.  So should you hear of a woman dealing with this you could be her angel and guide her to a physician who can actually help her.

 

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Dr. Linda Mona Expert on Sexuality and Disability

 

 

My guest tonight is Dr. Linda Mona, Licensed Clinical Psychologist who has advocated for the sexual rights and sexual expression of people with disabilities for over 15 years. 

Dr. Mona and I have done presentations for severely injured soldiers (female & male) on how to have them connect if single, reconnect if partnered and validate their sexual selves apart from their disability.

For anyone who may be dealing with, or knows someone who is, the unique sexuality issues associated with disability, PTSD, TBI, or med impacts this is your show.

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Dr. Beverly Whipple

Tonight we're going to talk all about Female Orgasms.  The research into them who decides the parameters for recognizing different orgasms, the 10 types women can have etc., etc. The reason I wrote my book The Big O: Orgasms How to Have Them Give Them and Keep Them Coming, was because of how many questions I knew people weren't getting answered about this type of pleasure.

My guest tonight, Dr. Beverly Whipple is one of the top researchers in the area of female sexual function and orgasms.  She co-authored the international best seller The G Spot, The Science of Orgasm and The Orgasm Answer Book. She is one of the most peer awarded and acknowledged Sex Educators in our field.  Dr. Whipple holds a PhD in Psychbiology and a Masters in Nursing and Masters in Counselling from Rutgers.

 

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June 22nd, 2011 - Leonard Rubinstein MD - Connection of Sexual Confidence and Cosmetic Surgery

My guest tonight will be Leonard Rubinstein MD we'll talk about the sexual and relationship health benefits of the anti-aging and cosmetic surgery techniques he has developed, and his Medical Tourism clinics.  His National Radio Show "Rejuvenate Yourself from the Inside Out"!  http://www.blogtalkradio.com/LARubinsteinMD Sunday 10 AM EST

 
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June 22nd Dr. Leonard Rubinstein -

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Tomorrow on http://toginet.com/shows/sextalkwithlou my guest will be Leonard Rubinstein MD we'll talk about the sexual and relationship health benefits of the anti-aging and cosmetic surgery techniques he has developed, and his Medical Tourism.  His National Radio Show "Rejuvenate Yourself from the Inside Out"!  http://www.blogtalkradio.com/LARubinsteinMD Sunday 10 AM EST
 

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6.1.11 Dr. Neil Cannon - Best Options for Toughest Clients

Tonight Dr. Neil Cannon and I will discuss current media articles and trends in sexual health.  Neil Cannon has a Doctorate  in Human Sexuality, a Master's in Public Health and a Post Graduate certification in Marriage, family Therapy as well as a Post Graduate Certification on GLBT, Gay, Lesbian, Bi-sexual & Transgender Family systems.   

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Tonights show

Supporting GLBT Youth Coming Out   - My guest tonight will be Al Killen-Harvey, a San Diego based LCSW who is a nationally recognized expert on supporting GLBT youth, their families, educators and health professionals in the coming out process.  What is being done, what should be done and how this process impacts all of us.  

If you have a question this is your chance to ask a nationally recognized expert for his input.  877-864-4869.

 

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Jacqueline Brandwynne on 4-13-11

My guest will be entrepreneur, expert in the arena of women's consumer product and creator of Very Private Intimate Moisture, Jacqueline Brandwynne.  Truly what I feel is one of the best lubricants for intimacy on the market. Our discussion will be part of what I call Vaginal Health 101.

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